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writes:My ex went travelling 5 days ago, he will be gone for 6 months, before he went we met up a few times, made peace and decided we both want each other back. The balls were already in motion for his trip, it was just bad timing. The thing is, I cant technically say we are back together as he is travelling, so I am not sure what to do! We agreed that we would see how we both feel in 6 months. He said I can go and visit him for a holiday and stay with him. It is possible for me and I will probably go early next year. I have not heard from him and it has been 5 days, I want to know if he arrived safely. I want to know how I play it so that I can cope on a daily basis with the thought of him travelling, I don’t want to contact him, I already sent him an email a few days before he left and he didn’t reply. When we said our last goodbye we hugged really tight and when I let go he had a single tear running down his cheek, this really touched me as he has never been one to show emotion. He has played this whole travelling thing down, saying that “it is only 6 months” and “it’ll fly by” and “I’ll see you sooner than you know it”. This man is the love of my life, I cant go one day without thinking of him. I need advice on how to cope with the next 6 months. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 December 2008):
Some advice from an army wife....
You are going to be miserable for the first week and a complete mess.
Then you have to get on and make plans of your own.
You need to do something new to distract yourself. Join a new club or start a new hobby. Get a new part time job on Saturdays so you are always busy.
DO NOT sit by the phone or computer hoping he'll come online, you'll become a sad hermit torturing yourself by staying up all night just incase you miss him.
Do new and amazing things, go out more and meet new people. Try and fill your head so you don't have time to sit and worry about him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 It will do you both good to really think about what you want while you do have this time apart. If he's travelling he will be engrossed in his new adventure. I should just wait and see how often he contacts you because if he is as serious as you are he will not be able to help himself. At least this way you will find out if you are truly meant to be together. Let him enjoy his trip, it could be a once in a lifetime experience fo him and he may not want y ou acting like a clinging limpet. Try to get on with your own interests while he is away. They do say absence makes the heart grow fonder, so you may be all that you want when he comes home. good luck. hope this helps.
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