Why are redheads teased? Have you had to deal with it, too?
Q. I hope people can help me out here. I have long red hair, titian is what my family calls it. It is not like I do not like it or anything but whenever I am assertive or stand up for myself I always get the same comment from people...oh it must be ...
A. 17 November 2008: It's a well known fact:
Redheads are firey
Blondes are dumb
Brunettes are boring
Black hair is exotic and interesting, but just a bit evil
Jewish people are very good with money
Yorkshire men are incredible stingy with money
Super villain... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still has feelings for and close contact with her ex, what should I do?
Q. What should I think if my girlfriend admits to still liking her ex and he still likes her? They also have close contact at work (not in the same office, but their company has internal instant messaging that she uses frequently) and they do things ...
A. 17 November 2008: I think you need to leave her for a while. You can't stay with a girl who is essentially keeping someone on as a plan B on the side.
It'll be hard but I think you have to tell her that you don't want to share her and that she has to pick, him or y... (read in full...)
Confused about my relationship with this married (and separated) man, should I stay or go?
Q. I've been seeing this married guy for approximately 1yr and 3months. He's no longer with his wife. Ever since he left his wife, it's like things has change. I love him dearly, sometimes I feel as if he loves me, then there's time that I feel as if ...
A. 17 November 2008: Well since he had no time to get over his marriage and jumped straight into a relationship with you, it's no wonder that he's expecting the same things from you both.
If he does it again, tell him that you are not his wife and he needs to cut it o... (read in full...)
Is it my boyfriend's baby?
Q. I am pregnany and 2 months before i got pregnant i slept with a guy with a condom and i had my period the same month and the month after that then i slept with my boyfriend without a condom and he ejaculated in me and i missed my period is it his ...
A. 17 November 2008: Sounds like it is your boyfriends baby to me.
Using a condom and having a period are 2 pretty big ways to NOT be pregnant.
Whether to tell your boyfriend that you cheated on him is another matter.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I don't think she is ready for more than kisses. How do I convince her though?
Q. ok so me and this girl have been together for a good amount of time now. i was her 1st kiss. i personaly am ready for more but i dont think she is. how do i get her to do more then just kiss? im ready for like a hj or anything actually haha. i just ...
A. 17 November 2008: When you are kissing, take her hand and put it on top of your trousers so she can feel you.
If she pulls back and says to stop it then you are just going to have to stick to kissing.
If she is not ready then she is not ready. You are both ver... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been masturbating to his ex's photos...
Q. I just found out my BF of 2 years has been masterbating to his EX these 2 years. I came out and asked him and since he told me. She has huge boobs...he is a boob guy...I have great boobs 34D but they are not gigantor. I am very hurt about t...
A. 17 November 2008: Wow, just the thought of my hubbie doing that makes me want to pack up empty out the bank account and be gone when he gets home.
That is borderline cheating on you.
Is it really about the boobs? Did he say that, because there are lots of big ... (read in full...)
How can I stop bieng in denial and start feeling good about myself?
Q. I think i have very low self esteem and im sick of being in denial. Hello everyone, ill get straight to the point. lets say that someone compliments me for doing a good thing or achieving something. Most people would take this well and it woul...
A. 17 November 2008: This pesamistic attitude is a symptom of depression.
Also the feelings of wanting to be punished could be a symptom too.
It sounds like you could have a very very mild case of it, so I am not going to tell you to go to the doctors and get ... (read in full...)
I can't go on not being listened to, but at the same time - I love her.
Q. I'm 36 years old and have been married for a little over a year. I give my wife everything she wants, no matter how big or small no matter the cost. It seems as though what i want does not matter, and whenever i want something she makes me feel as ...
A. 17 November 2008: Well it's something you really should have sorted out before you got married. You entered this marriage tip toeing around her and doing what ever she wanted so she may not want to change very easily. Plus, you've been encouraging her in this ... (read in full...)
Car problems may cause marriage problems, can you help?
Q. My car has broken down. Correction, our only car has broken down. I don't have the money to put it in the garage to have it fixed. My husband has changed engines before, renewed the gearing mechanism, etc. This time, he has charged the battery ...
A. 16 November 2008: Well you say you have the car for this next week, and that he hasn't got the part yet. Well it is 11.30 on a Sunday night, I don't know of many shops that would be able to get him a throttle at this hour.
However, it is very insensitive for him ... (read in full...)
She says she feels controlled by me... do you blame me for feeling the way I do?
Q. How to deal with a girlfriend that has feelings of being controlled, but upsets her boyfriend by having what appears to be flirty or inappropriate relationships with previous sexual partners or new male co-workers. Also when asked to refrain from ...
A. 16 November 2008: Well if she's not happy in the relationship then she could be reaching out to anyone who is nice to her for some kind words and good feelings.
You say she accuses her of being controlling. Have you been trying to address this behaviour?
