How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 25 December 2008: I know it sounds dramatic, that's the point, it will make him kick his arse into action rather than going "yeah yeah yeah, she doesn't need them now, I'll get round to it one day and faff about online trying to find some way of doing it for months ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 25 December 2008: Then email him and tell him to post it to you or you will take him to small claims court. Tell him you'll post it back as soon as you have taken all your files off.
I think you are making a big deal of this and I know how ex's can affect you but ... (read in full...)
What to do to make him last longer in bed?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't last very long when we have sex, a few minutes max! and it's over so quick i don't get anything from it. We are still in the early stages of the relationship and i was wondering if there was anything i could do to make him last ...
A. 25 December 2008: Wear thicker condoms, get ones with numbing agents or use 2 at a time.
Other than that make sure you get foreplay that leaves you satisfied so sex is just a bonus.
I find that the first time you have sex with a guy is always pretty quick but... (read in full...)
What time shall I put the turkey in the oven?
Q. What time shall I put the turkey in the oven. My husband say's 10.00 but I say it don't need to go in till 11.00. The turkey is 10lbs and needs to be ready for 12.00. Please help. He says this is the final straw if the Christmas dinner is spoilt. ...
A. 25 December 2008: He's telling you that if he has to wait for an hour for his turkey, your marriage is over?
I really don't think this is about dinner any more.
It's too late to really be of help with your cooking but here is a link:
http://www.deliaonlin... (read in full...)
He loves her, he loves her not...?
Q. He loves her, he loves her not... Hi, I'm female separated from my husband for more than 3 years. I met a wonderful man who encouraged me and gave me my self-confidence back and now i'm going to go through divorce proceedings which is time co...
A. 25 December 2008: He's going out with her because he is there and he has no real reason not to.
You may not be divorced yet but I think you should tell him how you feel about him.
Tell him if you want to be with him. I am sure he understands that your marria... (read in full...)
How do I make my best friend fall in love with me??
Q. Ok, my best friend finally admitted to being Bi and currently likes both a boy and girl, but i know nothing will happen with either of those. I am his best friend too, and am unfortunately in love with him. We have messed around before but he ne...
A. 25 December 2008: You can't make someone fall in love with you.
All you can do is try to get over him.
Stop hanging out with him for a while and hang out with other people. Go out and have a flirt and try and distract yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I go to a gay bar to get things out of my system?
Q. ok, so in the past , iv always had a bit of a thing for girls aswel as guys. when i was 19 , i had a breif relationship with a girl , but it didnt really go anywhere as we never had any alone time, iv made out with a few girls when iv been out...
A. 25 December 2008: Talk to your boyfriend about it.
Does he know you are Bi?
He might love the idea of you going to a bar and kissing girls. He may want to come with you.
Other than that you just have to accept that being Bi is difficult and at the mom... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with my brother and need to tell my family.
Q. My brother is really cute and I have been havng sex with him. One time, we had too much to drink and we kinda forgot the condom. Now I am pregnant and my brother and family don't know. I am really scared and don't know how I'm gonna tell my family I ...
A. 24 December 2008: If you will not consider abortion then tell your brother in private but tell him that it's over between you and will never happen again.
Then tell your family that you went out, got very drunk, had sex with a guy who you don't know and don't kn... (read in full...)
Problems and pain, trying to get pregnant, any suggestions?
Q. why cant i get pregnant? me and my partner have been trying for a while, and it just doesnt seem to be working ........ but the strange thing is , when we used protection, when my period came, it was ok , a bit achey ,but not that bad, but after w...
A. 24 December 2008: See a doctor and get checked out.
Take lots of Folic acid and eat well.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My wife has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this?
Q. My wife (In the middle of a divorce) has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this? How can I get her back without breaking the law? I have the evidence, but I don't know if what she did was ...
A. 24 December 2008: Repair the damage, change your passwords and leave it at that.
Everyone will know it was her and she is the one who will look like a child for doing it.
Don't sink to her level.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 24 December 2008: Get a friend to go round to his place and borrow the external hard drive.
They can bring it round to yours and you can copy your files across to your new computer.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Counselor's advice professional? or what?
Q. sorry to bother you i'd like for advice to see is it right or not .maybe this sound i went a male counsllor he was helping with self esteem or so i thought ,i asked how would i get a boyfriend.this advice he gave me "a short skirt ,low cleav...
