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writes:I don't really know if this would even qualify as a dear cupid question but I have no where else to go to ask it so here goes. I'm going to college in 2011. I plan to go to college right after graduation. I'm from a single parent home and college is unheard of where I some from even though there are two colleges in the vicinity. No one told me about extracurriculars. Nobody told me how important service learning is. And now, I'm feeling like college may not be an obtainable goal for me because I don't have these things. I can't afford college and my parents wouldn't help me with the costs. I tried to find a job to help me with this but no one would hire me. I don't know why. I tried really hard. I even hounded some of the managers but it didn't work. I want to do something extrodinary with my life. I don't want to be like my parents and I'm willing to do what I have to to make sure that I don't but I feel so lost. I need help but it's like eveytime I turn around, nobody's there. Someone help!P.S. I'll be 19 in sept. so I have that working against me too. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): ok first i see that you are from the states. there are all kinds of programs available here to you. first off, there are technical colleges, community colleges, and junior colleges. often they can be starting places...or a local branch of your state college. figure out where you would like to go and go to the financial aid dept of that college and they will help you and show you options for finacing. there are pell grants available...some grants are bases on your income...your families income. some are based on your test scores. besides the sat and cat test scores some colleges have a compass test that you can take, that will help. my son is 19 and will be going to school in january and has found the pell grants to be helpful. we went to our local branch of University of Arkansas and spoke with the admin there and they were very nice and very helpful. there are unclaimed grants every year that you would qualify for. start with the financial advisor and she/he will give you paperwork and an online site to go to. you can do it...there is a way to better yourself and make something of yourself. good luck sweetie, mal
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Your first step should be to talk to somebody at your school, a careers councellor or student adviser. Tell them what you have told us.
Ask for advise and help to get on the right track. If it means taking a crumby job for a few years while you work your way through so be it. Night school is also an option, I am not sure about distance learning in the states, but worth a look. Explore ALL your options, if you are looking for work and its just not happening ask somebody for advise, maybe you are dressing inappropriately for the interview, or, like a young lady I know who was looking for work, using language considered a bit blue without even realising it. (She went in and said "I'm here about the f*cking job), it wasnt until i pointed out how often she used the word that she realised what she was doing.
Don't give up, while sometimes we need to adapt and alter our lifes paths to suit our circumstances we should never give up on our dreams. It took me a long time to find the job I really love that feels it was created just for me.
Good luck, I wish you well
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