Why does she have to be so awkward?
Q. Hi I am a Christian but my Atheist girlfriend refuses to celebrate Christmas, what gives? No one else seems to have a problem, why does she have to be so awkward?...
A. 16 December 2008: She's not just an atheist, she's an extremist atheist.
Ask her if she'll celebrate winter solstice instead?
It's just like all those people who said that it was pointless going out on 31st December 1999 because the real millennium was 3... (read in full...)
Is this a sign of bad treatment?
Q. Hello! - What do you make of this? I'm with a man who is constantly short of cash! Anyway, the other day he sent me my Xmas card through the post with no stamp!! So muggins here had to pay!! - How bad is that?! - I havn't got round to asking h...
A. 16 December 2008: No it's a sign that he's an idiot.
If he was treating you badly he wouldn't have sent one at all. I very much doubt that this is an elaborate ruse to con you out of £1.20 at the post office.
It's a case of put up or shut up here.
Accept... (read in full...)
Do you think he may just be into teenage girls, and when I reach 25 he might go for someone younger?
Q. This is a bit of a weird one. I am 19 years old. My boyfriend is 25. We are with each other nearly two years. Though I don't act/look my age (most people think I am 25, my boyfriend innitially thought this from my character before we star...
A. 16 December 2008: If he liked girls who looked like teenagers then why is he with you? (when you say you look 25)
No one can say for sure whether he will still want to be with you in 6 years time. No one can say whether you will want to be with him in 6 years ti... (read in full...)
Do penis pills work?
Q. does anyone know if those penis pills work? and if they do which ones will work?...
A. 16 December 2008: No they do not.
There are surgeries available but all surgery carries a risk.
Your best bet is to keep thin and learn how to be a great lover. It really is what you do with it that counts.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 16 December 2008: I'm sorry sweetie but I think I've given you all the help I can.
If it gets to the point where you can't cope any more then you may need to end the relationship as it's not very good for your mental health.
He'll be home for Christmas surely... (read in full...)
How can I know if he's a great guy, or the type who uses girls, as I am told?
Q. How can i tell if hes a great, awesome guy, or a perverted jerk? One of my friends, fred, seems to me to be a great guy. Flirty and has a bit of a dirty sense of humor but overall a great guy. But some people think that he is a perverted jerk w...
A. 15 December 2008: he and his brother are the type of guys who if they find out ur not comfortable w/something will do it to u until u get comfortable w/them.
Not cool.
Guys who specifically enjoy doing something you have told them not to do are guys to steer cl... (read in full...)
I think I have a bladder infection or something
Q. Hello everyone, I have a question concerning my health. Lately I've been urinatingvery often, and I mean VERY often! I'm not pregnant and I am in a comitted relationship with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We don't use protection because we trust...
A. 15 December 2008: Get checked by a doctor and take some multi-vitamins.
I went through a phase of eating badly and I had some of the same problems until I started taking my A-Z tablets.
Also try drinking cranberry juice as this is supposed to help.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
What is she thinking?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago. we have spent alot of time apart now considering that we used 2 live together and spend every second of every day together. we met up again (which isnt the first time since we've broken up) and today went ...
A. 15 December 2008: Sounds like she really sees you as the guy to marry, but she wants to go out and have fun first so she's not bitter about it later on.
Be her friend and if you are prepared and strong enough then tell her she can go and have a fling or somethin... (read in full...)
When should I give him his stuff back?
Q. me and my boy broke up should i give him his stuff back? its only been like 4 days or should i wait until we get back from christmas break? to show im stronger!! WOOO!...
A. 15 December 2008: Wait till he asks for it and then meet him with a box of it in a neutral place.
Hand it over and then go.
Tell him you are just on your way to do some shopping / meet a friend so you can't stop. Thank him for bringing your stuff back if he... (read in full...)
Is it good to defend him when he's being treated like this?
Q. I've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years now. I'm 16 and he is 19. We've known each other since we were really young, and we were best friends before we got together. The problem is his mother. I've never really felt like she's liked me...
