Unfriendly neighbor says hello after a year of avoiding me?
Q. The woman living next to me is the most confusing human I've encountered! When she moved in, I made sure to say hello, in passing, but she ignored me. Another time, I went to wave as she drove up her driveway, and she turned her head in the oppo...
A. 14 February 2023: It seems a lot of people lost their social skills with Covid, seriously.
It's not as common as it used to be to know your neighbors.
Who she chose to snub you for a year, who knows? Maybe life was bad for her (for whatever reason) and now ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my family about my biological son
Q. When I was in my early twenties, I got my girlfriend pregnant. We were not ready to be parents, especially since I was going to therapy for anger issues and my girlfriend just made one year sober. My girlfriend's sister and husband adopted ...
A. 12 February 2023: I think you should tell them.
Maybe your son would like to meet them and they would like to meet him. And NOT have that meeting be at your funeral....
It seems like you and your ex made the RIGHT choice in letting your son get adopted by two p... (read in full...)
Came face to face with a dreadful, abusive ex and it was awful. How should I behave if I see him again?
Q. I was in a terribly emotionally abusive relationship for about 3 years, many years ago. He was my high school boyfriend and everything seemed fine at first but then started spiralling out of control really fast. He would call me the worst of names, ...
A. 9 February 2023: You did awesomely!
You didn't want to interact with him and you walked away.
My advice to you is to consider talking to someone about this, like a therapist. Because carrying around hate this strong is not healthy FOR YOU. He is living rent-f... (read in full...)
How does an open relationship work for others?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 22 years and sex is still great, but pretty much the same way much of the time. Lately, we have been talking about maybe trying an open relationship and seeing others. We have a very strong marriage and I think ...
A. 9 February 2023: Studies show that Anon female is totally right.
"It will be goodbye strong marriage. One or the other will prefer one of the new people to their husband or wife."
Your marriage has worked WELL for 22 years, having SEX with other people, an... (read in full...)
My friend is milking her break up. How do I approach the subject?
Q. ? ? ?I’m annoyed at my friend but I can’t be honest with her as she’s been through a lot and I don’t want to come across as insensitive. In June 2022 she discovered that her boyfriend of 6 years was having an affair with her housemate. Of ...
A. 8 February 2023: Honestly?
I think she is USING the cheating and hurt to avoid having to do things she doesn't want to do.
Or she didn't want to see you and your husband all happy in your new house as HER dreams were shattered.
If she had REALLY wanted to... (read in full...)
My friend won’t accept no for an answer over a particular situation.
Q. ? ? So this is a really odd scenario. When I was 13 my parents built a granny annex next to our house - it was for my grandmother to live in after my grandad died- when she also passed away my sister and I had sleepovers in it and we have l...
A. 8 February 2023: She keeps asking because she HOPES that she can find the "right" thing to say to make you feel "guilty" and say yes instead of no.
If the only contact you have with her is about this annex, I'd just block her. Or if you want to make sure she poss... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out after so long?
Q. I dated this guy about three years ago. We had a great relationship when we were together, however, he kept going back and fourth between me and his ex whom he has a young son with and I was caught in the middle. It was a toxic cycle that I finally ...
A. 8 February 2023: "Is he being honest about wanting friendship or does he want me back?"
I doubt it.
You are probably not the only ex he is reaching out to in hopes that he can rekindle something.
I would honestly, just wish him well and tell him you don't s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend abused me should I leave him?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for the past 2 years. We had plans to get married and settle down. But we were recently in a 9 month long distance and I was flirtatiously texting some guys which i thought was harmless. There was one guy ...
A. 8 February 2023: Yes, you should end it if he abused you. Why are you even asking?!
I do agree with him that you cheated, emotionally you sought out attention and guys to meet up with, THAT is RARELY OK in a relationship. If he had been chatting up girls in the... (read in full...)
Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: I'm so sorry OP
Yes I do think people can get addicted to doing "dumb stuff" - and they have to take it to a "certain" level before they get a thrill out of it, this level gets higher and higher. Which COULD (but isn't certain) mean that he WILL ... (read in full...)
Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: test... (read in full...)
Should I rethink things?
Q. He expected a thank you for getting a coca cola for my mother and asked me on the phone if my mother got the coke so I said yeah why? and he told me where was his thank you and I told him that when he asks for a thank you after he wants to do ...
A. 1 February 2023: Yes, I think you should rethink your opinion.
What does it cost you to say THANK YOU when someone does something for you? Absolutely nothing!
Being polite, and having some manners COST nothing. But it CAN (and will) GAIN you something from o... (read in full...)
Want to help my sister with her problems, but how?
Q. Hi everyone, id like advice or some help with my sister. We'll call her Kylie even though i know she isnt on this site. My sister and I are in a very weird ground in my own opinion though she probably sees it differently. Currently im 24 ...
A. 31 January 2023: "How do i help my sister?"
Do you live far from each other? If not, see if she wants to meet up in person. Go for a walk in the park or out for lunch and just chit-chat. Let her know if she wants to talk about things, you want to help and listen. ... (read in full...)
Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: How old are you two?
