In love with my flatmate - but is a good idea to make a move?
Q. Hey. I live in a shared house with 4 other people. A few months ago the latest flat mate moved in. From the first moment i saw her i thought she was gorgeous, but i didn't do anything about it, as i just thought my feelings where down to h...
A. 7 May 2009: Cool, as long as you are ok with each other that is the main thing.
Friends are excellent to have. You make some of your best ones at uni.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I go back just to make him happy?
Q. Hi there, I was in a relationship which lasted for 2 months, as time went by I realised that he is not what I wanted (being with him), so I decided to call it off, when I told him my decision he was very absent confused, fustrated and said that if I ...
A. 1 December 2008: Yes you should go and be a prisoner in a relationship that you don't want, have sex and fake it because you don't like him in that way, and waste your life and miss your chance on finding real love.
Come on!!!
If you think he's at risk of harmi... (read in full...)
Do I wait 6 months to get back with ex?
Q. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago, won't go into detail, but it wasn’t because he didn’t love me, but because he thought at the time we wanted different things. He has just contact me and apologised for being stubborn and said he feels really bad ...
A. 1 December 2008: I think you should go off and live life and do what ever you want to do over the next 6 months... and then when he comes home if you still feel the same way then perhaps get back with him.
He's made you a fair offer.
He's going to go and ... (read in full...)
In love with my flatmate - but is a good idea to make a move?
Q. Hey. I live in a shared house with 4 other people. A few months ago the latest flat mate moved in. From the first moment i saw her i thought she was gorgeous, but i didn't do anything about it, as i just thought my feelings where down to h...
A. 1 December 2008: It's sad but I have to agree with hotpinkgirl. It's not worth the risk of
a) it ruining your friendship
b) the breakup causing misery for the whole house.
She's probably in the same puzzle as you are if she likes you too.
Wait till on... (read in full...)
My boyfriend barely talks to me...
Q. Me and my boyfriend barely talk, we're supposed to be going out. Although we are complete opposites (he loves sport, im not really a fan of swimming but he loves it) we should at least be able to say hi, how are you, but not just wave. I really like ...
A. 1 December 2008: He's scared of talking to you because he's a little boy still.
It could be that he is just not ready to have a girlfriend yet.
Arrange to hang out with him and try and get him to open up and talk to you. If you can't do it then you might need t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says his priority is his drinking!
Q. my boyfriend says his priority is his drinking, i'm expected to buy all household items, baby items. i'm surprised he gives me half for the babysitter. he recently lent me 30 dollars because i needed to buy OUR daughter a thanksgiving outfit, the ...
A. 1 December 2008: Wow he's really really using you.
I know you don't want to leave him but you can't stay with a man who puts alcohol above his children.
Tell him you need him to actually put your relationship and his child above drinking or you will find a real... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend hang out with girls when I'm not there?
Q. Should I let my boyfriend hang out with other females when Im not there, at all?...
A. 1 December 2008: If you think he is not an animal and will not pounce on them as soon as your back is turned then yes.
He should not be a prisoner.
If a man told you who you were and were not allowed to talk to then I would be telling you to kick his arse fo... (read in full...)
I told my baby sister that Santa isn't real, did I crush her belief?
Q. My sister (she's 5) has been bugging me (im 15) about santa lately. I got annoyed so I told her that Santa doesn't exists. She haven't been quite the same. She when this happy little girl to this depress person. Did I crush her belief? ...
A. 1 December 2008: Yep, you are a bad big brother right now.
I think you should do some kind of trick that gives her complete proof that Santa is real.
Post her a letter from him thanking her for being good this year and that he will see her soon. But that s... (read in full...)
I think he's going to propose and I'm worried...
Q. My boyfriend (16) and I (15) have been dating for 6 months now. We love each other SO much and we love being together. We're compatible in every way but... I think he's going to propose. He's been talking about it the last 2 weeks and I'm getting ...
A. 1 December 2008: Start talking about how tacky it is when teenagers get married and how when you get OLDER you want your MAN to do something spectacular like take you for a hot air balloon ride.
Just bring it up and make sure he knows that engagement and marriage... (read in full...)
I would love to call myself gay, but I feel unsure about it...
Q. I am 16 and unsure what to consider myself. I pretty much watch exclusively gay porn, but women occasionally attract me. I feel an attraction to men and not to women in public. I would love to just call myself gay, but for some reason I am unsure. I ...
A. 1 December 2008: You are only 16, and you have attractions to both sexes.
This could mean you are bi, or it could mean you are on the way to being gay, or it could be a phase and you could marry a lovely girl one day.
No one can tell the future so I wouldn't ru... (read in full...)
Is porn and masturbation everyday bad?
Q. Im 15 and i masturbate every day and look at porn is that a bad thing to do?...
A. 1 December 2008: The masturbation is normal for your age.
The porn is not.
