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writes:my husband and i are both twenty yearsold and just married in october. Sadly to say, we havent been having the best newlywed relationship. i work,he stays home with our 3yr old. my hours vary at work, so when i come home i cook dinner and dose off from being so tired. everyday this week, my husband has had breakfast in bed and dinner cooked of his choice. tonight, i woke up to find him on a webcam dating site and joining porn subscriptions. when i asked him why he told mecuz i sleep too much.what should i do?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Well you are both young yet and it's early in your relationship. He needs to start taking some responsibility. For one, if he doesnt want to go out to work he needs to be doing the domestics. I wonder what level of interaction your 3 year old is getting and what stimulation if your hubby is on the internet. What are you thinking about giving him his breakfast in bed. It should be the other way around. Your tea should be on the table when you get in from work, child already bathed, housework done simply because you have a house husband. If you feel strongly about this, get rid of the laptop it destroys relationships. Sounds like he could be depressed as well because endless hours on the computer is not having a proper life and can be addictive. Ask him how your child has spent the day while he's been at home and you are out at work. Get strong and turn something around before it's too late. good luck. hope this helps.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 December 2008):
So hang on, you are going to work - AND being his maid??
If you get home tired then HE should be making your dinner and then you will have more energy to be with him. If I'm not working and my hubbie is, then I make sure he can come in and sit down with a drink and rub his shoulders and make his tea. He does the same for me if I'm working and he has the day off.
I don't know whether you being the breadwinner has dented his pride or something but he certainly seems to have lost all respect for you and your relationship.
Get him respecting you as an equal again and tell him that if he doesn't shape up then he can get out.
Put your foot down and make him see that this current state of affairs will NOT continue.
Good Luck!! xx
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