I have been called a "wasp" - what does that mean?
Q. if someones calls you a wasp what does that mean?...
A. 25 October 2010: I understood WASP to mean the same as Tisha, but thought it was more a US term than UK ...
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My best friend? or the guy she likes?
Q. Hi to all who read this...well I need some help there this guy I like I found him at my friends party he was sweet,nice, funny and so on but he is a good friend of my friend which is a she and now I want to get to know him better but I found out ...
A. 25 October 2010: Have you considered he might not want to be with either of you?
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She said it's over but then she sent me this text. "I love you xxx" I'm confused!
Q. hey every1 . thnx for ur time in order to help me here . i posted like 3 days ago that my ldr gf broke up with me , coz she just felt like she doesnt need a bf anymore coz she has to focus on her career , anyway yesterday we spoke again and we had ...
A. 25 October 2010: Perhaps the other guy didnt work out and so she is calling on her backstop .... that's you btw.
Let it go, dont answer and look for a nice girl closer to home!... (read in full...)
Husband is cheating but I feel he's pushing me to leave so I look bad
Q. For various different reasons me and my Hubby have been having problems for the past 3 months, we've been to counselling b4 and it didn't help our situation, so he won't try again Basically the problem is whilst I don't believe he's cheated ...
A. 25 October 2010: Go to counselling on your own, you dont have to take him along, your counsellor should be able to help you develop some strategies to deal with this issue.
YOur daughter is not superglued to the house, if you leave take her with you. If your fam... (read in full...)
I need help, I just want him out of my life!
Q. There's this guy who has a creepy obsession with a close friend of mine. He's head over heels for her, but she simply isn't interested. Well a little while ago I was at her house, we were just chilling. She got a call from the guy that likes her and ...
A. 25 October 2010: Have you tried telling him you have a boyfriend, have you told him 30 times a day is just 29 times too many?
As for the creepy guy who has an obsession with your friend, tell her to tell him the same things!
And if that doesnt work block them ... (read in full...)
Why would he kiss me more than once if he didn't have feelings for me
Q. I was at a party the other night, Everyone was drinking except me, the adult and my ex. it was a fun night. we played truth or dare, i got dared to kiss my ex, and my best friend molly. so i kissed him. when everyone was passed ouut we decid...
A. 25 October 2010: Unlike girls, boys dont have to convince themselves there is an emotional attachment to kiss or even have sex. Their hormones jump up and down shouting at them, "go for it, go for it" and without giving a moments thought, they do.
He probably... (read in full...)
In love and now we're "kissing cousins"
Q. I'm 21 years old and i'm in love with my 15 year old cousin. I have told her how I feel about her and she told me she feels the same way. I was shocked when she told me she's in love with me too. We are now kissing cousins. I know my feelings for ...
A. 25 October 2010: So you impregnated a girl when you were 16 and since then have been incapable of keeping your dick in your pants.
I think you need to pack your kids up and take them to the nearest child welfare unit because you are an unfit person and then gra... (read in full...)
I didn't treat my friend well, now she won't have anything to do with me!
Q. if anybody will help, do you think all problems have a solution?? i have a problem that is just making me so depresed i had a friend who i didnt treat well sometimes shes mad at me or feels she needs a time apart.But it has been months already and ...
A. 25 October 2010: Maybe if you were not treating her right, the last time you treated her wrong was the last straw.
I had a friend who I forgave, and forgave and then she decided to force me to chose between her and another female friend, I chose the friend w... (read in full...)
I was having sex with a married man, now he wont talk to me!
Q. i am single and the man i started seeing is married but is here working in my state.he says his wife wont come down and see him and she dont really have much to do with him when he is home.before we started having sex, he was my customer at a ...
A. 25 October 2010: No, he didnt fall for you, when you suggested you take a lil break, and then changed your mind he realised he was in a situation that could get messy and so he ran!... (read in full...)
