My parents pulled me out of my school and now they want to kick me out of the home! Help!
Q. I need some good advice. My parents took me out of my school, away from my friends and are now threatning to kick me out of home. I haven't spoken to my best friend for 2 months, I feel really depressed. I really miss my best friend and yes even my ...
A. 21 November 2008: You don't give a single reason why they did this.
I really don't think they'd do it just because they woke up one morning and decided it would be fun to ruin your life.
Ask them why they did it in a calm way and then calmly ask what you would h... (read in full...)
How can I get my 4 year younger girlfriend's parents to trust me?
Q. ok, my question is: How can I get my girlfriends parents to trust me? I am 19 and my girlfriend is 15, the age difference is a problem to them and I understand that. I really care about this girl and I want her parents to knw that I truly care abo...
A. 21 November 2008: You just have to be very respectful, go round for dinner and get to know them, always have her home on time, never be seen in town doing anything more than kissing.
Give it time.
At the end of it all though, if her parents do decide the age g... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband but have nowhere to go. I'm falling deeper into depression and is gaining more and more weight, how can I deal with this all?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 14 years now (married for almost 13) and have 3 beautiful children (ages 12, 4 and 2). My problem is that I'm not sure that I'm in love with him anymore. When we were dating and when we lived together ...
A. 21 November 2008: Your parents are in poor health - so they could probably do with someone young around the house.
Move home, take the kids, get happier from being away from hubbie, eat better, lose weight, be healthy, look after parents, make friends with everyone... (read in full...)
We are doing well but now my husband decided we would move to another city and "make it big". How can I convince him that we should stay where we are now?
Q. I'm 25 and my husband's 26. I've got a 5-year-old son from a previous relationship. I'm in a job which I enjoy, I've only been doing it for 5 weeks now. My husband's in a well-paid job too, which pays him a very good wage. He's been doing it fo...
A. 21 November 2008: My parents talked about moving to America when I was small. In the end the company they were going to work for went bust so they had a lucky escape.
America is not exactly swimming with money and opportunity at the moment.
You have to make him... (read in full...)
Why does he sign on to his messenger showing he is online to me? Is this a game to see if I will contact him first?
Q. Hi everyone, please help me! I was with my guy for 2 1/2 years, and I love him dearly. But he was to go to Russia or Virginia the first of December, and I asked for a committment before I either waited years for him or traveled across America w...
A. 21 November 2008: So from what I understand:
You asked for commitment, he said that he was planning to propose, you said that is not good enough.
You went away, he contacted you by email, you said that was not good enough, he has not been psychic enough t... (read in full...)
His mom is so strict about us when I'm at his house.
Q. My boyfriend (who is 18) and I (turning 19 in a just a couple months) have been together for two years and lately, things have sort of... slowed down for us, sex-wise. It also kind of has to do with his mom wanting to interrupt us all the damn time ...
A. 21 November 2008: You are in her house so it's her rules I'm afraid.
You'll just have to learn to drive, or hurry up and get a job / go to college so you can have a place of your own.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
For two years our relationship has been cruising, parking, making out. I want more!
Q. so...me and my boyfriend's relationship is becoming the same routine (he picks me up, we drive around, we park and talk, make out, and that's it) which is good but i like to do more like have sex. he wants me to wait for a while til we get our own ...
A. 21 November 2008: Well considering you like spending quality time alone, you seem to be afraid to speak to him about anything.
After all this time did you not notice he was unhappy - or did you not ask him why he is unhappy?
You seem so think quality time is ... (read in full...)
Should I buy her an engagement ring for Christmas or is it too soon?
Q. I was in a ltr for 7 years and she left for no apparent reason A month later I met (again) a woman I had a crush on when we were teens. we started dating and neither of us were looking for anything it just happened. now a month later we are very muc...
A. 20 November 2008: WAY TOO FAST!!
She's survived cancer so she may want to live for the day, but take her on holiday, do something special and magical.
