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writes:ok here goes one of my best friends is kind of a slag, i mean shes pretty shes really thin has big boobs and is really confident, but even tho she has a boy friend she still lets all of our male friends feel her up at dinner time, she trys to make it look like she doesnt want them to but she will just sit there giggling as all these boys feel her boobs and feel her legs, i really wanna say something to her, i really do but not only does it make me uncomfertable shes making all theguys think that they can do it to everyone! i mean i make sure they dont do it to me the kid with a broken nose will tell u that but a different friend of mine wont even sit with us anymore cos she is scared of gettin felt up and she is soooo fun 2 sit with should i tell her to stop lettin um or should i just keep my mouth shut what do i do? x
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Just get up and walk away when it happens and leave her to it. That will give her the message that you don't like what she's doing. If she questions why you left, explain to her that you find her behaviour embarrassing and that you think she encourages it by giggling instead of telling them to keep their filthy hands to themselves, and that she's giving boys the wrong message about what's acceptable behaviour around girls. If she gets angry and accuses you of being jealous - just point out to her that you have no ambition to get a reputation as the school tramp so jealousy is nothing to do with it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Tell your friend her behaviour makes you uncomfortable, doesnt she realise why the other friend isnt sitting with you any more, or is she so focussed on being the centre of attention (not nice attention but attention anyway) that she hasnt noticed your other friend moved?
Okay, tell her the behaviour is making you uncomfortable, tell her you believe her behaviour is leading the boys on to believe all girls are now fair game, and that if she doesnt stop you will just have to find somewhere else to sit.
Are you able to move tables? If she takes no notice, and the touching up starts again, pick up your lunch and go, no words will be necessary. You may need to do it a few times before she accepts you are serious, she may also accuse you of jealously but you are just going to have to ignore her negative reactions and wait for the light bulb to come on for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): "i make sure they dont do it to me the kid with a broken nose will tell u that" - oh thank you, thank you thank you! I have tears in my eyes as I write this, and nearly rolling on the floor laughing.
I'm sorry, that's not helping you; why don't you move away like your fun friend did and sit with her?
Perhaps the two of you could have a quiet word with her, although I bet she won't listen.
She is loving the attention her newly-grown boobs are getting her and it's to be expected. It won't be long before she is complaining that men only speak to her nipples, and that there is a real person in there.
Be patient: try to reason with her, or keep away and hope she gets the message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): Take her to the side and say "Its totally okay that you feel okay with being felt up, but its making me feel uncomfortable, because the guys will try to feel me up too. And if this keeps going on, no other girl will want to sit with us, or you, out of fear of being molested. If you like them feeling you up, go somewhere private"
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