It sounds like you have taken on the "mommy role" here. That you have to be the grown-up who decides which people your husband can be friends with and who he can not.
Which to me sounds utterly controlling.
... (read in full...)
Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
WIfe puts her friends before me
Q. Hello Cupids, I am married to my wife for 3 years, but we have been together for 5 years and we have 3 kids we take care of together. We had broken up a few weeks ago because she put her so-called friends before me and our children. She ha...
A. 30 January 2023: 1. OP you need t obe calm and consider recoding arguments so they can't be used against you later.
2. Your wife IS prioritizing this other person over you.
3. You gave her an ultimatum but you are all bark.
4. Is this really HOW you want... (read in full...)
I am too sensitive for oral sex
Q. I enjoy getting oral and it fills so good, sometimes it gets so intense that i pull away and can't handle the sensation. How can I become more relaxed. Why am I way to sensetive....
A. 30 January 2023: YCNBS is 100% on the mark!
Your lover (male OR female) is going too hard at it. You two need to learn how to communicate and YOU need to tell him/her the go gentler and slower.
The clitoris has TWICE as many nerve endings as the tip of the p... (read in full...)
Husband yells at me and blames me for everything
Q. Hello M7 husband has a tendency of yelling and blaming me for everything. We've been together 30 years. It's gotten worse the last couple of years. If something in the house goes wrong it's my fault. Example the kitchen pipe got plugged and...
A. 30 January 2023: You BOTH should have considered getting the dog spayed. It shouldn't just be one person's responsibility UNLESS the dog is yours. (or his)
Clogged pipes suck and can be costly. Again, it's rarely just one person's fault if they get clogged.... (read in full...)
Did I do anything wrong by selling the four wheeler without talking to my brother about it first?
Q. I have a brother who is married. My sister-in-law has a little brother that is 13 years old. I owned a four wheeler that I keep at my house. I told my brother that he can borrow it as long as he asked permission first and he doesn't let his ...
A. 29 January 2023: You bought it, you own it. You can sell it, give it away, trash it, or burn it as YOU see fit.
Your brother had NO right to just come to take it. That is theft, even if he is allowed to use it.
If they WANT to ride 4x4's they can go buy one. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop him from taking advantage of my kindness?
Q. Hello I have been friends with someone about a year. He works but doesn't make much. So I have been giving him money ( not alot) a bit for food here and there. Anyways, his bay came and he asked if I could give some money. I sent 75.00. He h...
A. 25 January 2023: Stop giving him money.
He IS taking advantage of you. And you know it. He isn't a friend.
If you keep giving him the money he is going to keep asking for more.
"I have blocked him, then he will use a friend's number to contact me."
Just ... (read in full...)
Why does my bi husband want to be with other women?
Q. Why does my husband want to be with other women? I know he's bi so I have no objection to him experimenting that way, but why does he want other women?...
A. 25 January 2023: Ask him?
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He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: "Am I wasting my time? Regardless he will always be a friend."
Yes, you are probably wasting your time.
You have a 20-year history but nothing has ever come of it, for whatever reason. That should give you a clue.
My guess is he has a fantasy ... (read in full...)
He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 24 January 2023: " It's not normal to want to be single and sex free and then comolain about being lonely"
Anon male...
THAT is utter bullshit!
If you are CONSTANTLY propositioned for SEX when you are trying to build friendships and get to know ... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 22 January 2023: Oh, I so missed the ". He is my medical doctor."
That is absolutely frigging INAPPROPRIATE!!
You should definitely switch doctors!
This is SEXUAL harassment! Even if you find him attractive.
No wonder I got the "uncomfortable vibe" but... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting started
Q. I am struggling initiating sex with my girlfriend, I'm very self conscious, and prefer to let my partner initiate (that's not to say I never initiate it), atleast then I know she wants to have sex, I have an incredibly high sex drive but don't want ...
A. 22 January 2023: "I guess I could talk to her"
Yeah, if you can have sex with her you can TALK to her!
Sometimes simple touches can SHOW your partner that you are attracted to her. But it doesn't really say:" I want to jump your bones".
TALK to her. If you c... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 22 January 2023: I guess it is somewhat the result of the "hookup culture".
I think in some circles casual sex IS the "norm" and if you step out of the "norm", people will try and coral you back in.
However, I also think it depends on the people you surro... (read in full...)
I cant shake the feeling that he cheated and wants to be with the other woman
Q. I need some help please. I KNOW my fiancé was having an affair. He never confirmed it in fact he completely denies it, but I KNOW. We’ve been together 6 years and have a 1 year old son. A year ago his behaviour changed. The usual signs. He was ma...
A. 21 January 2023: I told him to tell the truth or we’re finished. "
Here is the thing with ultimatums... Unless you stick with it, it's useless. It only teaches him to know you will bluff.
You know in your gut what went on. You know he likely cheated. Snapcha... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 21 January 2023: To me, this seems "too much" - like love bombing. I'd be so uncomfortable!
But You don't describe in what situations he does all these things.
Is this guy single? For sure?
Or could he be married and testing YOUR boundaries for being a s... (read in full...)