Don;t tie yourself into a legal contract, you have so much time for that.
Give her a memory rather than a m... (read in full...)
I feel sooooo depressed about the future sometimes.
Q. I'm so scared of the future. I'm not religious, but I think of the world really coming to the end. There is bad news everywhere. What do you guys think about all of that? Is this right to feel depressed about the future,or its just me?...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm a journalist and I can tell you that good stuff happens all the time, but we don't cover it because it's not news.
Have a look at all the people on the street who went to work and didn't get murdered and who will go home and have fabulous... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so selfish when it comes to us sexually.
Q. My boyfriend is so selfish when it comes to us sexually. We've been together a year and a half now, and recently he's been asking me to spice it up a bit with how I do uno stuff with him.. But he has never once or gone down on me or properly...
A. 20 November 2008: Tell him that you don't want to try anything new until he gets the hang of what you've done already.
Tell him he has to give you an orgasm before you'll do anything new.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My friend was just diagnosed with diabetes. How can I help?
Q. not a relationship question as such, but a good friend of mine has just been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and i want to know how to be a good friend and support her through this tough time? any help appreciated. ...
A. 20 November 2008: The best thing you can do right now is treat her completely normally. Everyone is going to be crowding round and giving her diet advice and asking how she's feeling, and when she last ate and is she ok.
It will drive her mad.
I think she would ... (read in full...)
I feel the distance is getting worse between us.
Q. Hi, All this has happened since I started seeing my girlfriend, and have been seeing her for 10 months now. Basically suspicion started when she'd text her ex girlfriend say kath about kath's son whom she calls her own as well. At first i could cope ...
A. 20 November 2008: Well you can't wave a wand and make things better. I really don't think her heart is in this relationship any more and although I know you love her, you may have to accept that this won;t last for ever.
At some point you are going to get sick of ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex girlfriend want to see me if she can't control her feelings about me?
Q. I'll be the first to admit that I am being strung along by my ex-girlfriend. I know that everyone here would suggest that I leave her alone for both of our sakes, but I'm not that strong and I am head-over-heels for her. That being said, she has a ...
A. 20 November 2008: Because she is as silly as you are.
She's putting herself in situations where she could cheat on her boyfriend, and why? Because she wants to see you and feel that tension.
You know what you have to do. Leave her alone and try to think about y... (read in full...)
I don't know how to stay, I don't know how to leave.
Q. what should I do if my husband never does anything for getting better. He is not touching me, he is not doing anything else just works. I have no more idea... I tried, talking to him, changing things.... I'm taking care of myself. I hate to leave...
A. 20 November 2008: You've tried every thing you can here. I think you need to accept that this is not your fault and go.
Start small. Look for jobs if you need one and then look online at places you can rent. You may be able to imagine life alone a bit better o... (read in full...)
At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past?
Q. At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past? I'm 20 yrs. old and this is really my first attempt at a serious relationship. I was a troubled teen. I used drugs and alcohol. I became sexually active at 14 and had literally dozens of ...
A. 20 November 2008: I would wait till it comes up in conversation and when it does tell him that you've done bad things and you are a different person now.
Tell him that you regret everything you done and that you have a reputation round town.
Give him a ro... (read in full...)
Nothing you've ever seen
Q. Me and my girlfriend had been dating for a long time about two years or so and for some stupid reason about two months before we broke up I told her that I had cancer, everything was fine, I have absolutely no idea why I did it and I regret it ...
A. 20 November 2008: Well what did you really think would happen?
You did the crime and now you are doing the time.
Just move on with your life and accept that you blew it. You'll know to never lie to your girlfriends about anything every again after this and t... (read in full...)
Male/Female Masturbation: Double Standards
Q. This isn't really a question, but a comment that I'm interested in seeing people's thoughts on. This is about male/female masturbation. My girlfriend woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep. She tried to wake me up but apparent...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm a woman and I have accepted that I have MASSIVE double standards.
