How do I tell my girlfriend I'm gay?
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend that she was right to be worried and that I am actually gay? Long story short my girlfriend always had this 'feeling I was gay' because I've had sex with men and I've always denied it, I don't know maybe I was hidi...
A. 24 February 2023: Tell her the truth.
She deserves to know. And you deserve to be honest not only with her but with yourself.
If you keep lying to her you are not being fair.
If you want sex with men, go be single or date a guy. Don't string your GF along.... (read in full...)
How to repair a fractured friendship?
Q. Recently, I got into a big fight with one of my close friends. Needless to say, shamefully, I was the one at fault and became very over-emotional and angry with them at the time for reasons I could not comprehend while I was in an emotional state. ...
A. 22 February 2023: Good for you to accept that you need to work on yourself!
So many posters do not want to hear they need more help than we can give.
You were willing to listen, take on board what you heard, and accept that this is in your hands.
I hope... (read in full...)
How do I change feelings of abandonment and not ruin my marriage
Q. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice on how to change feelings of abandonment. For background, I was neglected and abused as a child and never felt like I belonged with my family. Both of my parents disowned their families as they became a...
A. 21 February 2023: Get some help in dealing with your childhood trauma.
Pushing your husband away are you trying to sabotage your life? At some point, your husband COULD say, enough of this. And it would be on you.
" Even after all this time I still think of t... (read in full...)
Need advice I am at my wits end
Q. Hi me and my ex split up 3 year ago we have a son together I also have a son from a previous relationship who he brought up as his own as his real father does not bother with him he looks after them while I work 18 hours a week over 3 days he says ...
A. 21 February 2023: Maybe you need to look into having someone else watch your kids.
I don't think your oldest being mad at you is about you as much as it is about his own feelings, a divorce or split can be rough on kids. They don't always know how to express ... (read in full...)
How to repair a fractured friendship?
Q. Recently, I got into a big fight with one of my close friends. Needless to say, shamefully, I was the one at fault and became very over-emotional and angry with them at the time for reasons I could not comprehend while I was in an emotional state. ...
A. 21 February 2023: Maybe you need to focus on HOW you can STOP hurting people when you are "over-emotional and angry" instead of giving empty platitudes.
Because this wasn't a one-off. You have done this to said friend before and they forgave you several times un... (read in full...)
Friend let me down & never apologized!
Q. My friend has really let me down and she doesn’t seem at all sorry. My daughter is on half term and she went to stay with her dad for the week, who lives 6 hours away. Anytime my daughter leaves, I miss her so much, I always organize things t...
A. 19 February 2023: Your daughter going back to her dad's is not your friend's issue, it is yours.
While I REALLY get the "empty nester" feelings, you need to accept that this is part of life, your daughter is growing up, and learning to be independent, and SO shoul... (read in full...)
I feel like I have the most pathetic dating life
Q. It’s bittersweet when I post on here bc 1. I know it’s bc I made an error 2. My agony aunts and uncles are so good at advising me. I’ve been posting on here since 2011 once in a while. So thank you for your kind words!! Here’s another one of my da...
A. 18 February 2023: EDIT..
I hate when I get auto corrected on an answer..
"Secondly, talking for a month does equate to knowing someone well enough to have GREAT sex."
Should of course have been :
"Secondly, talking for a month does NOT equate to knowing... (read in full...)
What if he tells others we had sex?
Q. I want my friend to fuck me, he usually comes to me and ask for us to fuck but I'm scared he might tell other's that we did it. I just don't want others to know. I'm a virgin but when he come around I try to hold myself but deeply I just want him ...
A. 17 February 2023: Girl, you can't trust him to
1. ENSURE there is consent
2. Keep his mouth shut.
He will brag if you have sex. You will either end up pregnant with a horrid reputation or JUST have a horrid reputation.
Maybe you need not be alone w... (read in full...)
An affair thats remembered
Q. why cant i forget an affair my husband had 20 years ago we are happy now but its alwas in the back of my mind...
A. 17 February 2023: Because it was a betrayal.
We can forgive, forgetting is not an option. It happened. You know it, HE knows it.
