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writes: okay ineed a little help... mee and my girlfriend have been going out for over 3 months now,, and she's great, i love her to death, i cant be without her and she loves me too-she's a really great grl.. so yesterday was her birthday and she held a birthday party for her and her family and friends i did really special things for her that day..i didnt juss give her a gift, i gave her something that was really close to the heart ..and she was really happy so after the party was over..she was really thankfulll.we were on the couch making out really passionately...and then she started to feel around my crotch (we havent gotten that far yet), so i was feeling a little scared... so then i took her hand away and put my fingers through hers and told her that im not ready to go that far yet.... the problem is that im not sure that was such a good idea i feel so guilty in denying her like that..on her birthday i feel like ive disappointed her and ruined her whole night.. i feel really bad...what should i do?? plesz Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i tlked it over with her...
she did think that i wanted that and i dont
blame her because that's what most guys just want
"sex"...
but im not like that...im deeper than that
she's a virgin too..and she wasn't ready iether
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (10 February 2009):
honey you are obviously not ready for sex and made the right choice in stopping her from trying to take it further.
you should never just have sex to make the other person happy, you come first! if you are not ready then you should not do it. you seem very young and i think you won't be ready for sex untill you are a little older. you know when you are ready, and your obviously not. so well done and you did the right thing! if she don't like it, then you are better off without her. she probably isn't ready either. she probably just did it because she though it's what you might of wanted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Wow, I can't believe that a guy your age will not do anything like that. I sure wish you were my boyfriend and acted like that. All the guys that i date just wanna get in my pants. So stay that way. If it don't work out with her then there are tons of girl that will love the way you respect girls!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yah i tlked to her today..and she says shew's okay withy it..she says that we dont have to rush into things taht we're not ready for yet..
so thxz erybody
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 February 2009):
 I think that you are really, a very cool and very smart guy. You did completely the right thing - why the heck rush when you have all the time in the world? I know that you may regret your choice a little later, but just remember that you have an entire lifetime to get under-the-pants action.
And, as a woman who has tried to make a move too young and been gently rejected, I can only say that she is reeeaalllly going to thank you later in life. Not to mention, you have proved just how much you respect her and your guys relationship.
You kept things classy. You didn't ruin her birthday. You did absolutely the right thing. I wish there were more teenagers like you in the universe!!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Honestly you did the right thing. There are so many more regrets to giving in at your age than there are for just waiting.
You will get aroused but that is no excuse to act on it. Be strong for you and her.
She may not appreciate it now but when she realises that it really isn't big or clever she'll thank you for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question are you sure cause i really wanted to do it and was really aroused..
i felt like a total jerk afterwords..
but i was still wary of the statistics
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (7 February 2009):
 You did right - you're young and you're not ready yet. Respect.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (7 February 2009):
I really respect the fact that a guy has actually had the balls to say no to a girl on this one. If you are not ready that is fine, wait till you feel the time is right,
If she loves you she will understand, not to mention that you are both under-age and teen pregnancy is far too common, are you ready to be a dad? The key words to her are that you respect her too much for her to do that yet!
She is your lady and it shows true respect and chivalry for a guy not to take advantage of a girl. Well done! I really don't give out praise on here often but you did the right thing.
Good luck
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