Drama!!
Q. MY Fiance And I Have Been Dating For Little Over a year and we have major issues with his ex( daughters mother) interfering. sitting outside my house, following me around to the beauty salon, calling me, taking me to court for harassment, suing me, ...
A. 5 December 2008: Get a restraining order against her.
I would question him on why he is not being more supportive when she is actually taking you to court.
Tell him he has to give you more help or you will leave. He may not want to piss her off or she may make ... (read in full...)
How does one get a guy to talk?
Q. I've known this guy for a while but not really so well that we talk to each other all the time. We say the occasional "how are you?" and such but I don't really know anything about him. But, we're continuously thrown into the same environment, it's ...
A. 5 December 2008: Ask him about stuff, ask him what he's been upto and what his views are on the news or stuff on TV or music or anything.
Questions are fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend declared his love then went travelling, how to cope with the months we are apart?
Q. My ex went travelling 5 days ago, he will be gone for 6 months, before he went we met up a few times, made peace and decided we both want each other back. The balls were already in motion for his trip, it was just bad timing. The thing is, I cant ...
A. 5 December 2008: Some advice from an army wife....
You are going to be miserable for the first week and a complete mess.
Then you have to get on and make plans of your own.
You need to do something new to distract yourself. Join a new club or start a new ... (read in full...)
Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?
Q. I have a question. What are my options when I have proof that my husband is having an affair and she is living with him and he is in the military? What can I do? Can she get in trouble for having an affair with a married man?...
A. 5 December 2008: I'm not sure of the rules in the American military but over here in the UK, he can get yelled at and so will she.
At the end of the day though, as long as he is supporting you financially then there is not a lot they can do.
The best thin... (read in full...)
How do I turn the tables on him?
Q. my boyfriend seems to have control of everything in our relationship. yes I do realize its because I've allowed him to but now its is like I don't even know myself anymore... how can I fix this? I can I show him that I'm strong and that I'm not ...
A. 4 December 2008: You walk out.
If he comes after you and tries to win you back then you can tell him you aren't going to take this any more and he has to change.
If he doesn't then you know he wasn't worth it anyway.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I convince people I don't have an eating disorder?
Q. Everybody always says that I'm too skinny and are always trying to get me to eat more, but I don't think I'm too skinny. My boyfriend tells everyone that i'm healthy and my family tells them too but they still don't believe them. I'm a 1...
A. 4 December 2008: I had the exact same problem as you at your age.
Teachers even took me to one side to see if I wanted to "talk."
Unfortunately it is just because you are small and you are thin because you are growing so it's hard to put on weight.
Just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.
Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...
A. 4 December 2008: He's never going to change because why should he?
You've asked him to and he isn't and you are doing nothing.
You have to be REALLY firm on him here.
Next time he does it, FREAK OUT AT HIM and walk out. He will make some effort if he knows ... (read in full...)
How do we get her to see the truth about this guy?
Q. My Sister In Law is in a terrible relationship with a guy who has been in prison twice, has a history of cheating, stealing, and lying. She is almost obsessed with him and now they are talking about getting married in less than 3 weeks. We have ...
A. 4 December 2008: Have any of you directly said this to her or have you all been extra nice and told her you are worried about her.
At some point you have to say, that you in NO way approve of this relationship and will not be supporting it or attending the wedd... (read in full...)
Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: Well you could ring him and he might lower himself to answer and talk to you.
However, if you really love this kind of relationship then why not just go and lie down in a shopping centre. You'll get kicked and stepped on far more often that way... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary...
Q. My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary. he follows me around everywhere and he keeps on saying hes possessed or something like that and that he belongs to the devil and stuff and he is being serious. I tried to break up with him the he ...
A. 4 December 2008: You got very lucky.... (read in full...)
Should I let him come round for sex whenever he feels like it?
Q. i kicked my partner of many years out cause he has a drug habit, but he is taking it all in his stride and thinks it is holiday for him to get the best of both worlds. being out with his mates and just poppin to see me and the kids when he feels ...
A. 4 December 2008: Stop having sex with him. Tell him he can come and see the kids but then he has to leave.
You are acting like a doormat so he thinks he can come back and you will be too weak to do anything about his drug problem or anything.
Kick him out ... (read in full...)
Why does she still keep in contact with him?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me and I forgave her, but she still keeps in contact with him. What should I do?...
A. 4 December 2008: Tell her that you are not happy with her keeping in touch and you can't trust her while she does it.
It's tough but if she wants your forgiveness I think it is fair for you to tell her to cut contact with him.
If she doesn't want to then she... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after he cheated with my NIECE?
