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writes:Thanks for anyone spending the time to answer my question.I'm 17 and I'm dating an 29 soon to be 30 year old guy. I'm in college , so this takes away the "still living with my parents" factorNobody knows about our realtionship. If my parents did, they would kill us. I have a few problems on my mind:1. Even though people say I act VERY mature for my age, I'm sort of afraid, he looks at me like a little girl. When I mention our age difference, he still feels it's sick, but he treats me like an adult. He's not a pedophile, but... does somewhere inside him still think it's wrong and he should stop?2. We have only been on two dates. After every date, he mentions when he will call. He eventually does, but for e.g. he says he calls tomorow, he calls the day AFTER tomorow. 3. He dousin't try to contact me in ANY way. The last time I called him myself (and only), he hunged up and texted me saying he was busy. He's in grad school and he has a job, so I understand if he's really THAAAAAT busy... Well.... it's been quite a while since that text message. And he still hasin't called back... Come to think of it, things aren't looking very bright.... Believe me, he is busy in his studies.. and I understand if I'm not a "top priority" in his life. but... should I wait for him? Or should I forget about him and date someone else. Yes I do have a life, my life isn't revolved around dating. Another thing I should say: I feel I'm the type "Doesn't fall in love easily, Doesn't fall out of love easily" I'm looking for something long term and serious. And he seems like a decent person. I'm just wondering if I should keep waiting for him...
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I think you should definitely move on and date other guys. You said it was only 2 dates, so no big deal, it's not like it'll be hard to forget about him. Kind of sounds like he's just busy, or maybe he just doesn't want to go on another date. But either way, I would just forget about him and date someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): Funny that even being so much older than you, he doesn't seem to be acting 'grown up'. To be honest, I think this one isn't going anywhere, particularly if you are already having to keep it secret. I bet there's a lot more decent guys your own age that will treat you better than this. Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 December 2008):
You're not being treated well, he's too old for you, you have to keep this a secret...
What on earth is there that's worth waiting for?
Even without the age gap, he's not exactly the worlds best boyfriend.
Find someone else who treats you right.
Good Luck!! xx
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