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writes:So I am looking for possible advice please. Not judgement. It's jsut been my birthday, and like people do. My fiend messaged me to wish me a happy birthday. This led to a conversation and ultimate led to us messaging in a sexual way. This has now happened a few times since. Thing is. I have liked this friend for a while now. But never did I think he had feelings for me. However. He may not. He hasn't said he has. It has just been Sexts. Basically. My question is. I understand he may not really be interested. And that's fine. But. Even if it was out of boredom. Would be still message me. Multiple times. In a sexual manner. If he didn't find me attractive / if he wasn't interested at all. Surely you have to be a little attracted to someone to message them in a sexual manner. More than once? Thankyou for anyone answering my question Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2023): Nothing unusual or special or wise about getting a guy to wank over your words - he would do that whichever woman it was it is nothing to do with you as an individual, not personal, he just went for it when the opportunity presents itself, and he would again because it saves him paying those wnk with me services.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2023): Yes he's definitely sexually interested... Maybe not enough to pursue it wholeheartedly because there's probably someone else he's with but he's certainly weighing his options.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 April 2023):
 "Surely you have to be a little attracted to someone to message them in a sexual manner. More than once?"
For some, it's a game. It's just something to do to entertain themselves. He might be attracted to you but that doesn't mean he CARES.
Maybe he is hoping to get some action, maybe he thinks you are either gullible or desperate enough to accept some "casual or FWB" kind of sex - OR he just enjoys having some sexual banter.
How does he behave when he is around you in person?
We can't read his mind, so you COULD just ask him, hey buddy all this sexting is it banter or what?
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (2 April 2023):
"Surely you have to be a little attracted to someone to message them in a sexual manner. More than once?"
I used to think that. But it's a female perspective. When it comes to sexual matters, men think slightly differently. They are much better at keeping sex and attraction separate. I think that many men are quite happy to get sexual with someone they are not in the least attracted to.
Stop giving this guy wank fodder ... ultimately it's not making you feel good about yourself.
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