Q. I've been married for almost 4 years. My husband cheated on me 2mts into the marriage with my niece. Yes, my niece. I forgave him and I thought we were growing together. Come to find out he cheated on me again with a women I don't know and got ...
A. 4 December 2008: To be honest, I really don't see what you gain by having him around.
There is absolutely no reason why this won't happen again. Do you really want to put yourself through that hurt?
Do you want your kids to grow up thinking that when they g... (read in full...)
How would you rate the durex vibrating rings?
Q. Anyone ever try the durex vibrating rings? How do they feel? They worth the 10 bucks? Looking for girls opinions mainly but guys with any tips give us a shout;)...
A. 4 December 2008: Worth a try once. They work for some and were fun for me but not mind blowing.
10 bucks is only like a fiver, so hardly breaking the bank.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to date him but I'm not sure how to proceed! Is he a rapist?
Q. I hooked-up with a guy when I was 20 but he had some sex issues. We messed around tons, but he couldn't get it up. I told my friend (who thought he was hot) and she had sex with him. She claimed that he basiclly raped her. I believed her but was ...
A. 4 December 2008: If she said stop and he didn't then he is dangerous and you should not go anywhere near him.
If he was just crap in bed but she said nothing, then you may want to take that into account, but he's not a rapist.
Talk to your friend and ask h... (read in full...)
Am I losing my husband?
Q. my husband and i are both twenty yearsold and just married in october. Sadly to say, we havent been having the best newlywed relationship. i work,he stays home with our 3yr old. my hours vary at work, so when i come home i cook dinner and dose off ...
A. 4 December 2008: So hang on, you are going to work - AND being his maid??
If you get home tired then HE should be making your dinner and then you will have more energy to be with him. If I'm not working and my hubbie is, then I make sure he can come in and sit ... (read in full...)
Why should we spend all day getting her germs and then getting ill ourselves...?
Q. Hi All, I posted this yesterday and only got 1 reply... I need to pick some brains here. I work in a small office with no windows which we can open for fresh air but that isnt the problem...The problem is that 1 of my colleagues is alw...
A. 3 December 2008: I think you just have to suck it up and talk to your boss.
When she's really ill just go in and say in a caring way that you think she needs to go home as she's not well and it won't be very productive for the whole office to come down with it.... (read in full...)
Need help and tips please with a part time job!
Q. I really really reallyyy need some HELPFUL advice/tips here!!!! I work part time at a very high profile exclusive club. My job is to just stand at reception and greet / smile with customers. There is no one for me to really talk to, I stand ther...
A. 3 December 2008: Dagger 4 had a great idea so make sure you buy all the sunday papers and then have a supply of sudoku or something to slip into your clipboard. Either that or bring blank paper and then write a novel for extra cash.
Other than that I think yo... (read in full...)
She thinks I only want sex, how can I make things up to her?
Q. My girlfriend use to have a boyfriend who in a way, forced her to do certain sexual activities, I've done those things with her and a lot more and without forcing her into anything. She knows I'm a freak in bed, and as a guy, I'm constantly thinking ...
A. 3 December 2008: It was a stupid thing to say and there is going to be no magical thing to say to make it better.
You have to prove yourself to her.
Try harder to get a job. Be the best boyfriend you can be. Send her texts saying you are thinking about h... (read in full...)
Husband vs the other guy...
Q. Hey everyone, I need some help! I have been with my husband for 9 1/2 years, married 4 1/2. We have a 3 year old son together. Things had been fine up until about the summer when I decided that I was bored, and told my husband that I wanted to...
A. 3 December 2008: Your husband is probably lovely and yes you've had some long great times together, but I think you are in denial here.
You don't want to have sex with your husband, let alone be with him. Just because you respect him as a good friend and father d... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that I broke up with her, what am I supposed to do?
Q. I've just broke up with my girlfriend after over a year of going out. I said that i wasn't ready for a serious relationship and that my feelings had changed for her. I knew it was going to be hard but i feel really bad and i know she's real...
A. 3 December 2008: If you don't want to be with her then don't be.
If you want to be single then go off and be single.
Don't lead her on by thinking there is a chance. Yes she is hurt but sometimes that is what happens.
Text her back and say you are really s... (read in full...)
Am I being greedy and asking too much here?
Q. Hi everyone, I really need help with my b/f of 19 months. I'm seperated and waiting on divorce nearly 5 years now, my ex is holding things up constantly, so it stresses me out cos I can't state what I want as I feel I have no right to ask. I love my ...
A. 3 December 2008: You're not very clear here. Are you saying you want him to decide right now whether he'll move in and set a date to do it?