If you watch these actresses fake it all day everyday then it is bound to have an affect on how you will view real girls and how you think sex actually is.
Porn is not real and ... (read in full...)
Help? I have no social or love life, please give me suggestions?
Q. Hi, I am 23 and student teaching and working full time on my master's program and I am missing my social life. I hardly have any time to go out socially (and I'm not being paid for student teaching, so I don't have the money either-my parents are ...
A. 1 December 2008: Your masters is going to be hell for a year or two and it's dark and miserable out so it's no wonder that you are feeling down.
But you knew it was going to be tough. And you know this is going to be worth it when you can got the job you want at ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is gaining weight, I'm less attracted to her, how do I let her know or not?
Q. Hi, looking for a little advice really. Ive been dating for about nine months now, think the world of my GF But..since we started dating she has gained, maybee 2-3 stone on a 5ft 9 frame. She has always been fairly large which didnt bother ...
A. 1 December 2008: I wouldn't tell her anything.
However much you sugar coat it "I don't want to have sex with you because you are too fat." will not go down well.
Instead, why not just suggest that you both do something to get fit.
My friends go salsa dancing... (read in full...)
After a 15 month relationship, should I , I'm 18, marry my boyfriend, or wait?
Q. i am 18 years old and my question is should i marry my boyfriend, he is also 18 and we have been dating for a year and three months. i know i am young , but i want to know if the aunts from dear cupid think i should wait alittle longer...
A. 1 December 2008: Why do you need to get married? Why spend all that money?
Why not carry on as you are and travel together and do amazing things together.
You are very young and you have not been together for very long. Has your relationship been tested at a... (read in full...)
How do I get her out of my mind?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm a first year university student in London, and recently went to visit my friend in Manchester for a week (study week). Whilst I was there I met one of her friends and I know it sounds creepy but I can't stop thinking about her. I'v...
A. 1 December 2008: So she is mysterious, unavailable, beautiful, and you got on well.
It's no wonder you can't stop thinking about her but please just consider that this may be an infatuation rather than love and that you have probably been filling in a lot of detai... (read in full...)
I have been with my boyfriend for three years and I find it hard to get turned on by him. Am I a lesbian?
Q. I don't know what to think I've been with men for as long as I have been having sex and I've always enjoyed sex but I've also always secretly liked to watch lesbian porn. If I watch hetro porn I get really turned on by the sight of the penetration ...
A. 1 December 2008: It appears you are at least bi-curious. No one can tell you what is going on in your head. You may like men and women, or this could be a phase, or it could be a sign that you would be happier with women full stop.
But then you must have some fee... (read in full...)
It's been three days after we had sex and he still hasn't called!
Q. Okay. This is kind of hard to talk about but... I met a guy and we began getting to know one another a little... texting mostly. we smoked together a few times... it was clear that we were both interested...then one day something told me to ask him ...
A. 1 December 2008: Sappy girl is right I'm afraid.
You knew he had a girlfriend and then slept with him. So in his mind you are not girlfriend material.
He could also be having an attack of conscience. He's cheated on his girlfriend so now he feels bad and is... (read in full...)
Why is my vagina burning during sex?
Q. I was having sex with my boyfriend tonight and at first it felt really really good, but then my vagina started burning! its never happened before, so I don't know what's wrong. help! please....
A. 1 December 2008: Assuming you don't STD it's probably just that your body had had enough and you had stopped being wet.
Sometimes sex stops being a turn on and you have enough of it.
You have to either stop, stop and try foreplay to see if that does anything, o... (read in full...)
How do I get over a 5 year affair?
Q. I've been married for 26 years and have been having an affair for the last 5. I don't want to hear about what a piece of shit I am, I just want to hear about how I can forget the other man. My marriage was a good one, but my husband has neve...
A. 1 December 2008: Don't think of him as a man, think of him as a drug.
You know drugs are bad and that you'll have a 2 day come down for 20 minutes of pure pleasure. You know that they are not worth it and wreck lives.
But you go out and someone offers you a lin... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him happy?
Q. My boyfriend got mad at me because I hugged my dad when he got me an ipod today for my birthday. My boyfriend said he doesn't want me hugging other guys. What can I do to make him happy? ...
A. 30 November 2008: Are you serious?
He's just shown himself to be a controlling manipulative freak and you want to make him happy?
The answer is that you will never be able to make him happy. He doesn't even like you hugging your dad so there are bound to be lots... (read in full...)
Will a woman go after the "working" man who's best for her - even if he's off-limits?
Q. Good evening! I've a silly question really. I'd like to know from the lovely ladies out there who frequent this web-site whether you can genuinely be selective about who you decide to date in a working environment. In other words, if a guy was 'off ...
A. 27 November 2008: I hate these "do women love X?" questions. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT, WE ARE NOT A BREED.