A. 22 December 2008: I agree with older sister.
If you are there to get advice on your confidence and low self esteem because you have a genuine problem then I am sure he will be very helpful.
If you are there to ask him how to get a man to shag you then again, ... (read in full...)
I'm in a band and my g/f doesn't approve of my onstage behaivor
Q. Hi, I need some help here. I recently broke up with my girlfriend (now ex) (we were together since I was 18 and I am now 20). I was pretty sad about the whole thing for a while and I moved to a large city from the small little town I grew up in. I ...
A. 22 December 2008: You can explain that you are putting on a charactor when you go on stage and that it is not really you.
It's just like Marylin Manson. He's one person on stage and completely different at home.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ladies: How would you feel if the guy you picked up had only one testicle?
Q. I only have one testicle. I have had girlfriends in the past; but I was wondering how a girl would react if it were a more casual. If you don't already have an emotional attachment to him, how would you react if you found out a guy that you pick...
A. 22 December 2008: I don't tend to examine the testicular area too closely when I meet a guy so I very much doubt I would notice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: This is about the third time you've asked this question and I think you've already got some good advice.
Rather than asking the internet why life is so mean to you, get out there and get back on the horse.
Don't let yourself get treated like... (read in full...)
Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?
Q. Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?...
A. 21 December 2008: Well ask yourself:
If you had sex with her for the next few weeks and then if she met an amazing guy, could you happily step right back and watch her go off with a new boyfriend?
If you could then go for it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?
Q. Can two friends have sex for fun now and again and still be good friends after?...
A. 21 December 2008: Yep!
As long as there are absolutely no romantic feelings on either part.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough, what do I do?
Q. I’m a virgin and I’m horny all the time to the point that I get headaches if I don’t masturbate! I can masturbate up to 12 times a day and it is still not enough What do I do? ...
A. 21 December 2008: All I can suggest is that you get a girlfriend!
Also, I take it if you are doing that 12 times a day that you are unemployed and sat at home looking at naked ladies online.
Get a job to take your mind off your penis and that might also help.... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what he wants?
Q. We started dating and everything was fine until we had sex for about 2 months and next thing i know he says he just wants to be friends but he still acts the same but we aren't having sex anymore. Soo I don't know what he wants? We also work at the ...
A. 21 December 2008: He just wants to be friends.
The fact you keep talking to him despite the fact you have said you don't want to be just friends is giving out mixed signals to him.
Either be strong and tell him that you DO NOT WANT him to talk to you or text y... (read in full...)
Why does she text me like we're still together?
Q. I'm trying to get over my ex-gf by ignoring her to the best of my abilities (she knows that I am trying to ignore her, too). She is a textaholic and when we were dating she would literally give me updates of what she was doing several times an ...
A. 21 December 2008: Sounds like she's just one of these nut jobs who text everyone about everything.
Just keep ignoring her and let her waste her credit.
She'll get the message eventually. You have said you'd like no contact so she's the one in the wrong here. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop wanting to have sex when I lose self-control so easily?
Q. ok this may be really silly but im so confused. Ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 months and its going amazingly well. I always thought that i would want to be with any guy i lost my viginity to for at least 8months but with him its differen...
A. 21 December 2008: You need to learn the trick of the "First Date Bikini Line Insurance Policy."
If you are going to see him then make sure you have either not shaved your legs or under arms or bikini line.
Some thing that you can't see (I'm not saying to look u... (read in full...)
Are there any dating sites about relocation?
Q. Is there a dating site that will introduce American women to Brits who want to relocate to America? ...
A. 21 December 2008: You could put it into google but there are not that many Brits desperate for a visa, and it's a very specific thing you are after.
If you are desperate to meet a British guy then you best bet is probably to come to England. We've got loads of... (read in full...)
We broke up said I wouldn't contact him, but I wished him a merry christmas. Should I not have done that?
Q. My ex and I had a horrible break-up. We were only together a few months, however I was living with him and going to work with him everyday. We spent 24/7 together. He wronged me by lying and playing head games. THAT I know. We stopped talking, even ...
A. 21 December 2008: No you just sent a text! You didn't mean anything by it. You didn't imply that you were going to get back with him.
You just said hi.
That's done so move on and leave him in his little myspace puddle of self pity.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is he still calling me?
