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*erenity1967
writes:Had a wonderful friend in high school, I knew he was in love with me but I just wanted to be friends, 4 years after graduation he comes back into my life,by then I am a young single mother to a 1 year old son and he said he would be honored if I would let him be a part of mine and my sons life, I turned him down again! I always knew what a mistake I had made but I lived with my decision and moved on...I married and had another child, divorced and married again and divorced again a year ago. Now here we are 21 years later, we recently got in contact again, He is in the military, married with 2 kids, he has stayed in the marriage because of his kids, even though his wife has cheated every time he was deployed over seas, he is being deployed again to Iraq next year for about a year. After countless hours on the phone (we are in the same state, just opposite ends), he still has so much love for me, I was his first love, he never let it go, I had always known that I made a huge mistake letting him out of my life...neither of us expected to ever be in each others lives again yet here we are. We are going to wait until he returns from Iraq to take this further...for now we love each other and are wanting a future together. I dont doubt what I feel for him, or what he feels for me...I just need to know if this could really happen or are we just living a dream? Both our mothers are ecstatic, my mother always told me that "XXX was the one that got away", his mother knew what I meant to him and she is thrilled that he is finally going to be with the one he has always loved.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (16 December 2009):
You are old enough to know that men will lie to get what they want. How do you know his wife cheated? Wait, let me guess, he told you himself?!?! And how do you know his mother is ecstatic that he wants to dump his wife and mother of his kids for a twice divorced woman? From him?! I would proceed very carefully because a lot of stuff is about to blow here
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 December 2009):
 There seems to be quite a lot of sweeping up before you two can have any kind of future together. Has he started the divorce proceedings? I certainly hope he's not still living at home with his wife. If he is then here's another thought, he might be filling you up with a pack of lies just to string you along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): he should divorce her before you talk to him again. Thats what people with integrity do. Mal
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Maybe you should ask his wife's mother what she thinks of it all.
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