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Hello my name is Niki i am 21 years old and have a 1 year old son. i am recently seperated from my husband. my son and i live in the country. i like to help people, i like to listen and see what i can do to make people happier or help them out with problems. Please do not be afraid to message me! I will respond asap. (i check the site everyday , multiple times a day, most likely you will have a response the same day). Thanks again. :) |
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23 June 2009: I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...
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How can I get better at sex?
Q. I think im bad at sex it doesn't feel good when i do anything I cannot make myself come or my partners cant get me to come I think i suck at it. Like i can get myself going and what not but I just cannot come somebody help mee! ...
A. 27 July 2009: not all women can cum when they have sex. a lot can't. Try the cowgirl position were you are ontop and makesure that your clitoris rubs against his pubic bone. it stimlates the clitoris and makes for an amazing orgasm. if that is not working try sex ... (read in full...)
Am I bi? Should I just decide one or the other?
Q. Hi again. Ok, so these last few days have been a rollercoaster ride to say the least. I've now fallen out of love with a guy i've longed after for years, and i'm kinda happy about it! I've told a friend i'm a bit confused about my orientation, and ...
A. 27 July 2009: You never have to explain yourself anyone. if you have a sexual desire for another man you can cconsider your self bi-curious. if you act on it and you like it and you want to continue with it then if you like both guys and girls you are bi. ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to hang out with me when he has a wife, a kid, and another on the way?
Q. hey everyone. i am a 17 year old girl and im having an issue. I like this guy named Tony who is 26 years old and he used to work as a security guard for my school. When he was working for my school i used to skip class andhang out with him and we ...
A. 24 July 2009: He might just like your company as for the hug and the kiss you need to talk to him about that! thats crossing the line. I would be concerned about were he wants this to go. He has a wife and kids and he kept it a secret. if you are concerned then ... (read in full...)
Early Pregnancy Signs......
Q. I have been on this site for a few months and i have seen so many questions like "Am i pregnant?". I wrote this to help some of you out there feeling lost.(1)fatigue or the lack of energy.(2)light spotting if you have concieved,spotting can be ...
A. 24 July 2009: hnkj you guys i hope this does help you in your search for the signs. Please be careful! and feel free to ask me anything!
Thank you SY i forgot completly to write the breast sorness. ... (read in full...)
I have no serious illness, so why is my hair falling out?
Q. This is kind of a health question. I recently cut my hair, because I had some of it falling out. I contemplated cutting my hair for some weeks. I know that it will grow back, but my question is this, is there any particular reason why my hair would ...
A. 24 June 2009: if i were you i would. i have stuff from the gov. to by formula. i have a bad back, i cant work right now. i wouldnt be ashamed to go on them. anyway about your hair falling out mine does to, dont feel bad. it sucks my nutrition sucks and im ... (read in full...)
I really need your advice... could I be pregnant?
Q. well. im another stupid teenager and i am very young. and have a few questions. i might be pregnant. The last time i had sex was at the begining of this month. it was after i had already started my period. Today, i think i discovered a hym...
A. 24 June 2009: read my article on my page it has the top ten signs of early pregnancy.... (read in full...)
I have no serious illness, so why is my hair falling out?
Q. This is kind of a health question. I recently cut my hair, because I had some of it falling out. I contemplated cutting my hair for some weeks. I know that it will grow back, but my question is this, is there any particular reason why my hair would ...
A. 23 June 2009: are you loosing or gaining randon weight? it could be a thyroid problem. go to your dr. see what he/she says and keep us informed :) gooddluck. Im with you eyes. i miss it too :)... (read in full...)
Am I a fool, or is there still hope?
Q. 18 months ago I met the man of my dreams and began what I look back on as the best year and a half of my life. Our relationship was everything that I had ever wanted, everything I had searched for. This was it, I just knew it. We talked of marriage ...
