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writes:MY Fiance And I Have Been Dating For Little Over a year and we have major issues with his ex( daughters mother) interfering. sitting outside my house, following me around to the beauty salon, calling me, taking me to court for harassment, suing me, and he just says ignore her. Should I feel that there is something else going on between them?
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (5 December 2008):
hiyah firstly i think you should start worrying about your own safety more than would could be. Although hes right to say ignore her i feel shes taken it to another level and sometimes it takes one thing to push you over the line, hun i think she crossed that line long ago! its time for you to take action and as advised below legal action seems the most affective way of getting this gone. try talking to your fiance, explain to him how much its getting to you and how youve tryed ignoring it but you feel its gone to far and more should be done to prevent it. if your unhappy with going out of the house then something needs to be done. it cannot go on affecting all you do, for your own safety as well as her own i think you should act sooner rather than later yet i feel you need more support as its not a battle you should be tackling alone. this should test your relationship and even make it stronger depending on the way you both deal with the first blip in your early stages of your relationship. best of luck xxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 I think you should consult an attorney and see if you can do as Emily says, get a restraining order. You might also discuss with the attorney the possibility of getting her in trouble with the court for filing frivolous lawsuits.
I also question why he's not being more supportive. How can you just ignore being taken to court? That's nuts! It may be that she's so crazy that he has no idea how to deal with her. Legal advice is in order here.
Unfortunately, as she is his daughter's mother, she's a part of his life forever, dismal as that sounds. Did you by any chance start dating him before they were officially split? That might explain her behavior even if it doesn't justify the behavior. She's taking out her anger on you, when it is him who left her... people are irrational sometimes.
Good luck with the crazy lady, and with your fiance.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 December 2008):
Get a restraining order against her.
I would question him on why he is not being more supportive when she is actually taking you to court.
Tell him he has to give you more help or you will leave. He may not want to piss her off or she may make it hard between him and his daughter but it can only go so far.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, katatonik +, writes (5 December 2008):
 I think his advice is pretty decent, actually. Giving her attention for her petty behavior is going to make her feel as if she's doing a good job screwing up your life...which appears to be her goal. Act like none of this gets to you and see if the lack of response is enough to make her stop going to all this trouble. If not, get a restraining order.
I don't think her actions are evidence that there's anything still going on between her and your fiancé, either. If she and he were still together in some way she wouldn't have to go to such great length to get his attention and yours. From the way you've described her behavior, if they were still involved she would happily throw that fact in your face to try and hurt you. She hasn't. Good luck =]
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