What you DO with that knowledge is up to you.
You CHOSE to stay. You CHOSE to forgive.
When it pops into your head what do you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have the most pathetic dating life
Q. It’s bittersweet when I post on here bc 1. I know it’s bc I made an error 2. My agony aunts and uncles are so good at advising me. I’ve been posting on here since 2011 once in a while. So thank you for your kind words!! Here’s another one of my da...
A. 15 February 2023: I have to ask do you like this guy or not?
That is the main part.
Secondly, talking for a month does equate to knowing someone well enough to have GREAT sex. And, sometimes first-time sex with someone is AWKWARD and not that great - mostly b... (read in full...)
Unfriendly neighbor says hello after a year of avoiding me?
Q. The woman living next to me is the most confusing human I've encountered! When she moved in, I made sure to say hello, in passing, but she ignored me. Another time, I went to wave as she drove up her driveway, and she turned her head in the oppo...
A. 14 February 2023: It seems a lot of people lost their social skills with Covid, seriously.
It's not as common as it used to be to know your neighbors.
Who she chose to snub you for a year, who knows? Maybe life was bad for her (for whatever reason) and now ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my family about my biological son
Q. When I was in my early twenties, I got my girlfriend pregnant. We were not ready to be parents, especially since I was going to therapy for anger issues and my girlfriend just made one year sober. My girlfriend's sister and husband adopted ...
A. 12 February 2023: I think you should tell them.
Maybe your son would like to meet them and they would like to meet him. And NOT have that meeting be at your funeral....
It seems like you and your ex made the RIGHT choice in letting your son get adopted by two p... (read in full...)
Came face to face with a dreadful, abusive ex and it was awful. How should I behave if I see him again?
Q. I was in a terribly emotionally abusive relationship for about 3 years, many years ago. He was my high school boyfriend and everything seemed fine at first but then started spiralling out of control really fast. He would call me the worst of names, ...
A. 9 February 2023: You did awesomely!
You didn't want to interact with him and you walked away.
My advice to you is to consider talking to someone about this, like a therapist. Because carrying around hate this strong is not healthy FOR YOU. He is living rent-f... (read in full...)
How does an open relationship work for others?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 22 years and sex is still great, but pretty much the same way much of the time. Lately, we have been talking about maybe trying an open relationship and seeing others. We have a very strong marriage and I think ...
A. 9 February 2023: Studies show that Anon female is totally right.
"It will be goodbye strong marriage. One or the other will prefer one of the new people to their husband or wife."
Your marriage has worked WELL for 22 years, having SEX with other people, an... (read in full...)
My friend is milking her break up. How do I approach the subject?
Q. ? ? ?I’m annoyed at my friend but I can’t be honest with her as she’s been through a lot and I don’t want to come across as insensitive. In June 2022 she discovered that her boyfriend of 6 years was having an affair with her housemate. Of ...
A. 8 February 2023: Honestly?
I think she is USING the cheating and hurt to avoid having to do things she doesn't want to do.
Or she didn't want to see you and your husband all happy in your new house as HER dreams were shattered.
If she had REALLY wanted to... (read in full...)
My friend won’t accept no for an answer over a particular situation.
Q. ? ? So this is a really odd scenario. When I was 13 my parents built a granny annex next to our house - it was for my grandmother to live in after my grandad died- when she also passed away my sister and I had sleepovers in it and we have l...
A. 8 February 2023: She keeps asking because she HOPES that she can find the "right" thing to say to make you feel "guilty" and say yes instead of no.
If the only contact you have with her is about this annex, I'd just block her. Or if you want to make sure she poss... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out after so long?
Q. I dated this guy about three years ago. We had a great relationship when we were together, however, he kept going back and fourth between me and his ex whom he has a young son with and I was caught in the middle. It was a toxic cycle that I finally ...
A. 8 February 2023: "Is he being honest about wanting friendship or does he want me back?"
I doubt it.
You are probably not the only ex he is reaching out to in hopes that he can rekindle something.