A. 23 June 2009: you sent him a letter asking him to tell you that he cares about you but doesnt love you or i mean is in love with you? he obviously is in love with you if he left everything behind to move with you. even if it was for a little bit he still did it, ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool, or is there still hope?
Q. 18 months ago I met the man of my dreams and began what I look back on as the best year and a half of my life. Our relationship was everything that I had ever wanted, everything I had searched for. This was it, I just knew it. We talked of marriage ...
A. 23 June 2009: he could still love you, he sounds scared of the umfamilar which is what happened when you two moved. he went back to safety and comfort and he can always change hos mind and decide to suck it up untill he does find new friends and a new job were ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like a doll!
Q. My boyfriend treats me like a doll. He loves to hold me and carry me around, and he's always telling me how adorable I am. He treats me like I'm his to protect and love, like a flower he's trying to get to bloom, why do some guys do this?...
A. 23 June 2009: he does it to treat you like a princess. to show you how much he loves you and thats the way he shows you. i find it adorable, wish my hubby treated me like a doll lol. but its just his way of protecting you, loving u, etc.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hasn't told her kids about our relationship, it's bothering me!
Q. Hi, i have been with my girlfriend for about a year now. We had a long distance relationship and we finally met this past January. She lives in another country, and we have talk about a future together. I love her very much, but it bothers me to kn...
A. 23 June 2009: how old are her kids? if they are young (i know people around her age that have little ones about six years old) they might feel like your trying to take the place of their dad. she might not feel ready to her kods, even if they are grown up. its ... (read in full...)
How soon can I take a home pregnancy test?
Q. Ok quick question, me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last weekend. Yes I no a big big mistake but nothing I can do about it now. Anyway, now of course I am freaked I may be pregnant! So what I want to know is how soon can I take a home ...
A. 23 June 2009: i forgot to tell you do not drink a ton of water to make you pee. it dilutes your urine and can bring a false result. pee on the stick when you got to go. :) ... (read in full...)
How soon can I take a home pregnancy test?
Q. Ok quick question, me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last weekend. Yes I no a big big mistake but nothing I can do about it now. Anyway, now of course I am freaked I may be pregnant! So what I want to know is how soon can I take a home ...
A. 23 June 2009: you can take it tomorrow or now. if your stressing yes it can be late your right. but if your worridled, take it now. the hormones in your urine will show if your prgnant or not. however if i were you i would take it after your period is suppose to ... (read in full...)
A couple of sex questions, mostly for the guys!
Q. I have a few questions for the guys. I have a boyfriend and we are very much in love and I have some questions about things he does. My first question, while we are kissing he opens his eyes every once in a while? Can anybody let me know if thats a ...
A. 23 June 2009: im not a dude but my husband opens his eyes every once in a while, lol (1) i even catch him watching tv so i wouldnt worry about that. (2) if your concerned about making him happy try 69. or just the plain satisfaction that your enjoying what hes ... (read in full...)
How can I get my neighbor to like me more?
Q. Well i just got over my ex a few days ago thanks to my amazing friends who are here for me...well anyway my neighbor that lives across the street from me and has lived there ever since i have moved in...ive been spending time getting to know her and ...
A. 20 June 2009: you mean like like you. try a bbq w/ some other neighbors and of course her. talk to her. getting a girl to like you is simple really neither she does or she doesnt. talk to her and get to know her like youve been doing it. insted of a fancy dinner ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone who can interpret this dream for me?
Q. this is a weird dream i had that nobody or any website can tell me what it means so i turned to the wonderful cupids. my husband and i got into a little fight last night and when i went to bed i had a dream were i was on this tour bus with some ...
A. 20 June 2009: FA thats so weirdthat you say those things out financial situation blows and were working on it. i have been trying to get a job but no one will hire me, i did have suspicions w/my husband but i have always had them w/men but im starting to believe ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone who can interpret this dream for me?
Q. this is a weird dream i had that nobody or any website can tell me what it means so i turned to the wonderful cupids. my husband and i got into a little fight last night and when i went to bed i had a dream were i was on this tour bus with some ...
