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writes:So I cheated with my ex when my boyfriend an I were broken up. He broke up with me 2 weeks after christmas with no explanation, he wouldnt talk to me at all. Now 3 months later I built up the courage to tell him because i cant keep things from him.. And he broke up with me. My question is does this mean he never loved me the way he said? Was it all a lie because when u love someone u give them a second chance...how could he walk away like nothing?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (12 March 2009):
 He walked away because he realize you are not
The girl for him . I'm sure he love u .. But the question is,. Did u love
Him? Obviously not to sleep with an ex so quickly.
Let him and the relationship go, it's over but Learn
From it so u won't make the same mistakes again
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Wait, you slept with the ex AFTER your BF did the breaking up FIRST? Or did you sleep with the ex first, then the BF broke up? I'm confused.
Even if the BF did the breaking up first and then you hooked up with your ex second, your BF's hurt does not surprise me. The fact that you & your BF were technically "broken up" is not going to stop him from feeling like it was cheating on him for you to sleep with someone else so quickly.
The heart does not know anything about technicalities, it only knows the emotions that it feels. At a gut level he probably feels no different than if you had cheated on him while you were still technically together. His hurt & jealousy is probably not reduced any less.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 March 2009):
When you love someone, you dont cheat on them.
Im sure he loved you, but he doesnt deserve be cheated on and treated like that. So he did what any self respecting person would do, and not put up with it.
It takes more than love to make a relationship work. It requires respect, and by cheating on your partned, shows a lack of respect and just overall a lack of caring for there feelings.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (12 March 2009):
He probably did love you when he thought you loved him and didn't want anyone else.
When he found that you'd slept with an ex it changed the way he thought about you.
Also, he may still love you but be unable to forgive. If I had a boyfriend who cheated on me I'd walk away because there is a good chance they would do it again. He's protecting himself so you can't hurt him again.
Give him time and he may be able to forgive he may not.
You say you were broken up with him at the time, so if you were single then it's not a problem, your only mistake was telling him.
Give him some time and space and then talk to him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): well first off - you SHOULDN'T have lied about it (and though you say you didnt lie, you just kept it from him ; its the SAME thing.) second, it doesnt mean he never loved you it just means that he's really hurt by what you did. if you tried explaining to him about the break up wth no explanaionn you might have a better answer whether he loved you or not. but NEVER keep things from a guy because no matter how innocent you are, you just look guilty when you try and hide it. thats when you have to grow balls and just tell him what happend, why, and accept the consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): It doesnt mean he never loved you.But You probably broke his heart really bad and maybe he is the type of guy who cant take a broken heart and moved on quick.But he loved you at one point.
God Bless.
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