He did something that disgusted me! Should I call this all off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about seven months. He doesn't want to call it a 'relationship', saying he likes 'the way we are'. So I'm already a little put off... The other night though, we'd been having a lot of fun in bed (we have GREAT sex), af...
A. 25 October 2010: Some people like that sort of thing, I don't, I wouldn't find it funny, I don't like the sort of people who would find it funny, I agree with you it was a disgusting misogynistic act.
I wouldn't be able to relax after that, I would be on tenterho... (read in full...)
I want my wife to move out...What else can happen?
Q. Dear people I have asked for your help before and I found your advice (Very very helpful ) so please try and help me again. Three years ago my wife had an affair with a married man. This affair has destroyed our family and because I could not ...
A. 25 October 2010: You are actually asking her to give up her children. You list your age as between 41 and 50, just how young are these children you are asking your wife to give up? I dont believe you do love her at all!
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I like a 40 y/o man and I am 17...what are the chances?
Q. I met a man in a chat room on July of this year. We didn't talk much in pm but when we did, I was mostly seeking his advice on something. I always showed a certain interest in the cat room because I liked his personality. Not once had I seen his ...
A. 25 October 2010: Why dont you ask a responsible male adult in your life, your father, an uncle, or trusted family friend, to contact this nice decent man and ask him what his intentions are, if this nice decent man's intentions are honourable he wont have a problem ... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant...parents don't know..
Q. I am 15 and 2 months pregnant.. i have told my boyfriend of 9 months this and he is happy but scared like me. but i have a big problem. my parents do not know and his don't either. and this baby doesn't belong to my boyfriend. i started seeing ...
A. 25 October 2010: DO NOT allow the boy you are currently dating to step up as father of this baby.
Do not feel compelled to allow the biological father of the baby to be part of this process at this stage. Do not make decisions that you want to be with this one... (read in full...)
Should I trust the guy I met on a cruise?
Q. I met a guy on cruise that I was on. He worked on the cruise itself. If anyone knew that he was even speaking to me that much he would get fired immediately. Every night we would meet in secret and just talk / hang out. He was never disrespectful to ...
A. 25 October 2010: Take a deeep breath ...... the internet on the boat might be down, it can happen, he might be extra busy ... that too can happen.
Yes, I bet they meet lots of girls, and yes, I am sure some of them do play up, but we dont know that about this you... (read in full...)
My mom is lying about her new man staying at our house!
Q. Ok basically my mam cheated on my dad and my dad moved out and now my mam is trying to let the guy she cheated with into the house behind my back! She is such a liar and what should I do in this situation? ...
A. 25 October 2010: If you are aged 36 to 40 that would make your mother well over 50, and, you are aged 36, so your parents have been together for long enough for your mother to decide if she wants to stay with your father or not.
If your mother wants to invite g... (read in full...)
How to deal with my co-worker who is also my baby daddy?
Q. About two years ago I met a man at work. He was charming, sweet, made me laugh, and above all seemed to respect me. We went out on several dates during our first year together, we drank, laughed and just had a great time. Then the unthinkable ...
A. 25 October 2010: Are you absolutely certain receiving child support means you have to give him access? I would see proper legal advise on this if I were you.
As for having to work with him, are you able to request a move to a different section of the company?... (read in full...)
My dad fired him after he caught us kissing! How do I make him see that he is a good person?
Q. my dad owns a construction company and in june he moved came home from work and ask my mom to let CHase ( a new guy he hired) to stay with us until he found a place of his own. Chase is 25, had just moved back to the neighbour hood and my dad wanted ...
A. 25 October 2010: Chase broke your father's trust. Trust takes time to build, but a second to break, and once broken it is very hard to get it back.
Hard, but not impossible. It is going to take a lot or hard work on both your parts. In the meantime Chase ne... (read in full...)
Since I told him I have herpes he won't contact me...