A. 15 December 2008: I don't think starting a massive row with his mother is a good way to help this situation.
I think what you need to do is just support your boyfriend.
As soon as she's gone just tell him she's talking crap and he shouldn't let her make him fee... (read in full...)
The thought of pregnancy makes me very nervous and scared, what should I do?
Q. OK, so i feel weird asking this, but I can't ask any friends or family. I am not a young teen, but I'm not like 18 either and I know a lot of families with kids and I don't wanna have kids when I grow up and get married. I always think about ...
A. 15 December 2008: I'm 25 and married and the whole idea of growing a living baby inside me and then squeezing it out through my private parts (ripping them along the way) is utterly TERRIFYING!
Some women just don't want to go through that.
You are perfectly no... (read in full...)
Any encouraging advice for me? My relationship is bringing me down...
Q. I've lost practically all my friends because of the relationship I'm in. I feel completely inadequate to everyone else in my life. I'm frustrated because my biological father doesn't give a flying crap that I'm alive. I've lost the spark in my ...
A. 15 December 2008: Your dad may be rubbish, but unfortunately not all children come from people who want to love and cherish them.
Accept that he's a dud and stop trying. It's his loss if he misses out on your life.
As for the boyfriend / friends thing...... (read in full...)
Was it cold hearted of me to tell him no? We're just too young for marriage!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me. I say no because I dont think im mature enough for marriage and we're both 19. Dont get me wrong I do love him but and 19 seems insanely young for that kind of commitment. I think might destroy him cause now ...
A. 15 December 2008: He's obviously hurt and angry with you and is taking it out on you in a fairly immature way.
Explain to him that just because you said no doesn't mean you'll say no for ever. Tell him that you just don't want to get engaged before the age of 21 / ... (read in full...)
How can I know if he's a great guy, or the type who uses girls, as I am told?
Q. How can i tell if hes a great, awesome guy, or a perverted jerk? One of my friends, fred, seems to me to be a great guy. Flirty and has a bit of a dirty sense of humor but overall a great guy. But some people think that he is a perverted jerk w...
A. 15 December 2008: If he has a reputation like that it is usually for a reason.
There is a guy here who cheats on his wife a LOT and is an absolutely evil guy.
The first few times I met him he was UTTERLY charming and lovely. They always are. If they were horrib... (read in full...)
Should I hold it against her that she neglected to tell me she has kids?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for six months now. I am very much in love with her and want to take the next step in asking her to marry me. We are in a long distance relationship now. We communicate daily and never run out of ...
A. 15 December 2008: I can understand it from her point of view. Perhaps she just liked you so much she didn't want to risk being rejected by you.
Tell her that you are hurt by it and that you want to know if there is ANYTHING else that she has been hiding from you... (read in full...)
Struggling with being unemployed and in a boring relationship, help!
Q. i'm 24 years old and I'm struggling with things. I'm pretty well educated but I'm having a hard time finding a job in my field, and i've been unemployed for quite some time now. I also find that I'm really bored in life. I have friends but I only ...
A. 15 December 2008: Unemployment will do this to you.
If you have a brain and are forced to sit at home doing nothing then you are bound to start going crazy.
I recommend getting a job.... and I mean ANY job. It may be crap and not what you want to do but get so... (read in full...)
What is "Lolita Syndrome"?
Q. hi my moms new boyfriend told me that i have Lolita syndrome and i better fix it before he is alone with me. is that some sort of disease? could he catch it from me? should i tell my mom so i can get checked?...
A. 10 December 2008: Lolita was a character in a book.
She was 12 and seduced much older men. He's saying you are acting sexily and he's sexually attracted to you.
Tell your mother.
The word Lolita is usually now associated with child porn for a reason.
Go... (read in full...)
Define flirting!
Q. What is flirting? I am 16 and have a 15 year old gf. She spends most of her waking hours calling me on the phone and at school devotes as much time to being with me as possible. But there are some things that bother me. For instance about two weeks ...