A. 19 June 2009: thank u 2. it had me worried b/c i know sometimes dreams are subconcious thoughts and i was devistated that i would think of not being w/my hubby. thank u 2.... (read in full...)
I'm sore down below and scared
Q. I have only had sex once, in my life. That was unprotected sex. I took the plan B pill the day of, and used a pregnancy three weeks later, I am not pregnant. I had sex about 35 days ago, and since then have not had any sexual stimuli on the day ...
A. 19 June 2009: there right go see a dr. but its kind of like running if you ran in a while all your muscles are sore. its b/c you havent had sex in some time. but you should talk to your dr. even jhst giving them a call might set you at ease just knowing that it ... (read in full...)
We put a "floor show" on at her wedding.. Is she right to be mad at us?
Q. My sister is mad at me because I put a floor show with my "underdressed" girlfriend (her dress was quite revealing) at her wedding. Me and my girlfriend had way too much to drink and we were all over each other on the dance floor. My sister and her ...
A. 18 June 2009: i would be pretty mad to if it was at my wedding. you two should say sorry she'll get over it but not until you apologize,... (read in full...)
Anyone with a military loved one overseas?
Q. Does anyone on this sight have a boyfriend/girlfriend, or spouse or anyone over seas?if so does anyone know when they are demobilizing back here to Illinois? my man is with the 634BSB out of Mattoon illinois. Thankx!...
A. 18 June 2009: my buddies overseas hes not aloud to tlk to anyone about anything. so i guess were all in the dark. he said before he left he may be back by mid september, but he isnt sure.... (read in full...)
He never wants sex anymore now that I'm pregnant!
Q. ok well.. im 6 months pregnant, been going with my boyfriend for a year and a half and our relationship is great hes really excited about the new arrival, hes loving caring and affectionate towards me, he tells me how much he loves me all the time...
A. 17 June 2009: my husband wouldnt have sex w/me when i was around your term. he was scared his penis would hurt the baby. most guys think this way i believe :) goofy men. but you should bring him to your next ob app. and have the dr explain that its ok to have sex ... (read in full...)
Should I try sex with a boy to see if I like it? Where to go from here?
Q. Hi i am in a predicament at the moment. I have only ever been with girls and had gf's ext. but for a few years now all I ever watch is gay porn and have fantasised myself with guys alot, I've even done some things to simulate a guy if you know what ...
A. 17 June 2009: studentoflife is right if you ignore these feeling they will rise again. if you want to expieriment then do it. if you dont like it then you dont like it. just be aware of all the std/sti i wouldnt purse anyone untill you find out what you want ... (read in full...)
4 years. Should I stay or call it quits?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years now, all through highschool. we just recently graduated 2 nights ago and he still has yet to spend and ounce of time with me. all he wants to do is hang out with his friends, and go out and party. now ...
A. 17 June 2009: call it quits sweetheart. its not fair to you. you just graduated go out single w/some friends and party. leave him in the past and find someone who makes you happy not that makes you feel insecure. goodluck... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, he got with another person. What is he thinking?
Q. So, I dated a guy for four months last Spring/Summer. I ended up breaking up with him because I was afraid. I felt a lot of electricity at first and then it didn't seem like he was willing to budge on some things and I was being stuborn as well. ...
A. 17 June 2009: what was he thinking about what hun? you broke it off hes not your man sorry to say. but he has every right to date other women you let him go. did you think he would wait for you? thats not how men are. theres always a chance you two can get back ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my new man about my problems with my ex?
Q. Hi: I have been talking to a very nice gentleman online for approx. one month. We will be meeting this weekend. He seems very nice. He is totally the opposite from my ex boyfriend. This person is intune to my feelings, he calls, he texts, he sends ...