I would honestly, just wish him well and tell him you don't s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend abused me should I leave him?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for the past 2 years. We had plans to get married and settle down. But we were recently in a 9 month long distance and I was flirtatiously texting some guys which i thought was harmless. There was one guy ...
A. 8 February 2023: Yes, you should end it if he abused you. Why are you even asking?!
I do agree with him that you cheated, emotionally you sought out attention and guys to meet up with, THAT is RARELY OK in a relationship. If he had been chatting up girls in the... (read in full...)
Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: I'm so sorry OP
Yes I do think people can get addicted to doing "dumb stuff" - and they have to take it to a "certain" level before they get a thrill out of it, this level gets higher and higher. Which COULD (but isn't certain) mean that he WILL ... (read in full...)
Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: test... (read in full...)
Should I rethink things?
Q. He expected a thank you for getting a coca cola for my mother and asked me on the phone if my mother got the coke so I said yeah why? and he told me where was his thank you and I told him that when he asks for a thank you after he wants to do ...
A. 1 February 2023: Yes, I think you should rethink your opinion.
What does it cost you to say THANK YOU when someone does something for you? Absolutely nothing!
Being polite, and having some manners COST nothing. But it CAN (and will) GAIN you something from o... (read in full...)
Want to help my sister with her problems, but how?
Q. Hi everyone, id like advice or some help with my sister. We'll call her Kylie even though i know she isnt on this site. My sister and I are in a very weird ground in my own opinion though she probably sees it differently. Currently im 24 ...
A. 31 January 2023: "How do i help my sister?"
Do you live far from each other? If not, see if she wants to meet up in person. Go for a walk in the park or out for lunch and just chit-chat. Let her know if she wants to talk about things, you want to help and listen. ... (read in full...)
Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: How old are you two?
It sounds like you have taken on the "mommy role" here. That you have to be the grown-up who decides which people your husband can be friends with and who he can not.
Which to me sounds utterly controlling.
... (read in full...)
Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
WIfe puts her friends before me
Q. Hello Cupids, I am married to my wife for 3 years, but we have been together for 5 years and we have 3 kids we take care of together. We had broken up a few weeks ago because she put her so-called friends before me and our children. She ha...
A. 30 January 2023: 1. OP you need t obe calm and consider recoding arguments so they can't be used against you later.
2. Your wife IS prioritizing this other person over you.
3. You gave her an ultimatum but you are all bark.
4. Is this really HOW you want... (read in full...)
I am too sensitive for oral sex
Q. I enjoy getting oral and it fills so good, sometimes it gets so intense that i pull away and can't handle the sensation. How can I become more relaxed. Why am I way to sensetive....
A. 30 January 2023: YCNBS is 100% on the mark!
Your lover (male OR female) is going too hard at it. You two need to learn how to communicate and YOU need to tell him/her the go gentler and slower.
The clitoris has TWICE as many nerve endings as the tip of the p... (read in full...)
Husband yells at me and blames me for everything
Q. Hello M7 husband has a tendency of yelling and blaming me for everything. We've been together 30 years. It's gotten worse the last couple of years. If something in the house goes wrong it's my fault. Example the kitchen pipe got plugged and...
A. 30 January 2023: You BOTH should have considered getting the dog spayed. It shouldn't just be one person's responsibility UNLESS the dog is yours. (or his)
Clogged pipes suck and can be costly. Again, it's rarely just one person's fault if they get clogged.... (read in full...)
Did I do anything wrong by selling the four wheeler without talking to my brother about it first?
Q. I have a brother who is married. My sister-in-law has a little brother that is 13 years old. I owned a four wheeler that I keep at my house. I told my brother that he can borrow it as long as he asked permission first and he doesn't let his ...
A. 29 January 2023: You bought it, you own it. You can sell it, give it away, trash it, or burn it as YOU see fit.
Your brother had NO right to just come to take it. That is theft, even if he is allowed to use it.
If they WANT to ride 4x4's they can go buy one. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop him from taking advantage of my kindness?