So you are basically saying "do women have morals?"
Well, yes, most of us do have morals and would be able to resist a guy who was married. Even though we h... (read in full...)
Is it better to wait for pre-cum to appear before putting on the condom?
Q. Is it better to wait for pre-cum to appear before putting on the condom? It takes me a long time to cum. Is this normal at my age?...
A. 27 November 2008: The condom goes on before you go inside her.
End of.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm very, very worried about my ex!
Q. I'm very, very worried about my ex. Unfortunately she's not the most responsible girl. Before I met her she would go jogging in the sketchy parts or town at night. She'd come home and tell me how the guy that drove them home was drunk! She hurt...
A. 27 November 2008: Unfortunately you are not her mother.
She has to make her own mistakes. You sent her a clear message that her behaviour is not acceptable by splitting up with her.
If you are ready to be her friend then just tell her that if she ever needs s... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so sensitive?
Q. I'm having problems with my boyfriend, I have to count every word I say when I'm with him because he easily gets upset with things I say, even though I honestly thought I was only conversing, he thinks I can't talk to people and he's the only person ...
A. 27 November 2008: You shouldn't be with someone like this.
It must be torture trying to be with him if you are scared of saying the wrong thing all the time.
It's not healthy.
Spend some time away from him and you'll find it's a relief. Break up with hi... (read in full...)
Dating for five years and he's always putting me down.
Q. I have been dating this guy for five years and he tells me he has strong feelings for me everyday but how could I take him servious when he always downing me and always have something negative to say to me, what am I suppose to do?...
A. 27 November 2008: Next time he says something horrible to you then tell him you are sick of it and if he says something like that to you again then you will dump him.
Then if he does it again... dump him.
No man should make you feel crap about yourself and the... (read in full...)
I really want to get back together with him as I do believe this was all just a stupid mistake.
Q. My boyfriend (17) and I (18) have been going out for just over a year and 10 months now, however we are going through a really rough patch at the moment. Since february of this year 2008, he and i have been planning a holiday to Paris, disneyland, ...
A. 27 November 2008: So your question is how can you make your parents see that he has changed?
How has he changed? He hasn't done anything to make this up to you. YOU had to chase him for an explanation and he's just made up some crap about how he didn't want to ... (read in full...)
Is she testiing me after 8 months of nonsense?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have been dating this girl (# 1) (28 years old) for 8 months. Months ago she basically said only friend status. Days later from that she went on vacation and I met another women. I dated her (lets call her # 2) for a couple months ...
A. 27 November 2008: She might have sex with you but that doesn't mean she'll stop acting this way.
If she doesn't want to be your girlfriend then find a girl who will.
Why hang around hoping for her to change her mind when she doesn't exactly see you as a high pr... (read in full...)
I want to have a baby but my partner wants to wait... and wait... and wait...
Q. My partner and I have been together for a year and half - which isn't long, but we have also been living together for just over a year. We get on very well and love each other enormously. Recently I have been thinking about having children ...
A. 27 November 2008: I think this is going to be really tough for you but I think if you have to make the choice between this guy and having kids, you would pick kids.
Talk to him. Tell him you know he isn't ready and you respect that but you want to know how long rou... (read in full...)
How can I shift these spots?
Q. This is irritating me. I know this has nothing to do with relationships, but I need help. I've tried everything but my spots just won't go away. Everynight and morning I rub a spott cleansing lotion on my face. Every other day I wash it. And occ...
A. 27 November 2008: How is your diet?
Fruit and veg could help.
Also try taking evening primrose and start oil. You can get them from the supermarket. They are usually marked as for women.
Try using a scrub every day and remember to moisturise so your skin ... (read in full...)
Happily married for decades? How'd you know it would work or did you just decide to make it work?
Q. I am looking for people who have been happily married for 20+ years on this one. How did you know this was the right person for you? Was it passionate at the beginning or was it respect that grew to admiration that grew to love? ...
A. 27 November 2008: I keep seeing this question and no one is replying to you.
I don't think there is anyone on here that has been married that long. Try asking your parent's friends?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Did the girl of my dreams write down the wrong number?
Q. Back in August this gorgeous girl came into job and I was too nervous to talk to her, but another guy who works there got her number. For months I've been wallowing in regret thinking of all the things I should have said but didn't have the nerve ...
A. 27 November 2008: Sounds 50 : 50 to me.
You'll just have to wait until you see her again and then tell her you tried to call her.
Either that of can you try and find her on facebook or something and send a message?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
For the past few weeks my fiance's refused to have sex with me.
Q. For the past few weeks my fiance's refused to have sex with me. No matter what I tried he wouldn't have sex with me. Even dressing up in sexy lingerie didn't work - he still wouldn't have sex. I asked him if he was stressed, but he said nothing ...
