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writes:So I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. Before I got into this relationship I was pretty promiscous. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and do not intend to, but the problem I have is the temptation when other guys look at me with that eye that he wants me. How can I get rid of this temptation of having fantasies with hot guys who are not my boyfriend?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 March 2009):
Fantasies can be just fantasies... but it's the intention behind them and the reason for them that can be the problem.
Think hard. Do you ACTUALLY want these other guys? Or you would you run a mile if one tried to put his arm round you. If the most perfect, romantic, never-get-caught, type of opportunity with one of these guys came up... would you kiss him?
If the answer is no then it's all good. You are just bored. If the answer is yes then it might be that your feelings are starting to fade. Most relationships last around 3 years as that is how long the first infatuation stage lasts.
If you are just bored then you have to figure out who is to blame. Who has slipped into the routine and stopped the romance? Try just going up to your boyfriend and shoving him hard against a wall and kissing his face off.
Tell him that you really don't want to be one of those couples that gets stuck in a rut and you want to go out on dates again and do something fun.
Remind yourself why you used to fantasise about him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (13 March 2009):
 You cant really get rid of them...your 18 or 19 and its pretty normal to fantasize, especially since youve been with the same guy for 3 years.The worst thing you can do would be cheat...trust me it will haunt you if you do!
Just let them be fantasies, dont act on them. Everyone has fantasies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): I say dont! Use those temptations and your imagination to spice up your current sex life. There is nothing wrong with fantasizing! Everyone does it.
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