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writes:do most guys perfer a pretty blonde to a brunette.any guy i have known always went for the blondes heavy or thin. do guys not like brunette are we not good enough or pretty enough like the blondes Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2012): I think that it's mostly about what suits you best. I'm a girl and I personally
am more for brunettes not just because I'm a brunette but I just prefer dark shaded brown hair and besides it could suit almost everyone not like blonde hair. I have dark brown hair with golden highlights and
I wouldn't trade it for anything else. Everyone says that I'm beautiful, sexy and hot and I have had comments like " You are like perfect"
(I don't think I'm even close to being perfect lol) But they didn't just say that cos of my hair color or my looks. Hey, your personality counts too and trust me the more you stay simple and natural, the more beautiful you'll look, cos this is what a decent guy would be looking for anyway.
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reader, TiaBelle  +, writes (10 December 2012):
I'm a natural brunette, with a few honey-golden high-lights.I love my hair colour so much, it suits my eyes, that are a mixture of blue, green and my eyes have tints of golden flecks! Persoanlly, boys I've met are really attracted to my looks and character, and they like my hair-colour...But,most of the population are boys and they have different personalities, so it stands to reason that boys are looking for a girl that they like because of their own heart, but I doubt that boys pick girls to date, just because of their hair-colour! I mean, seriously!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): not all guy's are the same, all people prefeur different things so some lads will prefeur brunettes to blondes an some will prefeur blondes to brunettes where as others are just not fussy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): i have black hair and men love it. but when i dyed it blonde men loved it anyway. each man has thier own preference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Some guys have a definite preference for blondes or brunettes but what really attracts them in my experience is self-confidence and a sense of humour. If you come over as friendly and comfortable in your own skin then they're far more likely to date you, regardless of hair colour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): i think it depends on the person as well. I personally am attracted to blondes more but if you want to date someone, they have to have a personality and sense of humor for sure. Looks can only go so far. Also some girls look much hotter as a brunette than as a blonde so you never know :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Alessandra the victoria secret model and taylor swift with her beautiful hair is HOOOOTTTT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): It used to be a blonde trend (marilyn monroe,play boy bunnies,marissa miller, elisha cuthbert, pamela anderson, cameron diaz, but now its a dark hair trend. I'm italian and have naturally dark hair but i feel washed out and blahh.i'm a hairstylist and have blonde hair hazel eyes and love it. so do the guys :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): I am a guy and I can tell you that blondes are not prettier than brunettes. Whenever I see a pretty blonde, it's almost like seeing the sun after a long storm. However, whenever I see a pretty brunette, it's like sitting by a warm fire at night in the middle of storm. One emotion is not necessarily better than the other, they are just different. I prefer the feeling I get when I see a blonde, but all three of my roommates prefer brunettes. hmm.. Now that I think about it, I cannot decide! Another analogy that I can think of for you is that blondes are like the transition from spring to summer, and brunettes are like the transition from summer to fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): This should be good news for the majority of women in Britian and other western countries who bleach their hair though it is naturally dark. I think when placed with their natural complexion, bleavhing it makes people people look unatural and they become very yellow/orange overall or pale and rather washed-out and the effect is not very attractive, so I dont understand why they do it at all.
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reader, Too Sensitive  +, writes (12 February 2009):
I don't recall which magazine or when (but this millennium I believe). They did a survey with men as to preference of hair color, and surprise, the winner was brunette! Which completely undermined society's thinking that it was always blondes who would come out on top. I think at this point it is just an old myth, a legend, which has gone by the wayside. This coming from a natural blonde, me.
I was born with black hair, and when I was only 5 months old, it all fell out and grew back in blonde. So, I am a natural blonde by nature is how I see it.
However, I always felt like an outcast within my own family, as my father had black hair, but my mother and 2 siblings all had red hair. I did have some red highlights naturally, but I was still "blonde", which at times made me feel inferior! That's b/c my mother always praised the facets of being a redhead, since that was the household majority. I was the middle child, sandwiched in between 2 redheads, with a redhead dominating the household.
