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*hampilyn
writes:I gave a gift to my ex- professor, actually there were 3 gifts, a box of brownies, a box of caramel sticks and a gift wrapped, which contained a Parker pen and a note written ''remembering you this season... thanks for being nice'' my name, and my cellphone number, and a call me smiley. when I gave it to him, he told me ''thank you, that's very nice of you''... he knows that I like him, and I think he's interested. but why haven't he given me a message? do you think he will on Christmas?he seems interested because he always look my way, and he knows that I like him by signs, and when we had a conversation he was looking at my eyes and smiling all the while, and he blushes, and he always mentions my name when we say hi, and sometimes he'll sit on the benches where we can see each other, he'll read his book and then look at me, then I'll look at him then he'll look away, I saw him smiling to himself. do you think he really is interested?is there a possibility that he opens his gifts on Christmas itself? will he give me a message? what do you think?
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 See??? Told you so, you cynical, pessimistic aunts, you!
Seems like it's going really well and I'm very pleased for you. Bit by bit, this is going from strength to strength - all the makings of a great love story, in my humble opinion. Long may it last.
Good luck and a very Merry Christmas!
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reader, champilyn +, writes (23 December 2009):
champilyn is verified as being by the original poster of the question hi to everyone who has replied. well, an update is that he gave me a message, no actually 2 messages the next day. I didn't see him the next day, but at night time he gave me 2 text messages. he thanked me for the gifts, and he said it was very nice of me, and that "hope you're well and see you soon!" the next message said, "sorry, this is (insert his nickname), by the way.", and I gave a reply saying, you're welcome sir.everything is going well..... the next day, he approached me and we talked for about 2o minutes. the day after, he approached me too, we talked for about an hour. we talked about siblings, family etc. and at the end of the conversation, he told me "do you mind if I tell you? you look very nice today." then the first monday of the vacation I text-ed him, saying hi, and if he's enjoying his vacation, also I put his nickname, and said I hope you don't mind that I call you (insert nickname). then when he replied, he said, hi! yes, (nickname) is fine. I'm ok, just doing some last-minute errands. How are you?~~~~~~~~~ then we exchanged about 6 messages, I even asked him if I'm disturbing him, but he answered me with, I'm glad to hear from you. also, the last 2 messages he gave me were with smileys. :)so.... what do you think? does he like me???
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I agree with the aunts who think it's played out at this point. Nothing further is going to happened. He said his thank yous. You'll get over your crush sooner or later. Stay busy.
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reader, kleinie  +, writes (16 December 2009):
Even if he is your ex-professor he can still get into alot of trouble with doing anything with you. No i dont think he likes you, i think your imagining it. He has said thankyou and now you wont hear from him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): It could be that he hasn't opened it yet or it could be that he likes you but doesn't wish to take it further. In either case, the ball is in his court so it is up to him to contact you if he wants to. You have made your feelings clear enough for him to approach you.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (16 December 2009):
Forget what the others here said - they did not read your question carefully enough to see you said "ex-professor".
So, no problem with ethics. He sounds like he could be very shy, possibly embarrassed to receive the attentions of a young lady. Try the direct approach - like - "I haven't received a call or text from you yet!", but say it in a quiet, friendly, non-demanding way. If that fails, I would conclude that he really isn't interested in anything more than a platonic friendship.
Good luck.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (16 December 2009):
 He has already said thankyou and told you it was very nice.
As for the rest of it, maybe you have convinced yourself you saw more than existed.
Leave it, get on with your life, mix and mingle with people of your own age, and let it be.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 December 2009):
 He possibly has enough sense to realize that you could represent a very dangerous situation, but you did not mention his age, your own true age and the situation there in the Philippines regarding rules and law.
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reader, Athleticmind +, writes (16 December 2009):
Colleges frown upon relationships between students and professors. When a student in in a particular professor's class, accepting a gift can be seen as collusion between the two. Offering a gift after a class is over is okay, but it can place the professor in a potentially touchy situation, should the student ever take another class with that professor. Even if the student never takes another class with that professor, some professors can feel awkward, unsure of what the future may reveal.
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