Q. I have this ex "boyfriend" or whatever he was. We had a casual relationship for five months but I told him I couldn't handle it anymore. So he asked me out but after a week,he said doesn't want a girlfriend right now because of his grades (he's not ...
A. 21 December 2008: He's still calling because you have not made yourself clear enough.
You've just ignored him and he doesn't know if that just means you are angry, or since he is happy to ignore you for a couple of weeks then he may not think it means anything... (read in full...)
Allowed to stay for a couple of hours then home by myself on the train while fiance stays!!!
Q. Could you please help me! I am going to my fiance's works night out, but he's only allowing me to stay for a couple of hours! He said I have to get the train home myself while he stays at his friend's house. I think he has plasnned to meet up when ...
A. 21 December 2008: You can get answers by packing your bags and walking out.
I think it's pretty clear that he has got something going with someone else.
Either that or get the number and call the girl and ask what is going on between them?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Peek-a-boo!
Q. If a woman I like looks at me when I'm not looking at her and then when I turn to her she looks away, as though to hide it, what does that mean?...
A. 19 December 2008: It could mean anything at all.
It could mean she likes you, it could mean there is a very interesting butterfly above your head.
Why not ask her out and find out?
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
Symbolism of ring: Could it be given as only a christmas present?
Q. I'd like to get my 22 GF some jewellery for Christmas. We have been dating for 15 months and this is our 2nd christmas together. I have already given her a necklace and bracelet. Should I get her a ring? I feel like the symbolism of a rin...
A. 18 December 2008: I would ask her something ahead of time like if she could tell you what size her fingers are on her right hand.
That may give away the surprise but it will make it clear that the ring is NOT for her ring finger.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I get erections hugging my girlfriend!
Q. i always get an erections when im hugging my gf should i be worryed ...
A. 18 December 2008: You are a 14 year old boy.
I am assured by my husband that this happens to all guys your age.
She may be a little freaked out by it but just don't act on it and all will be well.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I become girlfriend material?
Q. What do guys look for in a girlfriend? Brains, beauty, good physique, sophistication? What do they want? what if none of that works.is possoble that nice girls are attract to jerks vice versa ...
A. 18 December 2008: You asked this yesterday.
Please don't duplicate questions.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend constantly have arguments about facebook!
Q. Basically me and my boyfriend always have arguements about facebook because he thinks I have loads of 'random' guys on their which i don't, they are all people I know from work or school. but he got really annoyed yesterday just because i accepted a ...
A. 18 December 2008: Any guy who says "do what I say or I'll leave you." is really not a good guy to be with.
First it's these photos and your male facebook friends that he is too insecure to cope with. What next?
Will he start objecting to you going out with y... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking about my coworker, when I like her more and more?
Q. hi, well where to start. i really like this girl at work, and i'm not sure if likes me back. we are quite good friends, flirt around, etc. however, i don't really want anything to happen between us because i'm very busy all the time at work, an...
A. 18 December 2008: She's engaged.
She sees you as a friend and flirts with everyone because it is fun to flirt.
Nothing is going to happen with this girl and you even say yourself you don't really have time for a girlfriend.
My advice is to get out with your ... (read in full...)
I saw the text, I heard the lies, someone help!
Q. I guess it is my turn to have a question answered. The following text between my boyfriend and his ex.. HIM - you coming home tonight or tomorrow just wondering cuz i don't remember HER - Tonight! On the road now! Him - Cool drive safe ro...
A. 18 December 2008: Sounds like he's meeting with his ex to hang out.
He may not have told you if he knew you would react like this.
It is insensitive of him to stay in contact with her if he knows you have trust issues.
I think you need to sit him down and... (read in full...)
My dad abused me when I was younger, family didn't believe me, I don't know how to handle all of this...
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, This is not a relationship issue, but I would appreciate any answers. I'm in a situation that I don't know how to handle..When I was younger my dad sexually abused me, that went on for about 3-4years or so, until I finally ...
A. 18 December 2008: Your family is causing you harm and no good at the moment so I think you need to cut them out of your life for now.
Your mother has made her choice and maybe one day she will realise what a HUGE mistake she is making but for now she is picking ... (read in full...)
I am bisexual and feel the need to cheat on my girlfriend with a man, how should I handle this hell?
Q. Hi.i'm 23 and bi. I am really upset with myself right now. I have an amazing girlfriend. she is sexy, funny, tall, active, etc...and we share a fantastic sex life with each other. BUT, i still feel lonely(inside) when i'm with her. i feel a sm...