A. 9 December 2008: She may have been flirting but that doesn't mean anything.
If you don't like it then tell her. Just explain calmly that it upsets you to see her flirting with other guys.
I flirt all the time and it means nothing. My husband doesn't care. If... (read in full...)
She wants me to find the answer through God to see if we can make it work.
Q. We have known each other for 3 or so years (a little more). We have strong feelings for each other and we are having a really difficult time. We know alot of things about each other and well technically its getting to the point where i want to know ...
A. 7 December 2008: She talks about religion a lot but have you pointed out to her that she is leading you on and hurting you repeatedly?
Marriage is all very good, but if she is getting beaten then she needs to divorce.
I don't get why she is doing things tha... (read in full...)
How else can I pleasure myself besides masturbation?
Q. what are other ways i can pleasure myself besides masturbation?...
A. 7 December 2008: Chocolate and video games?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I allowed myself to get manipulated into a quick marriage so now what?
Q. I got married to a man I hardly knew two year s ago after coming out of an abusive relationship. The attention from this man made me feel reassured and I feel that I allowed myself to be manipulated into a quick marriage also due to social pressures ...
A. 7 December 2008: I think you need to ask him seriously what there is in it for you to stick around.
He doesn't provide for you, he doesn't make you feel valued or loved.
Tell him he needs to move to the UK and be a proper husband or that you are better off w... (read in full...)
Does he feel guilty about the way he treated me?
Q. I was with my ex for 2 months before he split with me for someone else back in august. I was in love with him so this was heartbreaking for me. 2 weeks later I find that Im pregnant by him. He didnt want to know and so I had an abortion as Im too ...
A. 7 December 2008: I'd just leave it.
He left you for someone else. You went through an abortion because of him.
You may still love him but he did those things and even if he tries to change that doesn't change the fact that there will always be all that stuff h... (read in full...)
Does she love me and what does the picture mean?
Q. There is this girl who is a close friend of mine,she looks me in the eye,allows me to hold her hand,smiles at me,comes to visit me. I told her i liked her and wanted her to be my gf but she said she was not ready for a relationship. I asked her to ...
A. 7 December 2008: It means she trusts you and is getting a bit closer to you.
It still may not mean she wants a relationship.
If she doesn't want a relationship then don't let yourself fall for her.
Be her friend but stop chasing her.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I approach the subject of having an open relationship with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm a guy in my early 30's and I've been with my boy friend for over 2 years, he is quite younger than me (24) I love him very much, I care for him and push him in his studies so all going well. The only thing is before meeting him I had a ve...
A. 7 December 2008: I think you are right that he is a bit young and so he probably wants to be in love with you and be committed to one person.
It's sad but if you aren't willing to give him what he wants in love then you are doing him a favour by setting him free... (read in full...)
She gave me a reward for rescuing her dog, but I feel so bad for taking it!
Q. hi. i rescued a lost dog the other day, and the woman gave me £9 for it, but i feel soooo bad for taking it now. its not alot to me but to some people its an awful lot, especially around the christmas period what do you all think i should do? give ...
A. 7 December 2008: You are a lovely person!
I think she probably values her dog at more than £9 so don't feel too bad.
You could always use it to buy gifts for your family and friends for Christmas. When you get a lucky break pass it on!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Used for sex!
Q. During my holiday from England, I met this gay boy on the gay beach with his friends. He chatted me up and constantly complimented me on my appearance and made it quite obvious he wanted to have some fun with me. I wasn't too keen at first but fell ...
A. 7 December 2008: I'm sorry this happened to you hun.
The way you stop it from happening is to not have sex with someone until you have made sure they care about you and want a relationship.
Holidays are especially dangerous time as everyone will be more wil... (read in full...)
I'm worried her affair is tit for tat, what can I do except for hoping she returns to me?
Q. I had an affair last year told my wife and she gave me space to work it out, after two months the affair ended. Recently she told me she'd been having an affair after mine ended and is still seeing the man. She wants to sell our house and buy two so ...