This re... (read in full...)
I'm terrified he won't like me once I get my braces fitted.
Q. I've been dating my bf for about 9 months and I'm getting braces soon, I wonder if they will make him fall out of love with me after I get my braces on? He is in a different grade level he will be going to college in a year. I fear that he will go ...
A. 16 November 2008: If he is that shallow that he'd go off you when you are wearing a brace then he is not worth having.
Do you really have that little faith in your relationship?
If you think he's that pathetic and horrible then really he would be doing you a f... (read in full...)
Can a Straight guy have interest in kissing/making out with other guys??
Q. Just a little question that im interested in peoples' opinions on - ESPECIALLY MEN. Okay, can a straight guy be interested in kissing/making out with another guy? I personally think that no straight guy can have interest in doing that, but...
A. 16 November 2008: If you are trying something out in your teens, because you are curious then you can still end up completely straight and more secure about it than most.
If you continue to want to make out with guys then you are not straight.
Same things w... (read in full...)
I don't know what I can get her for her birthday - since she lives thousands of miles away!
Q. Just a quick question - slightly irrelevant to the norm on this site - but I have an internet penpal with someone from America, and I have no idea what to get her for her birthday. Shes 14; I don't really know what I can do for her birthday or ...
A. 16 November 2008: Postage wouldn't be that much, so get something Australian that she wouldn't be able to get over in America and post it off.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I stop calling my girlfriend by my ex's name, they sound similiar?
Q. I called my girlfriend (for a year) my exes name (they name sound very alike) while making love a few times. She gets upset every time when this happen cause she thinks im still thinking about her sexually (which I don't). We manage to patch things ...
A. 16 November 2008: Ebony is right, make up a nickname just for her and use that.
Either that or stop using her name during sex.
You HAVE to get this sorted as it would be INCREDIBLY hurtful to do this, and stupid as it is, it could hurt her to the point where ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are having some sex problems.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having sex problems. When we have sex he tends not to get a "boner" and when he sticks it in it just falls out and its both frustrating for me and him because it just happens over and over till i get tired of it and we stop. ...
A. 16 November 2008: The fact that he can get an erection during foreplay but not during sex suggests it is an emotional problem rather than a physical one.
Is he tired, or stressed out at work?
If he is feeling scared of it happening then that could be what is... (read in full...)
It was a genuine accident and now she won't talk to me!
Q. I was skate boarding with my girlfriend yesterday . She was wearing a tube top. I kept offering my hoodie to her top cause her looked like it going to fall down. Well I trip on something and I grabbed the first thing I could her tube top. It came ...
A. 16 November 2008: I'm not surprised, it's horrible feeling being exposed but then you laughed at her as well.
To everyone including her it will look like you did it on purpose.
She only wore it to look good for you, and you make a million comments and the... (read in full...)
He NEVER has his cell phone out of his hands and I'm getting fed up with it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for about 1.5 years, and things were very rocky in the beginning. He is always texting on his phone. He becomes very annoyed if I always ask him who is talking to. It started off when I learned he was getting n...
A. 16 November 2008: I think you can give this guy one last chance.
Tell him you will see him less if that's what he wants but when he sees you then you want him to ignore his phone.
That way he has all the time in the world to text and you get quality time wit... (read in full...)
Ashamed of my appearance
Q. Please help - due to a irrational fear of dentist when I was younger, I did not get the neccessary dential work I needed to correct the over crowding with my teeth which has resulted in vampire looking teeth. I am now ready to correct the problem ...
A. 16 November 2008: I think the fact you have no confidence and allow yourself to be treated badly is all in your head.
Just deal with it, get a brace, modern ones are pretty unnoticeable, and then get your head together, and get on with life.
Are you honestly goi... (read in full...)
What makes a guy attractive?
Q. Hello, I just have a quick question, sorry if it sounds ignorant. I have tried to figure this out, but I have failed. What makes a guy physically attractive? I know that it's really the personality and all, but being attractive doesn't hurt, so I ...
A. 16 November 2008: Symmetry.
And you are supposed to have your feature all in proportion to a ratio of 1:1.618 or something similar.
Plus clear skin and acceptable looking teeth.
Hair doesn't hurt but that is down to preference.
As for everything else ... (read in full...)
Friend Zone vs relationship coming out of 'friendship'....????
Q. I still don't really understand the difference between the dreaded 'friend zone' and a relationship that develops from friendship into something more. What exactly makes this happen? The 'friend zone' means, to me, that if one of the two involved...
A. 16 November 2008: The friend zone is when you like a girl, and she likes you, but you do nothing about it, but be really nice to her and be her shoulder to cry on etc. After a few weeks her feelings change so that she sees you in the same way she'd see a big brother ... (read in full...)
He's going to jail for 3 months. Should I wait for him???