Q. Hello I have been friends with someone about a year. He works but doesn't make much. So I have been giving him money ( not alot) a bit for food here and there. Anyways, his bay came and he asked if I could give some money. I sent 75.00. He h...
A. 25 January 2023: Stop giving him money.
He IS taking advantage of you. And you know it. He isn't a friend.
If you keep giving him the money he is going to keep asking for more.
"I have blocked him, then he will use a friend's number to contact me."
Just ... (read in full...)
Why does my bi husband want to be with other women?
Q. Why does my husband want to be with other women? I know he's bi so I have no objection to him experimenting that way, but why does he want other women?...
A. 25 January 2023: Ask him?
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He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: "Am I wasting my time? Regardless he will always be a friend."
Yes, you are probably wasting your time.
You have a 20-year history but nothing has ever come of it, for whatever reason. That should give you a clue.
My guess is he has a fantasy ... (read in full...)
He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 24 January 2023: " It's not normal to want to be single and sex free and then comolain about being lonely"
Anon male...
THAT is utter bullshit!
If you are CONSTANTLY propositioned for SEX when you are trying to build friendships and get to know ... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 22 January 2023: Oh, I so missed the ". He is my medical doctor."
That is absolutely frigging INAPPROPRIATE!!
You should definitely switch doctors!
This is SEXUAL harassment! Even if you find him attractive.
No wonder I got the "uncomfortable vibe" but... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting started
Q. I am struggling initiating sex with my girlfriend, I'm very self conscious, and prefer to let my partner initiate (that's not to say I never initiate it), atleast then I know she wants to have sex, I have an incredibly high sex drive but don't want ...
A. 22 January 2023: "I guess I could talk to her"
Yeah, if you can have sex with her you can TALK to her!
Sometimes simple touches can SHOW your partner that you are attracted to her. But it doesn't really say:" I want to jump your bones".
TALK to her. If you c... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 22 January 2023: I guess it is somewhat the result of the "hookup culture".
I think in some circles casual sex IS the "norm" and if you step out of the "norm", people will try and coral you back in.
However, I also think it depends on the people you surro... (read in full...)
I cant shake the feeling that he cheated and wants to be with the other woman
Q. I need some help please. I KNOW my fiancé was having an affair. He never confirmed it in fact he completely denies it, but I KNOW. We’ve been together 6 years and have a 1 year old son. A year ago his behaviour changed. The usual signs. He was ma...
A. 21 January 2023: I told him to tell the truth or we’re finished. "
Here is the thing with ultimatums... Unless you stick with it, it's useless. It only teaches him to know you will bluff.
You know in your gut what went on. You know he likely cheated. Snapcha... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 21 January 2023: To me, this seems "too much" - like love bombing. I'd be so uncomfortable!
But You don't describe in what situations he does all these things.
Is this guy single? For sure?
Or could he be married and testing YOUR boundaries for being a s... (read in full...)
How can I have peace
Q. Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty muc...
A. 18 January 2023: Why are you still with him?
If he hasn't "made it big" in those 6 years, what makes you think he EVER will?
He sounds like a leech. A drain on your finances AND your emotions.
Dump him and LIVE a happy peaceful life. Find someone who c... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 16 January 2023: Maybe one of her friends mentioned how this is received.
You could ASK her (without accusing her)?... (read in full...)
Family pushing me to get married
Q. Im really struggling with myself. I have been advised to seek therapy online by my parents. So I thought I would ask here if I can pay for mental health therapy for getting married - and where you recommend this? I have subconsciously a...
A. 15 January 2023: I think perhaps before you work on getting married, you need to move out of your parents' house and out from under their thumbs.
"I couldn't care less about any furniture when I want to move out."
Why haven't you moved out yet then? You are 32... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 14 January 2023: Is this the only thing that makes you think she is/was cheating?
... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 12 January 2023: Impossible to know.
More likely, she read that men found it hot and she went for it.
It's not "proof" of anything".
It's not uncommon that the older we get the less we worry about how others perceive us. Maybe she was curious and went for... (read in full...)
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