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writes:I would like to know the average time a husband/live in boyfriend (other than those who work away from home)spends with his family. Like on a daily basis, how many hours does he spend at home and really "being there" and not doing something else (i.e., on the computer/phone, watching tv, sleeping, etc.) How about on weekends? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Very difficult. Family should come first, but men can get very lost in the world of work. so it kind of also depends on what your husband does to be honest. Is he self employed? Or is he employed by a company? What are his working hours and such. What't his job like, and does he need to meet targets. What might have happened is he has thrown himself into work so much he's kind of lost sight of his family. So the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to him about how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Family comes first. If he is not at work to provide for his family, he should be with his family. Not saying you shouldn't allow him a night to do as he pleases every once in awhile with the guys or whatever. If a computer or video game is interrupting your time w/ him maybe you need to talk to him about it. It sounds silly but it is a known fact that addictions can form from these techonoligies. I can tell you though that my husband is home and "alert" from the time he gets off work til the time he goes to bed (of course he may get online and check an auction, check e-mail, etc., but not for a period of time that I feel forgotten about.) Ask him for more family time, you obviously have a concern, as any woman would. Best of luck to you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 "good" husbands expend quality time on their families, some families all get together to repair the fence, to build the cubby, to cook a batch of cakes. Some dads organise their work hours so they can be home to bath their kids and read a bed time story. One young dad I know has a wife trying to become a published author, so he doesnt spend Sunday afternoons with her but takes their kids to the park etc etc to give her time on her own.
So because he isnt with his wife, does that make the time less loving? I think i know where you are coming from with your question, he might be in the house, but not talking or interacting with his family, and you may as well have a stuffed dummy for a husband and father.
Why not, if you live in a town, wrap the kids up warm and go for a walk around the block to look at Christmas light, or take them out for dessert at a cafe or something as a Christmas treat, if he doesnt even notice you all went out, front him, he might come back with the "I work all day so that you can go out for dessert" but tell him the kids can get by without dessert but they cant get by without a dad.
Assuming there are kids of course ...........
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