Q. Hey! Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and we care about each other a lot. But he is going to go to jail for about 3 months and he wants me to wait for him. I want to wait for him but I'm afraid I might get over him just lik...
A. 16 November 2008: Well long distance can be the big test of relationships.
Give it a go and agree to take it a week at a time. If you get over him then be honest and tell him.
If you don't then it's love and he will be worth waiting for waiting for when he come... (read in full...)
Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a guy that would make you feel good?
Q. Hello. I like this girl, blah blah blah, you've heard it before. I'm hanging out w/her as much as I can without seeming too clingy, but the problem is, is that most of our time is silent. Girls, what are some questions you'd want to be asked by a ...
A. 16 November 2008: Well it very much depends on the girl.
Some girls will react well to "I saw on the news last night about it kicking off in the Congo - that's terrible isn't it?" and they will be impressed that you care about these things and she'll tell you abou... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't believe in love but still kisses me....
Q. he has been hurt before and now he doesn't want a serious relationship,we kiss each other everytime we're togther,how can i make him get into a serious relationship?he says he really likes me but doesn't believe in love..is there a chance i might ...
A. 16 November 2008: Well it's fine for HIM, when he gets kisses but not give anything back in return
Not so good for you. This guy is being selfish although he may not even know it.
Tell him that you do believe in love and that you pity him and are gong to leav... (read in full...)
I need some peace and quiet! How can I get it??
Q. When my mom talks its like nails on a chalkboard.Her voice is irritating and sometimes shell just talk when Im trying to concentrate.I try asking her to stop talking because Im trying to think,but that doesnt work,so Ill tell her to shut up which ...
A. 16 November 2008: Some people find that listening to music through headphones is a good way to escape. Lock your bedroom door and lie down and close your eyes and imagine a whole other place.
The other thing you could do is get out of the house, leave your phone an... (read in full...)
My husband and I are only good friends, and I like this client at work. What should I do?
Q. I have a dilemma. I am a 40 year old woman and I have been married for 5 years. I met my husband at a low point in both our lives, and I'm afraid we married for the wrong reasons. There really is not much love there, and we barely are intimate, ...
A. 16 November 2008: Talk to your husband about how you feel and tell him that you aren't happy in this marriage and you don't think he is either.
If you are calm and unemotional and really open with him and ask him how he feels then you might be surprised how open... (read in full...)
Should I take an antibiotic to treat or help my unknown infection?
Q. I have went to the doctor and i was diagnosed with a urinary tract infection. I had to take two pills a day for three days. I had to take six pills in total.But after I was through with the pills my stomach started hurting. During the time I was ...
A. 16 November 2008: Moon godess is right, we are not doctors, we cannot diagnose you.
Go back and see him and tell him of all your symptoms and ask for a full screening if you are worried about STDs.
Keep going back till your problems are solved, even if you have... (read in full...)
18 years of abuse... is this mental cruelty?
Q. my wife had an affair. she will not admit to this. she told me that she will not explain things that have happened. she tells my children i am ill mentally. my son and her stole my dna test results, she got me to the doctors and had me put on pills. ...
A. 16 November 2008: You can't just "get someone put on pills" You must have let her come to the doctors with you and verbally agreed for her to be in the consultation and then had some symptoms bad enough for the doctor to believe what she was saying.
I very much dou... (read in full...)
Why won't they let me just live my own life?
Q. I'm 20 and a Muslim and come from a traditional family. I don't talk to my dad even though we live in the same house and don't have a good relationship with my mum. In our culture, the family name comes first so you shouldn't do anything that brings ...
A. 16 November 2008: You don't give your age or location but I am from the UK so if you are from there then this may be helpful.
I know that you don't want to hurt your family but if seems that they are hurting you, and they can always blame you for everythi... (read in full...)
Do guys like a girl thats into cars and video games?
Q. Do guys like a girl thats into video games, and fixing up cars? I'm curious cuz I'm into cars and video games. I've been helping my dad fix the 68Galaxiy. Also doing co-op with him on new games. Answers from anyone would be nice....
A. 16 November 2008: At your age, no boys don't like it. They work as a pack so will be picked on if there is anything different abut them. They all want girls who have blond hair and short skirts and are none threatening.
They'll feel threatened if you beat them at ... (read in full...)
Caught my daughter masterbating
Q. I caught my daughter masturbating at her room with a dildo,and she was orgasming, she then noticed me and went to the bathroom crying. What should I tell her?...
A. 16 November 2008: Do the British thing and simply agree to never mention it again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
A survey on family household stuff...for school, and I need your answers.
Q. Hey guys! I'm doing a survey in school + need as many people as possible to take part, it's okay if it's not allowed to be asked on here.. but if it is, could you please answer these questions with who you think should do these things? m = man, w = ...
A. 16 November 2008: Both for every single one.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I always go for guys that are 5 to 10 years older than me!