Male masturbation is dirty and wrong. My husband probably does it but I don't really want to know the details other than "I couldn't stop thinking about you the other night...... (read in full...)
Do all people fulfill their life? Or is this just a big illusion.
Q. Do all people fulfill their life? Or is this just a big illusion. Life can be pretty boring and meaningless sometimes, somehow like a dead-end street. Yet there are very exciting life stories, but not a lot. Most people will experience this I ...
A. 20 November 2008: Everyone has potential in my view.
Some people chose to ignore this and sit at home doing nothing.
Some people have a dream and do what they can to work towards it.
The trick is that you need to find your goals in life and then when you a... (read in full...)
Promise/purity rings.
Q. Promise/purity rings. When you see an older person wearing one, how do you feel about it? I'm 21 years old, and I have worn a "promise" ring since I was quite young. It was given to me by my mother. I don't consider it a "purity" ring per say. I ...
A. 20 November 2008: Well I was a man and I met you then I would check which finger it was on. If it was on your ring finger then I would assume you were married and back off - and if you came on to me I'd be worried as you had a boyfriend / husband who might come after ... (read in full...)
She's threatening me with divorce if I don't wisen up.
Q. My married boss (she doesn't know that I'm married) and me have flirting (nothing serious) a lot lately. She even gave me a raise for no reason. Then one day my wife came to my work unexpected because I forgot my lunch. She saw us flirting got very ...
A. 20 November 2008: She is not over reacting, she caught you in the act of flirting with your boss and probably heard what you were saying, which probably implied you were cheating.
I'd be absolutely devastated if I found my husband doing that.
What you shou... (read in full...)
Can I ask my boyfriend to marry me while he's getting divorced?
Q. Can I get engaged while going through divorce?...
A. 20 November 2008: Well since it's just a ring on your finger then yes you can.
There is no reason to believe he will honour it more than any other man, and if he is a traditional guy then he might not want his girlfriend going down on one knee.
If he says ye... (read in full...)
How do I heal the rift and resolve this??
Q. I am 33, married to a 34-year-old man, we've got a 6-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter. Recently some longtime friends of ours asked our husband to cook for their wedding (my husband is a particularly good cook) and he did. I thought all w...
A. 20 November 2008: Food poisoning can kill.... and if it doesn't it's really not very nice.
I think it's perfectly justified that they would be a little bit miffed with the person who did this to them.
Give them time and they will forgive him. He'll just have ... (read in full...)
For two years our relationship has been cruising, parking, making out. I want more!
Q. so...me and my boyfriend's relationship is becoming the same routine (he picks me up, we drive around, we park and talk, make out, and that's it) which is good but i like to do more like have sex. he wants me to wait for a while til we get our own ...
A. 20 November 2008: So hang on, he never actually gets out of his car?
Why hasn't he taken you to restaurants, films, his place, your place?
If you just want sex then do it in the car.
If you want a relationship then ask to drive SOMEWHERE and then do so... (read in full...)
He dumped my BFF because he likes me instead. What do I do?
Q. My best friend has been dating this boy for about 6 months, and he has just dumped her. But, he dumped her because he likes me instead. To make it even more complicated, I like him too. I really want to date him but it will hurt my best friend ...
A. 19 November 2008: Let it go and be a good friend to him.
It would really hurt anyone if their best friend went off with their boyfriend.
I really don't think he would be worth it.
Sad but I'm pretty sure that it's safe to say at your age you aren't throwing ... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher - should I continue to respond to this pupil's emails?
Q. I am a secondary school teacher. One of the students from the school I work in has started writing emails to me to which I have responded to. He is only 3 years younger than me. The messages are quite innocent but I am a bit worried as I would not ...
A. 19 November 2008: I think you should let him down gently.
Tell him that as a teacher you are not allowed to email pupils privately. Tell him that both of you could get into trouble for doing it and so you can no longer respond to his messages.
