A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I just started seeing this guy about a week ago. He is a sweet guy but he always wants to make out and do other stuff. I told him that I dont have sex without a commitment, as he still hasnt asked me out yet but he keeps pushing for it. Sometimes, we will be kissing and he will try to put his hand down my pants and I say no and he says ok and respects my wishes. But other times when we kiss, he puts my hand on his crotch over his jeans but I take it off and he gets mad for teasing him. I mean I want to have sex with him but not yet, its way too early and I dont know how I feel about foreplay at this point, I still think it might be a little too early. How can I make him wait? And please dont say just dump him because I know I wont, he just gets really horny sometimes lol
View related questions:
foreplay, horny, kissing, teasing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): wow there is a lot of of answer for this but I think I'm the first male! XD Anyways time to get serious. he is acting suspicious so be careful. if he's pushing for it this early you need to see any girl he's been with in the past if any. if they say he was like this and dumped them then he's likely a player. I kno that's hard to absorb but its better safe then sorry. also tell him you don't feel comfortable doing anything this early on and it bothers you a lil. he may just be a typical guy who is confusing sex for love. I kno that sex complicates literally everything so its smart to wait. if he trys to sweet talk you or say mean stuff to you about your looks/personality etc. he's not worth it. as a guy I one time almost pushed it a lil far without realizing it but once my g/f said enough, my hand went away. if he loves you then he will stop once you tell him it makes you uncomfortable. if he doesn't then I'm sorry but you will have to find another. everyone has someone for them but don't let players hurt you along the wayPatrick
A
male
reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 March 2009):
 Way, way too early for being so pushy, and better a man never push any woman past her desires. Just a week of aquaintance? You sound closer to age 13 than over 18. Please reconsider this relationship already.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): Why are you putting yourself in the position where you two are alone so soon if you feel things are going to fast? You really shouldn't be spending alone time at his house or yours with a guy that hasn't even asked you out yet. He's not going to stick your hand down his pants if your at a nice restaurant or getting to know you more over coffee at Starbucks. Put simply, if you invite a guy over and start making out with him on your couch, that's an invitation for him to try more. You don't even know how you feel about foreplay with him yet your giving him a green light.It's up to you to set the right pace for yourself so I'd suggest harmless, public places where the two of you can really get to know one another. If he's not willing to do that, chances are he doesn't really like you that much and you're better off finding that out early on.
...............................
A
female
reader, kaylagal +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Sit him down and tell him you want to get to know him first. Ask him to take it easy coz he's makes you uncomfortable.
You sound like you really like him. Just be careful coz he might ONLY be interested in having SEX with you. His behaviour is very suspicious. If I were you, I would definitely enforce the 90day rule with him.
...............................
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 March 2009):
You say you are not going to dump him so there is no point me really advising you.
If you can't see that this guy only wants you for sex and will never be your boyfriend then really, there is no helping you.
He's not even asked you out yet and he's pushing for sex. This is very clearly all he is after.
For as long as you make him wait, he'll either A. Get bored and go elsewhere, or B. Wait it out and then leave you as soon as he's got what he wanted.
Guys who care about you ask you out before trying anything and do not push for sex.
Do you really think this letch is all you deserve?
Find a decent guy.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
|
