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writes:i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called me the biggest slag in southport, and said 'is (B) next or have you already done it' which means he said is this other lad (B) next on my shagging list, but a while ago A and B were best mates but they fell out, and now hate each other, which i think shows jealousy, but i sit next to B in maths and A just keeps giving us dirty looks, stronger than anything, A now wont talk to me, but i dont understand why, ive tried to talk to him, but he wont respond, ive give him some space, but i cant wait much longer, mates have tried to talk to him about me, but he wont respond to them neither unless they talk about something other than me, at school i will be stood somewhere at break and dinner, and then after about 10 - 15 minutes, he will either walk past or come and stand near us, but keeping his distance, so i will move and after about 10 - 15 minutes he will be stood near us again, i just cant seem to get away from him, and cant understand why hes been like this, he wont tell anyone, and im soo confused...i cant forget any of it...and i need some answers but i have no idea how im going to get them...please help... =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): I apologise.
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reader, xX__JESSIE__Xx +, writes (14 March 2009):
xX__JESSIE__Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks every1 who has answered so far, i appreciate it =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): He was nice to you to get your cookie. You gave it to him, and you gave it to him RAW, how dangerous. He changed becoz that's all he wanted. It doesn't matter how you feel about him, coz he doesn't feel the same way, sorry to tell you that.
You made a mistake by sleeping with, and made a bigger mistake not using protection. Don't come back and post that you're not looking for advice about sex COZ you should be. Catching a disease is worse than a heartbreak. That's your biggest issue not what he's calling you and how he is acting.
Ignore him and everything he is saying. We all make mistake, you made one, it's life. You live and learn.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 March 2009):
Don't worry about it!!
We just want to know that you haven't messed up your life and understand that sex can really really mess things up.
I know it's horrible for a boy to say something like this to you, but really it's just because he's angry and immature.
Don't take it to heart. Just let him calm down and you'll know in future not to make the same mistake again. If he doesn't leave you alone after a while then talk to a teacher about him and then they can have a quiet word and tell him to back off.
We all make mistakes and the best thing you can do is learn from it and then grow and be a better person from it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, xX__JESSIE__Xx +, writes (14 March 2009):
xX__JESSIE__Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know, im sorry for having a go at you all,, its just he wound me up, and ive been takin my anger out on others, without been able to stop myself, i really am sorry, for having ago at you x
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Now sweetheart, no need to get like that.
Firstly he's treating you like this because you have behaved in what he and many other men would consider a slutty way!
Secondly YOU HAVE HAD UNPROTECTED SEX therefore the aunties here feel they have a duty of care to inform you of the risks of unprotected sex!
I know, you know, how sex works and I'm sure you are not a "SLAG" and that you don't have any STIs or are not pregnant, but how sure are you. But you ask a silly question so we will assume that you need all the help you can get, and that you don't actually know where babies and AIDS come from.
And Teenagers in the NORTH WEST of ENGLAND has the HIGHEST rate of CHLAMYDIA in the UK! So you really are target audience!
So stop having a go at us and get checked out at your local GUM clinic!
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reader, xX__JESSIE__Xx +, writes (14 March 2009):
xX__JESSIE__Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim sorry right but its not advice on sex i was looking for,, i just wanted to find out why he was been like this...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 March 2009):
How do you know?
You might still have his chlamydia though, you still need to get checked out.
No condoms = big stupid risk and getting checked out.
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reader, xX__JESSIE__Xx +, writes (14 March 2009):
xX__JESSIE__Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not havin his kid!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): Southport isn't a bad town as it is, the people there are quite friendly. I used to work there some time ago.No-one should be insulted, and "slag" is a strong insult to any woman.When you do have the baby, put it up for adoption. It will seem hard, and the emotions it causes are probably going to cause upset, but in the long run it's for the best.Hope all goes well; see a social worker for more advice, they are best qualified in this area.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): First of all, you shoukd remember everything you've done. Wich guys were you with and when and everything. Maybe he was good with you but he found out (I mean maybe it was some kind of rumor, wich usually turns out to be fake), that you where with another guy while you were with him. I must remember you that what you think was an inofensive flirting may hurt him cause he should feel strongly attached to you cause you slept together! and didn't use protection. At your age you shouldn't be involved in this tipe of activities with guys who walk away from you that easily. Also you really don't want to get pregnat use a condom! no, REALLY can you imagine, you find out you're pregnant, and he left you!! and won't talk about it, how would you feel?? used. now you're pregnant go tell your parents, and the daddy? oh, we were close mates and he left me. Bang! single mother at our 13-15 years. now what?by the way, where you an official couple? it's all in your hands, cause YOU will be the one who gets pregnant, YOU will have to carry this child, and YOU will have to live the rest of your life thinking A. What will you do to support this child or B. you had an abortion at such a young age.Hope you think about it an consider contraception and good luck.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (14 March 2009):
You haven't really done yourself any favours by having a chat with a guy then having unprotected sex at under 16! And I'm guessing it probably wasn't your first time by the fact that you were so casual about writing about it.
It was a bit harsh to call you the Biggest slag in Southport, but maybe it will give you a kick up the backside to not have sex until you are in a LOVING adult relationship, and when you do have sex to make him use a condom.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 March 2009):
Right well you didn't use protection so first off you need to check for pregnancy and stds down at the family planning clinic.
You also might want to ask them where babies come from as you don't seem to understand that when you have sex YOU USE A CONDOM. It's not difficult.
You had sex with this guy so he now thinks you are easy. The fact you didn't make him use a condom also looks really bad as he'll think you probably aren't bothered about disease and therefore may have been with all kinds of other guys.
Even as an adult, you do not have sex with a guy for a long while if you like him. Otherwise they lose all respect for you. It's just the way it is for us girls. Sad but true.
Since you also had sex with a little boy, it may be really hard for him to deal with it emotionally.
I think you just need to back away from him. He may have really liked you but then you slept with him and were willing to risk pregnancy so he's probably just really upset that you weren't the nice girl he thought you were. He may also be terrified that he's going to be a dad.
Leave all guys alone and concentrate on yourself for a while. Boys are too imature for relationships at your age and you really aren't ready for sex if you don't understand contraception.
Give it time and he'll calm down, then you can talk about it and you can tell him you aren't going to have sex again until you are legal and in a relationship.
Surely you are worth that anyway?
Good Luck!! xx
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