As far as I can tell, you are going to move to this house anyway, and your new boyfriend just isn't sure whether to move in ... (read in full...)
Is it right to date your best friends brother?
Q. Amy and holly were best mates, Amy was 16. Holly brought her best mate Amy to her Brother Greg’s 18th birthday. Amy and Greg got on well was chatting the whole night and shared a kiss... They talked online for many hours every day for about 2months. ...
A. 3 December 2008: Your best friend told you that she was NOT ok with you dating her big brother.
You betrayed that and lied to her.
You ALWAYS pick your friends over a guy.
Just because he's been nice to you online doesn't mean he is worth losing a great fri... (read in full...)
My sister's husband is so perverted around me when she's not around!!
Q. My sister's husband really perverted around me when its just me and him. I'm only 17 and he's 24. They haven't been married long (about a mouth) but he's been "in the family" for a long time. I don't want my sister to know and I don't want to make a ...
A. 3 December 2008: Tell him to get the hell away from you or you'll tell your sister and your dad and ruin his life.
Your parents may be used to having him around but I bet they would take your word over his any day.
Tell him to go away and if he doesn't then tel... (read in full...)
Am I a commitment phobe or just a worry wort?
Q. I am in need of some advise. I am confused and dont know whether i am just a worry wort or a commitment phobic? My boyf and I were together 4 years before i broke it off for one year. I didn't feel our relationship was going anywhere,...
A. 3 December 2008: So are you saying you are getting back with him because he's a great mate and he wanted to?
If there is no spark and you don't feel any better about him then why get back together with him?
Some relationships have a sell by date, and 3 to 4... (read in full...)
I don't want to lend money to my sister and her loser boyfriend!
Q. My sister in law is with a loser guy. To give some examples: he has a violent terrible temper and is unkind to her, they have a 1yr old baby, he has never changed a nappy or helped with the baby. He has never held him for more than 5mins or even ...
A. 3 December 2008: As he says there is pretty much nothing you can do.
It's his choice at the end of the day. However, I think you should ask for something very expensive this Christmas and make it clear that you should not have to suffer because he wants to bail ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if he feels her breasts?
Q. hey is it considered cheating on your girlfriend if your boyfriend feels another girls breasts? x thanks x...
A. 2 December 2008: If he was doing it in a sexual way, eg. not checking a lump she'd found, then yes.
What matters is if it upset you.
If you feel he betrayed you then he has some making up to do.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could sugar and caffiene be causing my stress?
Q. i have been gettin very depressed lately and stressing out about the littlest things and losing alot of sleep due to i. there is a lot cafienne and sugar in my diet. could that be linked to it?...
A. 2 December 2008: Yep, caffeine and sugar both give you a high so they will give you a low too.
Cut them out and get some regular meals with fruit and veg.
You should also try and get some decent sleep as not enough sleep, or bad sleep, can cause chaos with... (read in full...)
He wants to have a baby before he is deployed, but I want to graduate first!
Q. My boyfriend is in the Navy and i'm a sophomore in college that is pre-dental...he really wants to have a baby before he gets deployed and I do want to have children with him but I want to graduate first. He's afraid that he might not have another ...
A. 2 December 2008: The poor guy is terrified.
Terrified that he might die or be injured so he will never have chance to pass on his genes.
He's also terrified that you are not going to wait for him and will find someone else.
A baby will allow him to be a d... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend or kiss. I'm 29 and nobody wants me.
Q. hi i was wondering can any one help me . i am 29 years old and i have never had a boyfriend. i never even got my first kiss. i don't know and everyone else does. all but me. every guy i like rather someone else and never me. they reject me in the ...
A. 1 December 2008: I'm guessing you go out and look for these loud drunk guys at parties.... and you seem to be attracted to arseholes so not surprisingly they are knocking you back.
Why don't you try meeting guys who aren't arrogant and drunk?
Go out not to... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to have a baby bump at 8 weeks?
Q. I am pregnant, my last period was around October.8th so I'm about 8 weeks pregnant right now. My symptoms have got better REALLY fast, tho i still puke at least once a day when i first wake up or at night when i get tired. I thought before my belly ...
A. 1 December 2008: Go to a doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!
Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...
A. 1 December 2008: Well why not show them you are serious about each other by getting married.
Once you do that then babies will be the next logical step.
Get engaged and see their reaction to that. You can have a pretty cheap wedding by going abroad and then ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my GF about a sketchy e-mail to her ex I discovered?
Q. How do I confront my girlfriend about an sketchy email she sent to her ex that I discovered? I had a feeling my girlfriend was talking to her ex so I checked her email on her phone and sure enough there was a email sent to him. It really struck h...
