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writes:Okay so im 17 yrs old and i just recently found out that im a nymphomaniac and in this serious relationship but dont really know how to tell my partner that i have it ive known for about a week 1/2 now and im pretty scared on the reaction ill get what should i do? plez help someone Reply to this Question
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Were you diagnosed or just think this is the "problem"? If it's a clinicalissue your Bf will understand...If you're just thinking it then you're probably wrong since there are very few real cases on the planet earth. It's more a male "fantasy" than a reality. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): TO those who helped me thanks very much and to answer alot of youre questions yes i did go to the doctor im in therpy right now and everything and i tend to always be thinking about sex i go to sleep wanting it wake up to wanting it its always on my mind and thats what my theripst came up with because im pretty much done with puberity im on this pill to control my hormones because when i didnt have sex i would get really sick and then when i got it id be fine so my doctor is worried and still tryn to figure out my problem but as of right now thats what they belive it is and as for my relationship yea i was very worried about the reaction i would get and what would be said about it and if trust would be lost and i dont want that to happen especially over this but once again thanks for all your answers they really helped [=
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reader, natasia  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 i think I agree with everyone - how do you know your a nymphomaniac? And what does that mean? (what do you think it means?)
If you just think about sex at least every minute, have a v high sex drive, would be happy to do nothing but have sex all day and night (with breaks for sleeping and snacks), and find yourself thinking about having sex with men while you're asking them the time, etc. - then oops - I am one too ; ) And it doesn't seem to be doing me any harm ...
The best thing is that you are IN A RELATIONSHIP. So just be a highly-sexed individual safely and happily with him.
What are you worried about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Lmao.. You are not a nympho. My best friend who is 17 too thought the same thing but your not it's just your teenage hormones raging, trust me. Did you have sex, and are you always horny, and did a doctor tell you were or did you come to the conclusion yourself? It's hormones and nothing else.It will pass.... Trust me.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (12 March 2009):
 How do you know that you are a nymphomaniac? Was this a medical/psychological evaluation conducted by a trained professional? Or did you answer a magazine quiz?
If you are a teenager, and sexually active, with a healthy lifestyle, having a high sexual drive is not unusual. Of course, some women have a higher sexual drive than others, just like some men do.
First of all, do not fall into the all-too-easy labelling imposed on you by your peer or by popular magazines. Having a high sex drive is fine, particularly when you have a compatible partner. But it may present a problem, if you are a teenager and your thoughts are too preocuppied by sexual-intercourse thoughts and urges, which may become your main drive in your activities. In other words, yes, it does become a problem if you let it control you.
What is it that you are worried about your partner's reaction? That he thinks you are a "slut"? or that he may not have the stamina to keep up with you? Again, "slut" is a "label" (and a negative one) that is put by others [to a person]. If you have sexual urges but you do not act upon it, or only act upon it with your partner (i.e. long term and committed monogamous relationship), that hardly makes you a slut, does it? It may just mean that you enjoy it, and you enjoy having sex with your partner! :-)
If you are worried that your thoughts are always on sex, perhaps a good way of "managing" that is by making sure that you have lots of other healthy activities that would consume your time and energy. Hobbies, exercises or sports, work, volunteering for a good cause. Those are just some of the activities that you can do to make your brain busy and your body uses its energy positively.
But, if you want to have more accurate and professional advice, you need to go to a clinic and get your glands/hormones checked. Just to make sure that everything is as it should be. You can also go to an analyst/pshychologist/pyschiatrist to get a proper evaluation.
If everything checks out OK, then it all goes back to you. How do you want to manage it, as a responsible young adult? Do you want it to control you, or do you want to manage it?
Good luck! You'll be just fine!
Cat
PS.
Have a look at these articles:
Controlled by Desire
http://www.sierratucson.com/alumni_ftrdactvts.php
http://www.sierratucson.com/treatment/sexual_addiction.html
Sex addiction has devastating effects
http://www.straight.com/article-170662/too-much-sex-brain
Sexual addiction
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality
(although, I wouldnt put too much emphasis on Wikipedia, as anybody can add entries in it, as opposed to in a peer journal or other professionally/experts run sites)
Sexual Behaviour
www.rjhresearch.com/ADR/sexualbehav/Sexual%20Behavior.doc
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality
In Greek mythology, any of a large class of inferior female divinities. The nymphs were usually associated with fertile, growing things, such as trees, or with water. They were not immortal but were extremely long-lived and were on the whole kindly disposed toward men.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 March 2009):
You say you have just found out... you don't give any details to how you know though. Who diagnosed you?
At 17, it's possible that you are still overdosing on hormones from the end of puberty and that is what is wrong.
If you are in a serious relationship then surely he has noticed your incredibly high sex drive? You don't have to tell him, just buy a bumper pack of condoms and carry on.
If he can't keep up with you then you might need to tell him, but at 17 there is a good chance he'll be as randy as you.
Also, try seeing your doctor about going on the pill and see if you can find one that lowers your sex drive. I went on one that killed mine dead, so it might help.
Good Luck!! xx
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