Q. Hi everyone i went to the gum clinc and found i had herpes i got treated and told my partner of 3 and half years to get treated at clinc. When i told him i had it he looked at me like he hated me and was disgusted, i walked out crying and he hasnt ...
A. 25 October 2010: If you have never had sex with anybody else, who did he get it from? It's a BIG question ... no wonder he is trying to put the blame for this on you ... not only has he given you an uncurable STD but by doing so he has to admit he cheated, and not ... (read in full...)
Attention deficit disorder or just plain abuse?
Q. I really need some help here. My fiance (or ex fiance - we ended it last night) is ADD and a month ago we moved in together although he is still in the same house with me and my 3 kids. Everything I say gets shot down in flames. I am always the pe...
A. 24 October 2010: Two broken marriages and one broken engagement, you have one abusive marriage in your past, seems to me you need to pull those survivor techniques you have hidden in a box somewhere and put them to use.
He is abusive, and regardless if this is ... (read in full...)
What you guys would do if your girlfriend tried to set you up?
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years we have a wonderful relationship and only had one bad patch and now its all back on track- he loves me and tells me so and I love him very much too. I recently made friends with a girl and I think she is ...
A. 24 October 2010: I agree this is weird and if he loves you as you say he does, suggesting such a thing would either curl his toes or convince him the love is a one way thing. What makes you think he isnt happy with the person he says he loves?
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Can someone truly love someone they are capable of cheating on and lying to?
Q. Can someone who has cheated on me (serious flirting and texting, and slept with the woman 1x), and who intended to never tell me about it, actually love me? If I hadn't found out the way I did, he would've never told me. And he initially lied ...
A. 24 October 2010: Can a person love somebody they dont respect, do people lie to people they do respect, can a person being lied to and cheated on repsect the liar and cheater?
Me, I loved somebody who lied and cheated, and I forgave once, twice but the third ti... (read in full...)
Too close to my kids? Partner jealous? Me unreasonable?
Q. Hi. I divorced about five years ago, and have three daughters, aged 21, 17, and 13. My two oldest daughters are very much closer to me than their mother, and my relationship with my youngest daughter is improving. My kids are my world...the youngest ...
A. 24 October 2010: A hard question, I am a fence sitter on this one as I can see both sides to this story ... it sounds like you are, if not madly in love, at least fond of your partner, have you considered some counselling, probably couples counselling, to help you ... (read in full...)
I am bugged by never sleeping with a virgin!
Q. Why dose virginity matter so much.... My wife and I have been married over twenty years... My wife was not a a virgin when I met her... Well, she say's she was when we first met, but during a short split she went on to have sex with another guy! I ...
A. 24 October 2010: You are not Robinson Crusoe, most women your age have never been with a virgin either, and at 50 something are not likely too.
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My boyfriend sulks and refuses to talk to me!
Q. After any sort of argument we have my boyfriend will sulk and not talk to me. One example back in May was when we had a minor disagreement over something he blanked me and then i suggested we met up to talk things over, that pushed him further into ...
A. 24 October 2010: This is his way of controllling you. I get so exasperated when I hear these stories. What you should do is let him sulk in his corner and get on with living ... go to the movies, go out with friends, plant some tomatoes in a pot, read a good ... (read in full...)
I love him but sometimes I hate him too!
Q. need advice i have been married for 6 years my husband works i also work my husband complains about money and thinks i should work more hours i do every thing at home washing cleaning etc all the shopping on my own he does nothing he dont kiss ...
A. 24 October 2010: Why does he want you to work extra hours .... for more drinking money? 13 hours at the pub is too many hours at the pub. Have you considered some counselling, or al anon, (for families of people with a drinking problem) this is no way for you to ... (read in full...)
I would like to work overseas but my family are worried about me!
Q. Hi. I'd like some advice on this. Last year, i worked as an Au Pair in Spain, but unfortunately, it didn't work out, and i was sent home after only being there for two weeks. I dont want this to stop me from looking for another Au Pair position ...
