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writes:My husband of 9 years just sat me down the other day, and told me that 6 years ago he had a moment of weakness and with a co workder pulled over in a parking lot and and pulled his pants down, and before anything could happen the cops pulled up and he has regreted it ever since and it was killing him, he said it was a moment of weakness, he said she offered a blow job. We hadn't seen much of each other at that time as I was working a lot of hours. I don't know if I can forgive him, I know it was a long time ago, but to me it's fresh, I knew the person, and to think he had that moment of weakness why wouldn't he have another, Should I forgive him?
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 what a SLUT! what BITCH! who does that to a married man! its her fault i think, of course he was tempted, he is a man, he was curious, sex feels good...yada yada, it's a good thing nothing happen and an even better thing that he regrets it. If he sais that he hasnt seen her since or anyone else then give him a chance talk to him and really work on trusting him again, perhaps go to a professional for councelling together? He was honest with you, he didnt ever have to tell you, he couldve gone to the grave with it. In my books honesty means sooooooo much:) good luck babe!
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 I think that not only should you forgive him, but you shouldn't give him a hard time about it either. That's not to say you shouldn't "lay down the law" as to what will happen if this situation presents itself again but, come on, cut the guy some slack. If he'd never told you, you'd never have found out. It's sounds like he's been punishing himself enough over this for SIX years. Be straight with him that you won't tolerate it, but he knows he did wrong, and he's been torturing himself ever since. If he didn't love you and need your trust, he would never have told you. Good luck.
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reader, eddie +, writes (11 February 2009):
 It sounds as though he's been torturing himself over this. Obviously you're important to him. If you were not important to him he would not have been suffering. The fact he suffered indicates he knows it was wrong. I don't know what else you could expect from him at this point. If it was something he was still interested in he would not have told you about the last time. Having said all that it is totally understandable that you feel hurt. Give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): It's very normal that this is hurting you, but if you really are happy together I would consider to forgive him.
It happened 6 years ago, your husband could after 6 years not keep his mouth, because he has regret his mistake for something that almost happened.
He had his lesson that he will not be so stupid again.
If I was you, I would give him a chance and trust him.
Let him give you extra attention (not in money, but in real attention like extra massage, extra time together, extra traveling, extra...to recover his mistake, and try to turn it in something possitive (but tell him if he try again, you will cut his balls :)
Honestely I think that your husband is relative honest.
(to give you an idea, in the past I was traveling a lot for my job, I was sometimes thinking that I was not normal because I did not go to see other women (many were doing...)
I wish you love and wishdom.
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reader, xsweet_girlx +, writes (11 February 2009):
 Just ask yourself if he loved you and it was eating him inside as much as he says, then why didn't he tell you sooner?
If you are so totally in love with him then you could make him grovel a bit, so he sees he can trust you and that he won't do anything as stupid EVER again!
show him your a better person and that what hes done is unforgivable but on a low scale, it could have been alot worse
hope this helps
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reader, steffi666 +, writes (11 February 2009):
only you know all men are different do wat your gut tells you were all weak at some point. no excuses thats just bein human, its then up to you two to know weather you can get passed it. if you dont think you can then its best to cut the relationship now cause it will only causes rows and a break up in the end
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