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*leeplessLullaby
writes: Lately, my boyfriend has been really confusing me. He keeps telling me that he wants to see me, but I always feel as though he doesn't. We used to see eachother a lot - his excuse is that "people change". He tells me he needs to do revision as his exams are coming up soon, but he still makes time to see his other friends. I try to talk to him about it, but he just says things like, "Are you trying to say I can't see my friends?", "Are you saying I can't have alone time?" or "My exams are important". I get all of that, but he's just twisting my words. I just want him to be able to make time for me as well as alone time, revision and his other friends. He says that he wants to see me, but then he'll text me later to say he's not coming up because he's too tired or something. We plan to do things, and then he complains that I'm boring. He says that he loves me, but he's really, really confusing me. Can you please help me be able to tell what he's thinking?
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reader, SleeplessLullaby +, writes (9 May 2010):
SleeplessLullaby is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hmmm.. I didn't realise I actually posted this o.O I was writing it to vent feelings and must've pressed send :S
Thanks for all the support, Im going to try some more with him because I really like him :)
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Sorry, but it sounds like this relationship is over and he is too chicken to tell you. If he thinks you're boring why would he want to be with you, and more importantly why would you want to be with him? If he can't make time for you and puts you down then just end it...it will be easier on you that way.
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reader, ann84  +, writes (17 April 2010):
you know what Ive the same problem, my bf never sees me always busy etiher with his parents or with his work..when we decided to hang out, smt came up so we couldnt see each other for a long time... thats not fair.. maybe its better to move for both of us.. and not to take care of them as much as they did
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reader, tERi0N! +, writes (17 April 2010):
 it sounds like he just doesn't want to see you if he always have excuses
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (17 April 2010):
 He complains that you are boring? Seriously??Girl,by talking and analyzing you won't achieve anything.Let actions speak louder than words. Ignore him. Play him like he plays you. When he wants to see you,say you're busy with your girls or your new hobby. Observe his reactions. Will he want to see you or will be ok that you dont have time to see him?Dont bother your cute head over it,your so young after all!
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reader, raiders +, writes (16 April 2010):
 His school work should be important because his future depends on his discipline and responsibility towards his education. Now he needs time to vent and he has his friends to hang out and chill thats also good for him. But he also needs to give you time, be with you because the relationship will die unless time is invested in it. Talk to him tell him he has to manage his time better or he might loose you. If you see no results after you have made an attempt than maybe the best thing to do is to move on.
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