When I was 29, I started to go gray a bit prematurely. That's when I decided to start coloring my hair. I went to the salon, picked out a blonde shade very close to my natural shade, and guess what color my hair came out? Red!!! They couldn't figure it out. That was okay, b/c you know what, I fell in love with the color instantly, as shocking as the result was.
I had a bbq to attend later that day, and let me tell you, I was the belle of the ball. I felt like Scarlett O'Hara, b/c I had men swarming around me like bees to the honey...married, single, and everything in between. It wasn't so much the hair color, as how the hair color made me feel inside. It was a very unique shade of red, and as I said, I instantly fell in love with it. I felt truly in my element, and it showed. That's why the guys were coming up to me. I was not encouraging them, but I felt good, no great, inside, and they picked up on this. That can be a natural magnet for sure!
Oddly enough, using the same exact shade of blonde color, subsequent trips to the salon produced the shade of blonde I had originally intended. After the red, this was a disappointment. We ultimately tried different shades of blonde, and different shades of red, in an effort to once again get that first red shade that happened quite by accident, to no avail.
I still go to the salon, and always get my hair colored red. A very attractive red, but not the red I had that first time. That is elusive and futile it seems. A once-in-a-lifetime experience, as it turns out.
Many of my ex bfs preferred redheads, or so they told me. One of them along the way is how I got started intentionally trying to be red, instead of sticking with the blonde.
My fiance prefers blondes. No matter. I prefer red, and I feel more natural being red. I feel at my best when I am red. So, that is how I go, doing what I prefer, not what anyone else prefers, including him. I don't care if red is at the bottom of the list as to what the majority of men prefer. This is about what I prefer, and what makes me feel the best. I never did follow the masses, but instead prefer to beat my own drum.
I like being unique, and I think red is the most unique of all hair colors. I am sure there is also a deep psychological connection to red and seeking parental approval, even at this stage of being an adult.
I can even remember overhearing my mother say to my sister, who is a redhead, before I started coloring my hair and while I was still a natural blonde..."I don't understand why men notice your sister more than they notice you!". I am sure that was damaging on some level, but I remember turning that around in my head and letting it fuel my confidence instead. I remember grinning as I heard this.
Anyway, I think hair color is irrelevant when it comes down to it. It has more to do with how we feel inside about ourselves. I had always preferred men with dark hair...yet I married a blonde (though we've since divorced).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Actually, one year I went blonde just to see what it was like, somewhat motivated by the fact that my sister is a natural blonde blonde.
I went quite light, I fell in love for this girl's hair that worked at Neiman Marcus so I approached her and asked for her colorist.
She did a great job, but I went really blonde, like several "levels" difference than my own, it was very expensive and time consuming to maintain, partly because my hair is very thick and it grows very fast and she had to put highlights or lowlights in it as well....so that was a major reason I went back to my natural color, and I had to dye my hair several shades darker than my natural color to cover the blonde, it too a year for that blonde to grow out of my hair.....I don't recommend changing your hair color that many levels different than your own natural color, don't do it!
But what I found is that I got more attention from guys, but not the kind I wanted. For one I have an above average intelligence, and when the pharmacist started talking to me really slowly and in simplistic terms (when I had talked to him before as a brunette and he talked to me as an equal) I decided I wanted to be taken more seriously....he spoke to me as if I was a bit slow or stupid and I hated it! But I will say more guys seemed to approach me as a blonde, I think I looked like I would be more fun, but it didn't do me any good in finding a real relationship, that happened when I was my authentic self!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): When I was blonde, I did get more attention.....But mostly from skeezy guys like roadworkers.
I look a lot nicer as a brunette, and dont get as much attention, but when I do its from decent guys.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 February 2009):
 Okay, not hating on those blonde bombshells, but I'm a smokin' brunette and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I've never had trouble finding a fella, even have completed for a guy with a blonde - I took home the trophy (but dropped the guy a few weeks later).
