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writes:my husbands brother moved in with us after his divorce. he had no where to stay so i agreed to let him stay with us. i spent some time with him, while my husband was at work. I got to know him better, and acually got close with him, i find myself falling for him. he is attractive, dresses nice and listens to what i am saying. i think i am falling in love with him. what do i do???????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Suggest to your brother-in-law he may need find his own place. You may be falling for your brother-in-law out of sympathy and by comparing him to your husband. You may see that the faults you find in your husband are not in your brother-in-law. However, he has his own flaws that may not appear now. You have to consider if you have children, how complicated the situation could become and the fact, you could tear a family apart. How would extended family react, your husband would become isolated. It is easy to forget why we married our significant other and reflect on their positive qualities and why they make such a good match for us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Just HOW close have you got to him? It's possible he'd be horrified if he found out what's going through your head and voluntarily get himself out of the situation or maybe even tell his brother. You need to put a lid on this before it explodes with all the energy of a nuclear bomb, when your brother-in-law won't be the only one getting a divorce and having nowhere to stay.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (19 December 2009):
 tell your husband
its not the brothers fault your falling for him but it will be your fault if you dont do anything about it tell your husband he has to go he can stay with his mom or something do you really want to ruin your marriage and your family buy having an affair your going to get caught eventually your husband will suspect something. you should be able to tell your husband anything so far you havnt done anything wrong but you need to get the brother out before you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): The responder below is right. You need to think about what might be making you feel this way. Consider that maybe your falling in love w/ your husband all over again. After all, it is his brother, they can't be too far off from each other. Maybe there's something in your current marriage that needs some attention to fix your wondering eyes. I wish you all the best of luck, my only concern is that it's your husband's brother, not some random guy you had a moment w/ on the street. It doesn't sound as if he's all that stable, maybe he's just the next best thing to your husband whom you are maybe upset w/ or resentful towards for something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Kick him out or you'll be very sorry.
You must be cruel to be kind to yourself AND your husband, his brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Of course he listens to you because he has more energy and time than your husband. I hope you do not cheat on your husband who is out supporting the two of you. That would be horrible..
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 ooooer, he dresses nice, and is attractive and listens to you, while your husband is at work no less.
Maybe you think you can remove the husband and install the brother in his house, as it seems he already has your husbands place in your heart!
Is this man not working, isnt it time he moved himself to get a place of his own. What else is your husband doing to support him besides give him a home?
Time you suggested nicely to your husband that it's time you and he had your home to yourselves.
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