A. 7 December 2008: I don't think there is anything you can do here.
You hurt her badly and say yourself that the passion has gone.
I take it that this means you have not put much effort into making her feel sexy and loved, which is why she went elsewhere. What ... (read in full...)
I ejaculated inside, is there a chance of pregnancy if she takes the pill?
Q. Help! Me and my girlfriend always have sex without a condom but i pull out and although i know that isnt completely effective we both feel better that i do. but last night we both got caught up in sex that i ended up cuming inside her. She take...
A. 7 December 2008: The pill is 98% effective at preventing pregnancy.
The main thing you have to worry about if you don't use condoms is disease.
If you want to avoid pregnancy 100% then use the pill and condoms.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How to show him it hurts when I make an effiort to spend time together and he backs off?
Q. i spent the last 2 days working hard and kissing so much ass at work to get monday and tuesday off so i can spend the days with my bf now he told me he asked to do extra shifts thoses days even though he knows i worked so hard to get them off. his ...
A. 6 December 2008: It doesn't say your age or how serious this relationship, but if he's not prepared to stand up for you now, do you think he'll ever be prepared to do it?
You say he thinks sorry will be enough and that he has done this before. Well in that cas... (read in full...)
My ex's boyfriend is a loser who calls her bad names - what can I do to get her back?
Q. I grew up with a girl and started dating her at 17 she was 15. I was going in the marines and broke it off. I still loved her but could not have a girl freind at the time. My body messed up in the marines and we started talking/dated agen. I was no...
A. 6 December 2008: Well you may have thought you've done her favours by splitting up with her twice but as far as she's concerned, a man she really liked, dumped her, hurt her, got back together with her and hurt her again.
This new guy may not be nice but at least... (read in full...)
I'm stressed from constantly being rejected because I am not sexy enough to be a girlfriend!
Q. hi 29 yaers no boyfreind ever and never being kissed may be i am not girlfreind material and what girlfreind material i don,t know? ilike guys who find me sexual attractive so i am left on the shelf but other girls are girlfreind .why do some guy...
A. 6 December 2008: Ask someone who knows you for advice on this.
Why not ask your male friend why he thinks guys don't find you more approachable.
It could be vibes you give out that make guys think you are taken or not interested in them.
Ask for some ho... (read in full...)
If I am pregnant it will make me the happiest woman alive, but I'm scared her reaction will cast a huge shadow over our happy news
Q. Hi. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 20. We haven't been together very long (6 months) but we are very much in love. We decided that I would stop taking the contraceptive pill to try and get pregnant. We are both sure that this is what we want, i have ...
A. 6 December 2008: Why not tell her you are trying for a baby, then you can deal with her hysterics early on and then in a few weeks once you are sure you can tell her and she won't react so mentally.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to like sex, or even masturbation?
Q. My husband is a 36 year old male who has a low sex drive. We have been married for 3 and a half years and he very rarely initiates sex (usually after I have nagged him about it). He is very affectionate and loving, yet that does not seem to ...
A. 6 December 2008: I wonder why you didn't sort this out before you married? Was it different in the beginning? It sounds like he has always been like this.
It's sad to say that some people just aren't that sexual and aren't that into it. That's not a reflecti... (read in full...)
2 men are being friendly... or are they being more than friendly?
Q. I would like to know whether either of these two men are showing interest in me. First one at my child's school. He came past and very politely said hello and on the way home from school he passed me on the opposite side of the road and smiled ...
A. 6 December 2008: You seem to be looking for any little sign of attraction and personally, I am more friendly than those 2 and I'm not attracted to you.
I think if you want someone in your life then you should start to flirt a bit more, and look a bit further ... (read in full...)
Fashion question...
Q. Is it ok to wear a red satin dress with some simple blue suede heels?...
A. 6 December 2008: I'd say yes but then I don't mind standing out in the crowd.
Accessorise with a blue bag, and a blue necklace or something in your hair.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My husband told his ex he only stays with me for our child, I don't know what to do...