A. 24 October 2010: have you considered being a nanny or au pair in an English speaking country first, such as Australia or New Zealand? If you are not quite ready to travel so far how about some training or studies in child care, that would give you some strategies ... (read in full...)
He always has excuses why he can't come see me!
Q. Ok so I have been dating this American guy for about 6 months now and he promised me he would come to see me on halloween but he said he can't come anymore because he just had a car accident and needs to go to a court and if he doesn't he will have ...
A. 24 October 2010: He is just stringing you along, he has no intention of visiting you, maybe he does need a new place to live, maybe the girlfriend is an ex (maybe not) maybe he did have a car accident, maybe he does have to appear in court, maybe he did need to buy ... (read in full...)
Why would a woman do this to me?
Q. I have a question for you ? I am married man who dated a divorced women on and off for 4 years. On many occasion we talked about moving in together. Until the day she told me she was pregnant and she gave me a choice of moving in with her or ...
A. 24 October 2010: That's great. And did you tell your wife you were cheating on her for four years and beleived you had fathered a child and was paying the woman money?
Be careful, because if you don't tell her somebody else might!... (read in full...)
Why would a woman do this to me?
Q. I have a question for you ? I am married man who dated a divorced women on and off for 4 years. On many occasion we talked about moving in together. Until the day she told me she was pregnant and she gave me a choice of moving in with her or ...
A. 24 October 2010: A woman would do that sort of thing in revenge for being led on for four years by a married man who talked about moving in with her but had no intentions of doing so.
I imagine when she told you she was pregnant and asked you to make a decision... (read in full...)
Is this wrong or not... what my boyfriend said?
Q. ok so thursday was me and my boyfriends year anniversary so we went out and had dinner and yesterday was a second part to it we went and saw a scary movie and went to a haunted house well i know he checks out girls cause i see him but last time he ...
A. 24 October 2010: So, you would prefer he consider each and every comment before he utters it. No spontaneity.
Guess what, it would have been fun to be with a group who were all screaming and enjoying each other's company, it usually is!
You are the person w... (read in full...)
Should I move in with my boyfriend?
Q. ive got a boyfried who ive been with nearly three years, we are going to be moving in together in a few weeks time although i have doubts. this is because ive just started a new job where i have met a really lovely guy i cant stop thinking about him ...
A. 24 October 2010: If you have doubts do not move in with your boyfriend, it would be totally unfair for you to move in and THEN decide you had made a mistake. Just tell him you are unsure, and want to wait a few more months, because it is a big step!... (read in full...)
How can I make things better in our marriage?
Q. i married a man that is seven years older than me and we've been married for four year. at first everything was fine, now things are going downhill. he lost his jobs making 17 dollars an hour, we've been having money problems, he took a job making 8 ...
A. 24 October 2010: Brenda, the world is aware that America is suffering record job losses and money is extremely tight.
The better job just might not be out there .... Unemployment figures reached around 10% (it varies from state to state) and underemp... (read in full...)
Don't want to let him go and don't want to see him with anyone else.
Q. I just got back in a relationship with my boyfriend whom i was with for a year and 8 months a couple of days ago. I broke up with him because i just got fed up with his games, lies, and how he treated me. We've been through so much and everytime he ...
A. 24 October 2010: No where in your question do I see one redeeming quality for this young man, he lies, he cheats, he plays games, he said he had changed and he hasn't.
Your last sentence says "dont want to see him with no one else" .... why on earth not, surely s... (read in full...)
Help!!! I know I need to move on, but I'm finding unbelievably hard...
Q. Soon after my 18th birthday, i was slightly annoyed at my boyfriend for not taking me out, but then the argument progressed. and then ended up with him finishing with me. However my now ex, has issues with trying to be himself, instead he wants to ...
A. 24 October 2010: First, make a pact with yourself that you will stop contacting him, he has already indicated he doesnt want to even meet with you, so leave him be, before you set free that crazed stalker we all have the capacity to be.