How can I have peace
Q. Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty muc...
A. 18 January 2023: Why are you still with him?
If he hasn't "made it big" in those 6 years, what makes you think he EVER will?
He sounds like a leech. A drain on your finances AND your emotions.
Dump him and LIVE a happy peaceful life. Find someone who c... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 16 January 2023: Maybe one of her friends mentioned how this is received.
You could ASK her (without accusing her)?... (read in full...)
Family pushing me to get married
Q. Im really struggling with myself. I have been advised to seek therapy online by my parents. So I thought I would ask here if I can pay for mental health therapy for getting married - and where you recommend this? I have subconsciously a...
A. 15 January 2023: I think perhaps before you work on getting married, you need to move out of your parents' house and out from under their thumbs.
"I couldn't care less about any furniture when I want to move out."
Why haven't you moved out yet then? You are 32... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 14 January 2023: Is this the only thing that makes you think she is/was cheating?
... (read in full...)
He is in jail and I don't need the stress
Q. Hi I met a guy in 2020 and ten months after he was arrested and kept in prison. At first he was saying he would get out and that he had done nothing wrong. Then in November just gone he was sentenced to 17 years for a serious gang related cri...
A. 14 January 2023: OP!
You have EVERY right to want a life on your own, a life HE CAN NOT be part of as HE is locked up!
"I’ve turned my phone off so he can’t contact me "
Get a new number, OP You shouldn't have to turn your phone off to avoid his calls. Just... (read in full...)
How do I politely ask my friend to move out of my home?
Q. ? ?A friend of mine that I’ve know for over 20 years recently separated from her husband- she was struggling to find somewhere to live so she asked if she could move in with me and my family for a month until she found somewhere. S...
A. 13 January 2023: Contact Citizen's Advice for how to evict someone. You probably don't have to file eviction papers as there is no rental agreement or money involved, thus she probably can't claim tenant's rights, but still call and check for sure.
She what you... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 13 January 2023: I'm sorry for your loss, OP... (read in full...)
How to fix a brokenheart
Q. Help iam I love with a lovely man who loves me but I have hurt him very badly and he has fi ished our relationship. He is. Builder and recently put I. A new Back door for me. I always pay him for his work as I would not take advantage of him This ...
A. 12 January 2023: If you want a SERVICE done FOR FREE (or for a tip! WTF?) You ASK first if that is OK, you make an AGREEMENT first. You don't wait until the work is done and then say, OH, I'm not paying for the work you did, only for materials and a tip!
He di... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about her past
Q. I'm currently in a relationship, I have been seeing her 8 months and been official for 2. Great chemistry, loads in common and just generally going amazing, i wish I met her sooner in my life, both the same age. How ever I can't stop over thinking ...
A. 12 January 2023: "I know some jealousy is normal "
It's really not "normal" or healthy. Jealousy is like a slow-acting poison. Nothing GOOD comes from it.
You are at a stage where you feel you have to "shit or get off the pot" when it comes to the relationship... (read in full...)
Online dating problem
Q. I joined a dating site to talk to women as I’m single, a girl messaged me who liked my profile, got in touch. we had many things in common and talk every day. since then, I’ve been having doubts, as many people lie on dating sites about their age. ...
A. 12 January 2023: Try a reverse image search.
If it pops up a profile (like Facebook) If she IS 14 - see if her mom is a contact and message her with (preferably) screenshots so she knows what her daughter is up to.
Or contact the dating site and let them kno... (read in full...)
His parents know we had sex
Q. me and my "bf" had sex for the first time about a week ago (been together for a little over 3 months but we haven't made it official yet) and I guess I left a hickey on his neck .Anyways fast forward to about 2 days later and his parents saw and ...
A. 12 January 2023: If you don't want to be "judged" for doing something, don't do it.
It's that simple.
He might have a really open and honest relationship with his parents.
You don't know if they will judge you "harder" or not, you haven't even met them. I... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 12 January 2023: Impossible to know.
More likely, she read that men found it hot and she went for it.
It's not "proof" of anything".
It's not uncommon that the older we get the less we worry about how others perceive us. Maybe she was curious and went for... (read in full...)
Hurt over lost friend
Q. My best friend of many years is in an abusive relationship and has suddenly decided to cut me out of her life. When they first started dating, I wasn't wild about it. She has so much going for her and this guy just... doesn't. I tried to be supp...
A. 11 January 2023: I would be hurt if I were you too!!
Unfortunately, your friend loves herself less than YOU love her.
She would RATHER be with an abusive man than be on her own. Why? Probably because he has her so messed up in the head.
Logically, she KNOWS ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 17 April 2022: Why hasn't he had a vacetomy?
If he is 100% sure he doesn't want kids?
I mean sex should be pleasurable for BOTH people involved, shouldn't it?
It doesn't sound like you two are very compatible in the bedroom.... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 15 April 2022:
When you swallow you are being as submissive as heck, you are basically as intimate as it gets. 1. he doesn't have to stop his climax 2. if you swallow you are "accepting "all" of it, in a way. And 3. for some men it's a little bit about dominanc... (read in full...)
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