Q. Okay I read my husbands messenger conversations, and well he told his ex that he was no longer attracted to me and the only reason he wont leave me is because of 2 year old. I confronted him and he told me that he was just being a jerk and it was ...
A. 6 December 2008: I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him at this point.
If he wants to stay with you then he has a LOT of work to do to make it up to you and prove that he does love you.
If he really was just there for the kid would you let him stay... (read in full...)
How to stop crying over a guy? Please help me I need it!?
Q. I hate myself, I'm hopelessly in love with a guy who will never be mine. He's far away and I've being crying for TWO ******* YEARS now. I feel a BIG HOLE in my soul, and nothing seems to cure it. I pray at night to God to make me forget him, and to ...
A. 6 December 2008: You can't have only met one guy in 2 years.
Get out and make some friends, get yourself a life to occupy yourself with and try and meet a decent guy that doesn't "hit on you" but is a friend.
The guy you are crying over has probably become ... (read in full...)
How can I get off this drug?
Q. Someone help - this weird thing I have for marijuana. I been smoking for a year now but I am hooked on it. It's about 2-3 joints a day. I'm finding it difficult to stop. Anybody got any suggestions for me? I'm 18 by the way. ...
A. 6 December 2008: Talk to Frank. They can help you will all the local groups and advice over the phone to help you quit.
http://www.talktofrank.com/home_html.aspx
Until then just figure out what it is in your life that you are so desperate to escape from. Is ... (read in full...)
After ALL my sacrifices for her, she doesn't care! I have wasted 9 years. Please advise.
Q. Hi. I'm a British guy who was divorced after a long term relationship. I'm from a South Asian background. I posted up my details on a matrimonial site as I was 31 at the time and needed to find a companion. Altho many many girls were interested, I ...
A. 6 December 2008: I find it hard to have sympathy for you as much as I probably should.
You have done all this of your own free will. No one put a gun against your head. You could have said no at any time, you could have not had children, you could have put the ... (read in full...)
No win situation!
Q. Hi, My best friend Alexia has been with her boyfriend for two years +. I've become very close to both of them and her bf is now like a brother to me. Last year, he went to uni Alexia since then has slept with four other lads and at a party, she was...
A. 5 December 2008: I think he already knows that she is cheating on him.
He's seen proof with his own eyes and she is refusing to even deny it.
All you can do is tell him that you are so sorry for everything that is happening and that you will be there for him no... (read in full...)
Drama!!
Q. MY Fiance And I Have Been Dating For Little Over a year and we have major issues with his ex( daughters mother) interfering. sitting outside my house, following me around to the beauty salon, calling me, taking me to court for harassment, suing me, ...
A. 5 December 2008: Get a restraining order against her.
I would question him on why he is not being more supportive when she is actually taking you to court.
Tell him he has to give you more help or you will leave. He may not want to piss her off or she may make ... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 27 September 2008: Sweetie, with everything you've said I really think you are just going to have to accept that yours is going to a long distance relationship for a while. If this relationship is for real and you really are planning to be in love with him for the... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 26 September 2008: If you join up then you will definitely be separated, for years at a time. The army chooses where you go to. You don't get a choice in the matter. Plus you'll be miserable if you aren't joining the army for yourself.
Imagine 6 months in Afghanis... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: That's good point. If you don't want to get married straight away then you could find someone to rent a room from.
I'm sure there are other private soldiers who are married and could have a spare room. It might be a bit awkward if you were liv... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think you need parental permission to get married under 18, but that shouldn't be a problem.
When he gets deployed you can always come home and move back in with your parents so you are not alone.
I would just say to be very very careful bef... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 1 September 2008: Marry him. Get a civil partnership and the army will pay for you to move out there and give you a house.
Either that of you need to go out on holiday and start job hunting. The army is banned from one or two resorts due to bars getting smashed ... (read in full...)
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