A. 17 June 2009: i wouldnt tell him everything, just maybe you have been cheated on and that it may take a while for you to trust him no matter how much you want you it will take time and i think you that. congrats on this new man it sounds like you found your ... (read in full...)
She says she won't wait for me -- should I change my plans to keep her?
Q. Dear Aunties, My girlfriend and I of 7 long and horrible months have been talking about our futures outside of high school. Now, I want to join the military and she wont tell me what she wants to do... She has ideas... The main thing here is...
A. 17 June 2009: never let a women get in the way of your goals. if she is not willing to wait for you. she is not the one. do what makes you happy, you deserve to come home to someone who has been faithful and waiting for you. she doesnt want to wait? why not? i ... (read in full...)
Can 2 people with such different views/opinions get along?
Q. Hey. Sorry this is a bit long! I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and things have been great! we are not only in a relationship but recently we seem to have begun a good and deep friendship too. We've started to get much closer. We tell one...
A. 17 June 2009: it wasnt long lol, but to answer your question yes they can. My husband and i are two way differant people. but we get along great we have fights but its ok because we always make up. :) you two just have to drop it and accept them. itll be hard but ... (read in full...)
I DON'T want to make the wrong decision here...Who do I choose?
Q. im 18 years old and i have a boyfreind who ive been with for almost 3 years on and off. i have a frend from a diffrent country who ive known just under a year, and im fallen for him and he feels the same way about me. Coz my boyfrend and i h...
A. 17 June 2009: do you still love your bf. or are you on love w/him? there is a differance. do you want to make it work with your bf? i dont think you should date the other guy if you do have a relationship and you wind up w/another baby (not saying anything bad ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me near her house? Why?
Q. Hi all, Ive got a small dilema which I hope some of you people can help me with. I still live with my parents (I know im too old but no jokes please lol) and my girlfriend lives with her Dad. My girlfriend only stayes at her dads 3 nights a we...
A. 17 June 2009: ginsengmeow is right. its probably just because your parents might feel more familish to her. i use to stay at my husband house ( at which point he was 23 and living w/his aunt lol) all the time because it was better then us staying at my house with ... (read in full...)
Did I really turn him gay or was he gay all along?
Q. I know it's long, but I plan on responding to anyone who responds/offers advice. So I met this guy about 5 months ago and we hit it off great. We became pretty close friends. He was straight, I am gay but not a lot of people know about me. I don't ...
A. 16 June 2009: i personally dont think you turned him gay, i think that maybe you peeked his intrest as to what a gay realationship is like, maybe he is bi curious and maybe he was always thinking about it but was to scared/nervous to admit that he liked anyone, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get itchy "down there'' after shaving?
Q. Ok this isn't really a problem but I just wanted some advice from the gals out there. Is it normal to get really itchy after shaving 'down there' or is it just me? In which case should I use a hair removal cream instead? I could really do with some ...
A. 15 June 2009: omg your not alone lol. i have the same problem. i use non scented lotion were it really itches. it helps jist dont put it anywere near your vagina.use shave cream not body scrub or anything as usually the cream protects against irriataion and ... (read in full...)
How much should you spend on a first birthday?
Q. This is not a relationship question or anything but im kind of stuck as i never had to do this before. My son is turning 1 on July 6 th , his birthday party is going to be thrown on July 11th due to the 4th of july weekend. My question is for all ...
A. 12 June 2009: thank you for your answer. ... (read in full...)
Isn't it normal for women to like cuddling and kissing?
Q. I'm a very tactile person and I love to show affection with touch, hugging and cuddling, etc. My fiancee doesn't like hugs or cuddles... except as a precursor to making love and only when she initiates it. This leaves me feeling like just a piec...
A. 12 June 2009: as far as im concerned women yes we love cuddling and kissing but believe it or not sometimes it is to much. however, it does vary from women to women, usually men dont hug and cuddle and kiss alot it is the women who are use to doing it, just give ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about this discharge?