At the same t... (read in full...)
We're very close... I think I love her, should I tell her?
Q. There is this girl who is my friend for over 3 months now. She comes around to visit me, always laughs all the time when we are together, touches me frequently and looks at me in the eyes. I wrote a love poem for her and asked her if she loved it ...
A. 19 November 2008: Hold her hand when you are out walking and then when the moment is right, kiss her.
You don't need to tell her, just act!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Motorboat at the stripclub
Q. I am 25 years old and my fiance 33. Last weekend we went to a strip club with my friend, let's just call her Sally. Sally and I were wondering if the strippers boobs were fake or real so we asked my fiance to go ask her and find out. He gave her ...
A. 19 November 2008: Well the obvious question is - WHY WERE YOU IN A STRIP CLUB??????
That's like taking me to a chocolate shop, giving me money but getting very upset when I stuff my face with chocolate.
If you don't want him to have contact with strippers or any... (read in full...)
I can't move on because of my feelings for him...
Q. I had been with my kids father for thirteen years,We been apart for five years now and it's very hard for me to move on because of my feelings for him, what should i do?...
A. 19 November 2008: Keep trying.
Get out and change your life. Do new things, get a new hair style and get rid of things that remind you of him. (except the kids haha)
Get yourself a new life that does not contain reminders of him and you may even find some o... (read in full...)
I'm really struggling with not having my ex-girlfriend in my life.
Q. This is something really serious to me so please dont think im like a friken loser but... I have been with the same girl for two years and it was great until the end as i have explained in my other questions. I just wanted to know why in the hell i ...
A. 19 November 2008: You have to cut contact and try to move on.
She may have made a mistake but by being there for her to cry on and use you are not exactly making her realise that. She is still getting to be with her new boyfriend while having you be her faithful... (read in full...)
She says she just wants to be friends, but I want more!
Q. I asked the girl I liked out, but she says she just wants to be friends. So how do I get her to be my girlfriend?...
A. 19 November 2008: You wait a while and show her how great you are to hang out with and how romantic you can be and then you try again.
If she still says no then accept it and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I took too long to make a move and now she has a boyfriend...
Q. Man, I'd say I'm feeling like s*** right now, but lemme show y'all my situation: I met this gorgeous girl.I loved her at first sight.I think she loved me too, cause she started gimme signs, for instance: keep staring at me all the time, giving m...
A. 19 November 2008: Why on earth did you wait so long? What were you waiting for?
Your only hope now is to wait for her to split up with her boyfriend and then when she's a little bit over him then go up and ask her out and tell her you're an idiot and have wanted h... (read in full...)
I feel so down and keep crying all the time. What is up with me?
Q. For the past couble of weeks I have been feeling really down, low, I've got no energy, I just can't be arsed to do nothing, but I push myself to because I have a 4 year old boy to look after, he is good as gold bless him, he has even been asking me ...
A. 19 November 2008: Sounds like you have depression.
It could be due to the weather. See if you can buy a sunlight box (used to treat Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD for short) and sit under it for a bit.
Other than that, get out and pamper yourself and lig... (read in full...)
I don't like giving and getting gifts from my boyfriend, what shall I do?
Q. I know this is a strange fear but I don't like giving and recieving gifts from my boyfriend. I don't mind giving and recieving gifts from my friends either the same sex or opposite sex but it's happened with all my past relationships. I am with a g...
A. 19 November 2008: Tell him not to give you anything as you don't want the stress.
I don't understand why you are scared of this though, it is not just that you feel awkward about it?
If it is then just suck it up and get on with it.
Face your fear and ge... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so lazy!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and I love him with every beat of my heart, he's amazing, he's everything a girl wantss in a boyfriend, I'm 19 I work part time every day, he doesn't work nor go to school, I brought it up to him once and ...
