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anonymous
writes:I've been married for almost 4 years. My husband cheated on me 2mts into the marriage with my niece. Yes, my niece. I forgave him and I thought we were growing together. Come to find out he cheated on me again with a women I don't know and got her pregnant. In 2008 she had the baby. I found out by being a p.i. I felt something was wrong and going on with him again. Well the question is I just don't know what to do. He asked me to forgive him again and he see's the error of his ways. He said he knows he needs to grow up yayayayay! Now, she is filing for child support after he was giving her $300.00 a month. We can't make ends meet with the two children we have. My husband was so stupid and I know I don't deserve this. What to do.
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reader, princesspeedy +, writes (31 March 2009):
Leave, he's cheated on you twice. Why would you do that to your children. You are teaching them that it's o.k. for a marriage to have cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate! The other women has decided to not file for child support. But, she did ask for more money. I emailed her and we've been talking things over. I don't know if I am doing the right thing. She is very apologetic for what she's done. She said they were business partners and one thing led to another. She told me she is embarassed and sorry she has hurt my family. Do I believe her? Can we be one big family?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know, many of you said I should leave. Easier said then done. We've been together since we were 17 and 18. He is all I know. But, I know I can do much better without him. I may sound crazy, he is not a bad person. I think I'm staying with him for the children sake. This is just an ugly situation no matter what I say. If my sister's found out he has done this to me again, they would kill him. Sometimes I feel like I am stupid for staying. We've been working on our marriage, there are still trust issues. I pray and ask God every day, What should I do? I have thought of leaving him many of times. Just don't have the money to do so. Everyday day he tells me how sorry he is. He begs me not to leave him. I'm here, but when that door open's up for me to leave,I'm gone, kids and all.
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reader, mightaphodite +, writes (4 December 2008):
I was really touched by your story. But unlike for many I've heard so far, I think that YOU CAN solve the problem. Staying in this relationship proved to be very wrong for you and has brought you nothing by pain. He's obviously not trustworthy. As far as I understand you have financial difficulties. If I may, my advice to you would be to protect yourself by improving your own financial situation and get out! Or, if you can provide for you and your children, get out right now! In my opinion what he did is far beyond forgiveness and has been so from the very beginning of your marriage. I wish you strength and good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 December 2008):
To be honest, I really don't see what you gain by having him around.
There is absolutely no reason why this won't happen again. Do you really want to put yourself through that hurt?
Do you want your kids to grow up thinking that when they get married they should take this kind of abuse but not tell anyone and stick with it?
I would leave if I were you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): what a stupid worthless husband!
you deserve someone so much better!!
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