Q. I'm a teenager, and it seems like the only males i'm attracted to, is one that are either 5-10 years older than me, or men that are married. Of course i wont risk acting on my feelings, but i can't seem to be attracted to guys my age. They are so ...
A. 16 November 2008: Guys your age ARE annoying. So much so that at 17, my first boyfriend (well the first one that I did more than hold hands with) was 21.
Then at 21 I met my husband who was 26.
There is nothing wrong with you, but just wait till you are a bit ol... (read in full...)
I want to move in together and get engaged. What's he waiting for?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's a sweet guy. We get along really good and talk about being together forever and getting married. Our connection is deep and we call ourselves soulmates. A few months ago we talked about our ...
A. 16 November 2008: Have you asked him why he is working long hours?
Because he might be doing it so that at some point he can go down on one knee and pull out the diamond he thinks you deserve.
He also may be worried about housing deposits and furniture and bi... (read in full...)
Does she just want him for his money or does she really love him?
Q. Dear all at cupid, My ex guy broke up with me (he's 5 years older then me) to get back with the mother of his child, they split many times before and this was the longest 6 months, anyway she was always texting him it just concently got more and ...
A. 15 November 2008: I think you need to distance yourself from this mess.
You are just a supporting actress in this film.
Yes his mates and family might hate her but it seems he is willing to run back to her and leave you, so why hang around?
She is always g... (read in full...)
They were each other's 'first'. Is that why she can't leave him?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for a year and a half. We met as co-workers, starting hanging, out and developed feelings for each other. Now we both think of each other as best friends. Now, i love her as a friend and I'm very in love with her.the ...
A. 15 November 2008: I think you need to force her into a decision. A the moment she has you both and that is a hard habit to kick.
Tell her that you can't deal with this any more and that you are cutting contact with her. If she decides to be with you and splits w... (read in full...)
Do you think he's really over me considering...?
Q. So I ran into my "ex" and his new girlfriend today. But my situation is so weird, because he called me a month ago saying that he could never stop loving me, but he has a new girlfriend. So...his mom told him today that he needed to apologize to me. ...
A. 15 November 2008: To be honest, I wouldn't get my hopes up.
Yes he's thrown away something great and he probably knows it, but that doesn't mean you should hang around waiting for him to come back.
He may turn up at 3am one day begging for you to come back... ... (read in full...)
I have been so down this week and its all to do with him and what he is capable of...
Q. Right I haven't done this for a while, it's actually weird being on the other end so to speak... I'm going through a hard time at the moment, My ex husband (please no one say just get over it its not that simple I wish it was) yes my ex husband well ...
A. 15 November 2008: http://www.crimereduction.homeoffice.gov.uk/domesticviolence/domesticviolence40.htm
I think these people may be able to make you feel better and tell you about what services are in your local area.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Any pranks to play on my brother? Please help me
Q. I hate my brother. Hes younger than me, but bigger. Fatter. He cant move fast but he throws a mean punch. Mainly at me. For years I have been putting up with it, I have to, my parents dont believe me. Infact recently my dad forgot my 16th birthday a ...
A. 15 November 2008: Call the social services and tell them you are being physically abused.
When they turn up and talk to your parents that will get him in hot water and make your parents pay attention.
If you have bruises then you have proof.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I would like to take the relationship onto a physical level but all I ever get is a goodnight kiss.
Q. Hi, I have been seeing a lovely guy for bout 2 months now but not had many dates cos of his work pattern - he works day and nite shifts. He is really lovely and we always end up having a good laugh and seem to like a lot of the same things. We met ...
A. 15 November 2008: Well he is obviously either a complete gentleman / or completely clueless.
When you have your good night kiss, don't let it end, really really kiss him and wrap your arms around him.
Then invite him in or invite yourself in to his place (where... (read in full...)
I kissed and fumbled her breast and I KNOW my friend is in love with her...
Q. I saw this girl at my friend's place, and he introduced as a friend. Later my friend told be he's been asking her out which she has refused for about a year now. Not known to me, the girl was interested in me and copied my number from my friend's...
A. 15 November 2008: She's paying your university fees?
Eh?
Look just dump the girl and tell your mate she's all his. Tell her that you can't go out with him as it will hurt him.
She doesn't like him though so it's a waste. Move on and find another girl.
Go... (read in full...)
How do I put some spice into my kissing?
Q. Hello everyone! I want your help on this. Tomorrow I'm gonna meet my bf. I haven't seen him for 2 weeks becuase of me going to uni. We're gonna be alone so I'm sure we're going to kiss and I wanna make it something special. I was wondering if you ...
A. 15 November 2008: Well how you kiss is very much a part of you, it's like handwriting.
To be honest I wouldn't like it if my hubbie came home and had changed his whole style of kissing.
Run your hands through his hair and make lots of eye contact before a... (read in full...)
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