A. 19 November 2008: I think you need to kick his arse a bit.
It's all very well him sitting there in his little puddle of self pity but what you need is someone who can pay his share of the bills.
What is he living on now?
Tell him that you will help him to fin... (read in full...)
She keeps ending it when her period is due!
Q. I am in a relationship with the most beautiful woman but she keeps ending the relationship when her period is due. She says she can't help it but she hurts me so bad. Don't know if I can take any more hurt. I love her more than anything. What ...
A. 19 November 2008: If you know it's PMT, and that she doesn't really mean it, why are you
a) getting so upset about it all
b) being around to annoy her enough to make her dump you.
If the way you breathe is enough to make her want to end it then don't breathe a... (read in full...)
The father doesn't want to step up now that I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got ...
A. 19 November 2008: You can't force him.
This is the risk you take when you have underage sex, you get stuck with a little boy who is not ready to grow up.
Perhaps in a few years he will come back and take an interest. But until then you will just have to cope wit... (read in full...)
He's got a GF and resisting my offers to meet up. Is he just messing with me?
Q. What is up? Ok - I'm a good looking older woman with a good figure and personality! - I have recently got involved with a younger guy who I would do ANYTHING for and he knows I really like him (but unfortunately he has a girlfriend who he says ...
A. 18 November 2008: Look, there is only so much you can do without actually kidnapping him and tying him up in your bedroom.
If he is too pitiful to get out from under his girlfriend's thumb to get with you then he is not worth hanging around for.
He's had his ... (read in full...)
After 5 years I've noticed that she is only affectionate after a few drinks. I want her to stop drinking so much. But how ?
Q. I love being with my girlfriend. We have a ton of fun together and rarely fight. After 5 years I've noticed that she is only affectionate after a few drinks. A few drinks is daily lately so in the mornings and afternoons she seems distant; makes me ...
A. 18 November 2008: I think you should bring up the drink thing as a health / drinking problem thing.
If she is drinking every day then she may have a problem and she could be damaging her health.
Ask her why she wants to get drunk. Why does she want to escape f... (read in full...)
Ladies: What is up with people thinking masturbating is just for guys?
Q. Just a quick query about female masturbation. Ladies/girls is it just me or do you think it's a bit sexist to presume that girls don't masturbate and that wanking is a guy's thing? If you are a girl and you masturbate, do you feel really annoyed b...
A. 18 November 2008: To be honest, if guys want to be open and chat about satisfying themselves then that's fine for them.
I'm the type of girl that wants to be seen as a lady and so I'm quite happy to keep my private moments private. I love the fact that it's nau... (read in full...)
Are we doomed to be an oral free couple?
Q. My boyfriend doesnt give me oral and i love it. He will finger me before we have sex, and sometimes if im lucky during, but he doesnt go down and its my fave thing ever. He has said he doesnt like it but he will do it if he wants me to, but by then, ...
A. 18 November 2008: So hang on, you are scared of giving him blow jobs, because you don't get any oral?
That makes absolutely so sense what so ever! That's like rewarding a dog for biting you because you don't want to be an affection free dog owner.
If you don't ... (read in full...)
A woman giving birth turned me on... am I a pervert?
Q. Hi, this is an odd thing. A few weeks ago i was flicking through the tv channels and there was a documentary on about women giving birth...normally this sort of thing chrns my stomach but on this occasion i decided to watch the programme and got ...
A. 18 November 2008: It is a little odd, I'm not going to lie....
But unless you start hanging out on maternity wards with a fake beard, I really don't think it's harmful.
As long as you accept it as a fetish and don't let it take over your life then go for it. ... (read in full...)
The father doesn't want to step up now that I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got ...
A. 18 November 2008: You'll have to get a DNA test once she is born.
It's understandable that he is scared and acting in this way, as he is a little boy, and in now way ready to way to grow up and be a dad.
What you have to do is get your parents and his parents ... (read in full...)
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