A. 1 December 2008: You were wrong to check her emails but it is done now.
She's been leading you on and using you as a time filler until she can get back with her ex at a later date.
Tell her you were wrong and you're sorry, but that you check her email and sa... (read in full...)
Should I try to ressurect our dead platonic relationship?
Q. I made a friends with a girl, aged 44. I am 49. At first I saw her as a possible girlfriend, but after a couple of dates I realised she wasn't for me: she had too much of a brick wall around her emotionally. She's also a drinker, heavy smoker, and ...
A. 1 December 2008: Why would you phone and apologise?????
I do not get what possible reason you would have for doing that.
Let her go on her merry way and don't speak to her again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
For Christmas my hubby wants to go to an all male revue!!
Q. Earlier this week me and my husband were discussing Christmas presents - what to get for each other, family and friends etc. and the conversation was going well until my husband said he wanted to go to see a male revue/review (?? what's the correct ...
A. 1 December 2008: Well if you don't want to do it then put your foot down and tell him it is not happening.
He's refusing to talk about it so why should you?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He abused me and I left, now he wants me to come back, and help pay the rent as agreed, what should I do?l
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Our relationship has been nothing but a rollar coster of emotions. We just moved into our own place which was probably the first mistake I made.(i think) Well as soon as we got all our things into our new ...
A. 1 December 2008: If you want to take the chance he will change then go back. I think you have to follow your gut.
But you have to do it on the condition that if he EVER puts a FOOT out of line then you will leave and never come back even if it means he's homeless... (read in full...)
He controlled, abused, and manipulated, now is angry, because he doesn't know where you live, why?
Q. why does a person that has abused, manipulated and controlled you not like it when they dont know where you are living anymore?...
A. 1 December 2008: Because they can't control abuse and manipulate you any more.
He wants to carry on.
Tell him to leave you alone or you'll get a restraining order.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 1 December 2008: You have brought this up before so she knows you are not happy.
She just seems to not be the type of girl who is into sex that much.
Stop putting so much pressure on her and chill out about everything else.
I think in the long run you are ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with some one who doesn't love me or doesn't want to be with me.
Q. I've been with my girlfirend for all most 2 years now but she never has the time of day for me, whenever I try to get to see her she always "says" she working but I ask all the time every day and she still says they ask them first when one day I ...
A. 1 December 2008: I think you know what to do.
She is choosing not to make time to be with you so I think you need to end this.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't calling/texting...
Q. Thanks for anyone spending the time to answer my question. I'm 17 and I'm dating an 29 soon to be 30 year old guy. I'm in college , so this takes away the "still living with my parents" factor Nobody knows about our realtionship. If my parents ...
A. 1 December 2008: You're not being treated well, he's too old for you, you have to keep this a secret...
What on earth is there that's worth waiting for?
Even without the age gap, he's not exactly the worlds best boyfriend.
Find someone else who treats ... (read in full...)
Should I go back just to make him happy?
Q. Hi there, I was in a relationship which lasted for 2 months, as time went by I realised that he is not what I wanted (being with him), so I decided to call it off, when I told him my decision he was very absent confused, fustrated and said that if I ...
A. 1 December 2008: Yes you should go and be a prisoner in a relationship that you don't want, have sex and fake it because you don't like him in that way, and waste your life and miss your chance on finding real love.
Come on!!!
If you think he's at risk of harmi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary...
Q. My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary. he follows me around everywhere and he keeps on saying hes possessed or something like that and that he belongs to the devil and stuff and he is being serious. I tried to break up with him the he ...
A. 15 November 2008: It might make his angry but it also may be the thing that makes him seek help.
As I said, you are only one girl. You are not a psychologist and you can't diagnose him.
Why not tell his parents about your worries before you split up with hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary...
Q. My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary. he follows me around everywhere and he keeps on saying hes possessed or something like that and that he belongs to the devil and stuff and he is being serious. I tried to break up with him the he ...
A. 15 November 2008: Being a Christian doesn't have anything to do with it sweetie. You are a teenage girl and the only way you can help him is by getting an adult to help him.
You are putting yourself in danger and for what??
It seems you are trapped and he i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary...
Q. My boyfriend is starting to get annoying and scary. he follows me around everywhere and he keeps on saying hes possessed or something like that and that he belongs to the devil and stuff and he is being serious. I tried to break up with him the he ...
A. 15 November 2008: He sounds like he might actually be developing mental problems. Give him back the earings and break up with him. Make sure you have a friend with you (or within a few yards) when you do it in case he goes crazy.
If he gets any worse I think yo... (read in full...)
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