You are going to have to ... (read in full...)
What should I say when I meet up with my ex?
Q. I have been broken up with my ex for a month and a half and in between those months, he has been calling me just cheking upon me, telling me what has been going on with him, basically work and staying home, his family etc. He has even said more than ...
A. 23 October 2010: he wants to meet casually? Why cant you ask him what's in if for you, why are your friends saying dont ask about the breakup, like you say, how the dickens can you have fun when you want to know what's going on?
Ask him whats in a casual meet up ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants a threesome but I'm against it!
Q. Hey guys, I have been going out with my girl friend for about three years now and lately she has been having this urge to have sex with another guy and then another girl (threesome). I am not comfortable with this at all due to various reasons ...
A. 23 October 2010: I am with strontiumdog on this one, if she has a particular man in mind she probably wants to have sex with him, and throwing in the threesome with a girl afterwards is just a sop to stop you complaining.
I am afraid I am just a tired old cyni... (read in full...)
I still love my ex and claims he loves me
Q. We have been out this relationship for some yrs. He cheated but apologized i he was with his new girl but continued to tell me how much he missed me But we still talk but in the mean time he leaves her and goes with someone else. but still continues ...
A. 23 October 2010: He is just keeping you sweet and hanging in there while he goes on his merry way.
As JMC says, actions speak louder than words, and his actions are telling you a completely different story to that of his lying mouth.
You say its hard because you ... (read in full...)
Slept with my husbands best friend
Q. Okay so i am a 19 year old mother of 3. I have a wonderful husband been married almost a year. well a couple of months ago i found out that my husband really good friend was a guy i used to hook up with and eventually fell madly head over heels in ...
A. 22 October 2010: Your husband has an arsehole for a friend and a dropkick for a wife.
Grab a brain, work out what is important here, your marriage to a nice guy and your three children or somebody who has already a track record for dumping you.
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Tempted to break up with her for someone else but what if it doesn't work out?
Q. Using an old account, currently 18. Hmm, well, this is a tricky one. I've been going out with someone for a year, she's lovely and we're best friends. This october i've started university, and am living 2 hours from home. Problem 1: I don'...
A. 22 October 2010: How do you expect people to answer your questions without applying their personal code of ethics?
You don't miss your girlfriend, so maybe that relationship has run it's course.
You have the hots for another girl, which would suggest your rel... (read in full...)
Annoyed that my friend backstabbed me...
Q. So my boyfriend and I broke up on and off about 3 weeks ago, but kept talking and arguing for a few weeks. It was getting so difficult that last week i decided to completly cut off all communication with him because he kept leading me on. I am still ...
A. 22 October 2010: Well, it was HIS friend, not yours, where you YOU think HIS loyalties would lie?
I would put the friendship with his friend on the backburner for a while and cultivate some new ones.... (read in full...)
Should I take my wife back again?
Q. HI, my wife and i been seperated for 4 months now. We had our ups and downs but i still lover her and we have a son together. She submitted the divorce and havent pay for it yet but she met her old boyfriend after 4 weeks when she kicked me out and ...
A. 22 October 2010: Before you take her back tell you that you both need to attend couples counselling .... make it a condition, you both need to work out why she saw him in the first place, and what you can BOTH do to ensure it doesnt happen again.... (read in full...)
She said it's over but then she sent me this text. "I love you xxx" I'm confused!
Q. hey every1 . thnx for ur time in order to help me here . i posted like 3 days ago that my ldr gf broke up with me , coz she just felt like she doesnt need a bf anymore coz she has to focus on her career , anyway yesterday we spoke again and we had ...
A. 20 October 2010: Ignore her, she is playing games with your head, and who needs that, especially first thing in the morning.
She may have another boyfriend but be keeping you as a backstop in case that one doesnt work out ... or she simply might have decided ... (read in full...)
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