A. 25 November 2008: Well you just have to keep pushing.
Get him to another doctor and get that second opinion.
Find out what the doctor said exactly... why is it nor ED? Why is that not a possibility?
Find out what it is and why your fiancé is so convinced i... (read in full...)
They want me to go to college but I don't want to go.
Q. Hi, my name is Selena and I am having a lot of problems with my parents, they want me to go to college but I don't want to go. What should I do! Should I listen to them or not??...
A. 25 November 2008: Well you can either come up with a good alternative career path and show them you are ambitious but just not academic.
Or you can give it a try and go.
College and Uni is so much fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do to become boyfriend material and not just friend material?
Q. I need help big time with this! Every time I start dating a woman, I get along very well and sometimes go for further dates. I had two short relationships, but no physical contact apart from kissing. I am very careful not to get physical too soo...
A. 25 November 2008: You say you take your time to get physical... that's good, but how much time... weeks? months?
Also being really lovely and listening and being there for the girl and finding out about their entire life history is also great but they have to view ... (read in full...)
I don't have any real close friends! It saddens me, what can I do to find some?
Q. I have no family and even though I know many many people and have many acquaintances - hundreds...I will not call any of them true friends. I feel so down about this all lately, there just seems to be a lack of nice, genuine kind people. Whenever ...
A. 25 November 2008: Well if you have an active social life then you just have to keep plugging away at it.
If you meet someone who you want to get closer to as a friend then just take a chance and text them and ask how their day was.
Keep meeting new people and t... (read in full...)
Six months later, she's acting differently and it's breaking my heart.
Q. Hello. I am going steady with my girlfriend for 6 months now. I am 39 and she is 48. The first few months were perfect...we loved each other so much. Now 6 months later things are different. We don`t kiss as often as before,she does not tell me she ...
A. 24 November 2008: Well I'm really sorry to break this to you but it looks like you love her a bit more than she loves you.
Back off, give her space and give her a chance to miss you.
If she is feeling smothered then this could be solvable.
If her feelings... (read in full...)
I broke up with her and now realized what a big mistake I made! How do I fix this?
Q. Ive been dating this girl for three weeks and i broke up with her for a stupid cause i wasn't sure if i really cared about her. Now i've realized that i made a mistake and that i want her back what should i do?...
A. 23 November 2008: Go to her, tell her, beg her, apologise.
Do something amazing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is it so difficult to have a serious relationship with someone?
Q. why its so difficult to have a (serious) relationship? everybody says i'm cute, good looking ... bla bla bla .... but i'm stil alone ... i'm friendly, openminded, funny, serious when needed .... what's wrong? ...
A. 23 November 2008: Maybe you smell?
There is no way for us to tell you what has happened and why things have gone wrong.
You just have to trust to fate, keep meeting new guys and having fun. You will find someone, you are still very young.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She informed me she's not a virgin! What shall I do?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for 3 weeks now, we have developed a really good relationship, and I was under the impression that we were both virgins. The other night however, she informed me that she is in fact not a virgin, not even close. I am the ...
A. 23 November 2008: GASP a woman in 2008 has had sex before she met YOU!
How can this be!
Get over yourself. You can't expect every girl you meat to be a virgin unless you hang out with highly religious types who will only have sex once you marry them.
Why wou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has adhd and is paranoid and controlling, what can I do to ease his mind?
Q. Hey all those in dear cupid land. ive got a bit of a problem. im with a fantastic boyfriend he has got ADHD but he's so sweet and caring, but he is so paroinoid, he always askin me if im cheating on him, or who txts me everytime i get a txt. tha...
A. 23 November 2008: There is no way to make him change.
He either has some kind of issue from the past or a guilty conscience that makes him think you can be as bad as him.
You have to consider leaving.
Give him a last chance. Tell him that you are sick of his... (read in full...)
He wants me, but without commitment...huh ?
Q. Sorry for this-its going to be long. My boyfriend broke up with me, and Im trying to make sense of this. He sent me this (after he broke up, I might add): “ok, this is the way i look at it, i dont want a relationship. period. but i do want somebo...
A. 23 November 2008: He wants to use you for sex till someone better comes along.
Tell him to take a hike.
What could you possibly want to get into this for?
He's dumped you! He doesn't care about you, he just wants to be able to have sex without putting in a... (read in full...)
Do I wait for her till she's done with her friends?
Q. Do I wait for her? Dear Cupid I met this girl (Let’s call her Kim) last year at college and we dated for some months. The first month it was just fine until I broke up with her, cuz I felt there was nothing growing between us, but after another mo...
A. 23 November 2008: Wow, what a weak minded girl that she won't even have a boyfriend because her friends won't let her.
You can hang on for her if you want and she'll may come back and be all loving until she decides to be a career woman because her friends tell her... (read in full...)
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