Q. Well basically... I am a 15 year old girl. More or less daily i get some type of discharge flowing from my vagina. It is white and creamy. I have been getting it for quite sometime now, although i have not started my period. and the other da...
A. 12 June 2009: its natural, what you have to worry about is if it is a yellowish color, or if you smelly funny or it and burn down there,that is a sign of yeast infection. white discharge is normal. the redish/brownish discharge is a sign it will be starting. your ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex and yet am repulsed by it
Q. I've never heard of anybody who has this problem. I am a man in my late 20's, who like most other men is desperate to have sex, yet at the same time I'm repulsed by it. The reason why is because I despise the human race, I view all emotions as ...
A. 12 June 2009: kellyxxx is right. this isnt normal amd no matter how much you hate emotional you will always show it. ... (read in full...)
Father's day gift for husband?
Q. this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...
A. 12 June 2009: thank u for the rose idea hes to much of a manly man lol to appreciate flowers lol he might just give me a look and say thanx lol :) good idea ill try to give them ill keep you all posted.... (read in full...)
Relationships: What would you not tolerate?
Q. This is'nt an advice question as such, but I do require help. I know it would be difficult to say, and every case is different, and you probably have no idea how you would act in the actual circumstance, but; What things would you never put up wit...
A. 12 June 2009: well ... i would leave if he didnt love me , he cheated, he lied, he was verbally or physicaly abusive. if i was not happy. no communication. like cerberus said little white lies such as o i like that shit even though you hate it. ... (read in full...)
Does the condom fully protect her?
Q. If I cum inside my girlfriend while I'm wearing a condom, does any semen leak into her vagina? Because I'm really just cumming into the condom but I don't know if it like overflowed or something. Thanks....
A. 12 June 2009: usually when you cum inside of a condom it stays at the tip or the excess of the condom. it protects against pregnancy but not completly 100%. you should try and talk to her about getting on birth control, that way there are two forms of birth ... (read in full...)
13 and I think I'm pregnant! Help
Q. help me please im 13 and me and boyfriend have had sex lots of times but once we had sex without a condom and he pulled out before he came but i found out that that doesnt work and im really scared im pregnat... please help me... i dont know wat to ...
A. 12 June 2009: hun, what makes you think your pregnant? what is differant about your body that makes you think this? Did you know that if you think your pregnant it is possible for your body to make your body be pregnant w/out actually being pregnant. your mind ... (read in full...)
Friends before boyfriends/girlfriends?
Q. I know people always say 'freinds before boyfriends/ girlfriends' but is this actually true? Does this apply to freinds of the opposite gender, even if they really are just friends and your'e not attracted to them at all? My boyfriend recent...
A. 12 June 2009: its def ok to have b/fs and guy friends. does he have girls that are friends? if he does and your ok w/it he really has no right to say :hey hun i dont want you to have guy friends b c i dont trust you: thats not really fair or nice :/ if you havent ... (read in full...)
Friends before boyfriends/girlfriends?
Q. I know people always say 'freinds before boyfriends/ girlfriends' but is this actually true? Does this apply to freinds of the opposite gender, even if they really are just friends and your'e not attracted to them at all? My boyfriend recent...
A. 12 June 2009: ah the old saying bros before hoes. yes it is true on most cases unless your married. but i would be worried about the fact that he doesnt trust you especially if you havent done anything to make him not trust you. but he could trust you and hot ... (read in full...)
Father's day gift for husband?
Q. this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...
A. 11 June 2009: thank you guys for the great ideas. ill take them all into consideration... (read in full...)
Father's day gift for husband?
Q. this up comming fathers day is my husbands very first ever. i have no idea what to get him. every holiday i get him tools, he loves them dont get me wrong. but i dont want to be so obvious, and ruin to much of a good thing. Any fathers know of any ...
A. 11 June 2009: steve thats a very good idea, but our son isnt one yet and eats crayons more then he scribbles lol i wish i could do that tho thank you.... (read in full...)
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