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*ute_lily
writes:hiya, yesterday my boyfriend came to see me from Manchester. We have a long distance relationshop as I live in London. We were going to spend most of the day, playing with each other and generally being a bit naughty. However every few minutes, one of his female friends kept texting and he kept stopping to reply. I realise that they are only friends but am I the only one who finds this a bit weird?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 March 2009):
The fact that she was texting him is not a big thing. She's probably bored and on a train and texting all her mates.
The fact that he was keeping a conversation going with her and ignoring you to text her is not on.
If I text a mate and they send back a one line reply with no questions OR they don't respond at all then I'll assume they are busy and text someone else instead. It's no biggy.
The fact he was stopping the naughtiness to focus on talking to her rather than being with you is very disrespectful.
I don't think it means anything is automatically going on, just that he's an idiot / his feelings may have changed slightly.
I would have pulled him up on it after the second text so just tell him that you didn't like it and want all his attention on you next time.
If it happens again the remove the phone from him and switch it off.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I can understand how you feel. You expect that person to be 100% focused on you especially when you are apart a lot of the time. I would say that you didn't like it. I am sure he would not have tolerated this if it was the other way round so I think you were remarkably tolerant just to let him do it and not go into a mood about it. Do mention how it made you feel so it doesn't happen again and if it does think very carefully about whether you want to be with a man who doesn't think about how he is behaving or who doesn't really respect your feelings.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I would of been really upset if I was in your shoes, texting someone else while being intimate with you isn't something anyone should be doing.I really wouldn't trust him, your in a long distance relationship with him, he travelled all the way from Manchester to see you, but found the need to text someone who he claims is just a friend? I wouldn't even text the pope back if I was "with" someone I cared about.
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