All hot blondes look so similar to me. Brunettes have character and a more unique hotness. I'm biased, of course... what can I say?
Blondes = hot.
Brunettes = .03% HOTTER.
According to my own personal science, I can assure you that that is a scientific FACT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Blonde women out there--please stop saying dirty blonde. I prefer to call us dark blonde. Doesn't it sound more attractive? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I'm a natural dirty blonde, but went darker and didn't get much attention from guys. I went blonder, (not for the guys) and it turns out I did get more attention being a blonde. But that can just mean I look better as a blonde. Some guys prefer blondes, others don't. It's not guys in general, they're all different in what they think is more attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Actually, human beings have preferences. My father is a blonde, I am a brunette and so is my mother. As I started dating men, I was NEVER attracted to a blonde man, only dark brown or brown, but then along came Brad Pitt, what can I say. My current boyfriend's hair is only slightly lighter than mine, we are both considered dark blondes, but really I call my hair brown with gold and blonde highlights....so think Jennifer Anniston. Do you think Brad Pitt would ever be attracted to me because my hair was the same color as Jen's? I seriously doubt it. Do you get what I am saying? People have preferences and that is the way it goes my dear...so stop stressing about your hair, it is utterly pointless.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (11 February 2009):
 Nope. I don't.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (11 February 2009):
 I don't think it bothers guys to much about hair colour but different boys have different views.Most boys like Brunette i've found.But be unique don't just die your hair to fit what most guys like. i Tried dying my hair blonde and because i've got natural veryyy dark hair it went yellow and the hairdresser said i had to leave it like that for 6 weeks. Not the smartest thing to do.Keep a colour close to your natural hair because it will suit you better and boys like natural not fake.Livia.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Many guys on this site say they prefer brunettes. See for yourself when the questions pop up here about what guys like. PeterPan was one of them.
When my daughter was born, she was a cute brunette. I thought (shallow) hoping she wouldn't be jealous of my blonde hair. WELL, she never had a problem whatsoever. Girls at her school are all dying their hair DARK. So what does that say?
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reader, sarah63 +, writes (11 February 2009):
of course guys like brunettes too!! just use your sex appeal and the most important thing is to feel confident about yourself... time to let know that blondes not always have more fun!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (11 February 2009):
Im naturally blonde, I never got too much attention from guys. Then I started dying my hair brown and I get so many more guys liking me!! Its probably because brown hair suits me better, not that brunettes are better then blondes or anything.
Honestly I dont think hair colour has too much to do with it.
Sure there are probably some superficial guys out there who may only date blondes- but they are just superficial. Any decent guy woudlnt judge a girl on her hair colour. You can be pretty with either colour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I don't know what kind of answer you were looking for, but like Emily says, attractiveness has nothing to do with hair colour, it's all to do with personality, style and the way you come across to men. A blonde can be a miserable bitch, which is an unattractive trait, just the same as a redhead or a brunette, and the reverse is also true.
The simplistic answer to your question - from my point of view anyway - is an emphatic 'No!'
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): not the kind of answer i am looking for
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 February 2009):
Yes, buy a wedding magazine and you will see that no brunette girl has ever had so much as a boyfriend. In fact we all die virgins.
Just look at Angelina Jolie. She's brunette and no man on earth would want to be with her..... oh, hang on, wait.
Don't be daft. It has nothing to do with hair colour 90% of the time. It has to do with looks, style, and attitude. If your blonde friends give out signals that they are fun, available, and may have sex with people then they will get men chasing them.
Look at yourself critically. Ignore the colour of your hair and work out how you are sitting, what body language you give off, and how your appearance makes you come across.
I have to really watch myself as I slouch and hide away out of habit from when I was younger. Sit up and smile.
Good Luck!! xx
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