A. 18 December 2008: Does your girl know you are bi-sexual? I think you have to tell her.
I think your ideal relationship would perhaps be with a bi-sexual girl so you could have the commitment to each other but with fun on the side.
Or with a girl who doesn't mind... (read in full...)
Worried and intimidated by a blooming sex toy that my girlfriend is waving around me!
Q. My new girlfriend and I have known each other for 5 months and been going out with for 6 weeks, she told me today she got a dildo as a gift from co-worker... apparently not as a joke either. We are yet to embark on the sexual side of our ...
A. 18 December 2008: You should only be as insecure about this as she is about your hand.
I'm sure you know that what you do on your own is nothing compared to the real thing.
Just because you haven't been in bed with hundreds of women doesn't mean you can't please... (read in full...)
I'm a party girl and he's cramping my style!
Q. I need help people, ive been with my present boyfriend for over a year now, i left my ex of 4 and a half years to be with my present boyfriend, but problem is he isnt the guy i fell in love with, his attitude has totally changed and he says he was ...
A. 17 December 2008: You can't allow him to continue controling your life and making you miserable just because you'll feel guilty.
If he is too useless to go out and find friends of his own then that is not your problem.
He said he lied about who he was to get wi... (read in full...)
What does he want?
Q. We started dating and everything was fine until we had sex for about 2 months and next thing i know he says he just wants to be friends but he still acts the same but we aren't having sex anymore. Soo I don't know what he wants?...
A. 17 December 2008: Sounds like he just wants to be friends.
I think you need to take some time away from him to try and get over him.
If he dumped you then he does not get to be the one to chose when to be friends.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Just looking for sex?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, Here is my story. I met this guy last friday and we end up having the usual (and good) one night stand. On the next day, we exchanged some emails and agreed to have lunch together with other friends. When we met, he treated ...
A. 17 December 2008: It sounds to me that it was just meant to be a one night stand but since you got on so well, he wants to continue to hang out.
Since he is only around for a few weeks then I don't think you should expect anything more than to hang out and have som... (read in full...)
What did the x in the text mean?
Q. hey right about a hour ago , i told this boy who i like, that i love him , but hes got a girl friend i texted him saying "im sorry but i have i bit of feeling for you xx" and he texted back saying "ok x " with a kiss did that mean any thin...
A. 17 December 2008: I don't think the x meant anything.
He has a girlfriend so you are just going to have to back off and then move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Allowed to stay for a couple of hours then home by myself on the train while fiance stays!!!
Q. Could you please help me! I am going to my fiance's works night out, but he's only allowing me to stay for a couple of hours! He said I have to get the train home myself while he stays at his friend's house. I think he has plasnned to meet up when ...
A. 17 December 2008: I think you need to take his ring off and tell him it's on ebay if he wants it back.
This is such blatant disrespect of you, and it's not on.
Tell him that if he's ashamed of you or he wants to go off with other girls then he can do so becaus... (read in full...)
Bad taste in guys!
Q. Would a very skinny guy fancy a fat girl? When I am round a very skinny he doesn't want to be seen with or talking or even acknowledge me all because I am heavy and short with a chubby face. I am nice person and I have good taste in jewellery, ...
A. 17 December 2008: Sounds like the guy is so shallow he couldn't drown a kitten.
He may have a pretty face but if he's an arse then why waste your time thinking about him?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do to curb my sexual desires?
Q. I was wondering is there anything I can do to curb my sexual desires? My boyfriend and I don't get intimate very often, in fact we go months without any sort of intimacy. I need to know if there's anything I can do to squash my sexual urges so that ...
A. 16 December 2008: If he's not satisfying you but you are happy to stay with a guy who is letting you down in a big area of your relationship then buy a vibrator.
It'll take the edge off and then you can continue being best-friends-with-cuddles with your man.
... (read in full...)
Why does she have to be so awkward?
Q. Hi I am a Christian but my Atheist girlfriend refuses to celebrate Christmas, what gives? No one else seems to have a problem, why does she have to be so awkward?...
A. 16 December 2008: She's not just an atheist, she's an extremist atheist.
Ask her if she'll celebrate winter solstice instead?
It's just like all those people who said that it was pointless going out on 31st December 1999 because the real millennium was 3... (read in full...)
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