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30-35,
*cey lacey
writes:i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago just to cool things off in our senior year and to give each of us a chance to focus on colleges and spend time with friends (we go to different schools and have different friends) and to maybe start seeing other people before finishing high school.. we were together for a year and a half. he still doesnt want to be friends with me bc he says it hurts too much to just be friends..but we still talk about getting married... is it normal that i love him and wana marry him but dont want him as a boyfriend right now? i know marriage seems so far fetched coming from a 17 year old... i guess you could think of it as i never want to end things with him totally i still see us being together later on. is that really childish of me?
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (19 December 2009):
In your mind, he's the right one at the wrong time and that is okay to think that way. Don't force yourself to be with him if you're having second thoughts. There is no "what if" so just go about your life and cherish the moments that you had/have with him. Some people end up marrying each other 10+ years later with or without contact but some find the right one at the right time and just continue to move on forward. You can't live thinking he's eventually going to be Mr. Right while you're looking for Mr.Right Now meaning someone that you think you would have more fun with and etc. at this time in your life. But when you are with MR. Right Now, don't take him for granted either because he might just end up being Mr.Right and the memories of your ex boyfriend will slowly fade away. You should try to be in an open relationship with whoever you start to date or simply just date and don't get into relationships since you're still thinking of the ex-boyfriend just because you might end up not being faithful to the current one if you keep thinking about your ex and having contact him with. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 Maybe he didnt appreciate being dumped by you, regardless of your reasons, and doesnt want to get back into any sort of relationship with you in case you do it again.
Seems to me you want to have your cake and eat it too, and that rarely works out for the best!
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