She said it's over but then she sent me this text. "I love you xxx" I'm confused!
Q. hey every1 . thnx for ur time in order to help me here . i posted like 3 days ago that my ldr gf broke up with me , coz she just felt like she doesnt need a bf anymore coz she has to focus on her career , anyway yesterday we spoke again and we had ...
A. 25 October 2010: Perhaps the other guy didnt work out and so she is calling on her backstop .... that's you btw.
Let it go, dont answer and look for a nice girl closer to home!... (read in full...)
Should I take my wife back again?
Q. HI, my wife and i been seperated for 4 months now. We had our ups and downs but i still lover her and we have a son together. She submitted the divorce and havent pay for it yet but she met her old boyfriend after 4 weeks when she kicked me out and ...
A. 22 October 2010: Before you take her back tell you that you both need to attend couples counselling .... make it a condition, you both need to work out why she saw him in the first place, and what you can BOTH do to ensure it doesnt happen again.... (read in full...)
Ashamed of telling my boyfriend where I live. Any tips to approach this topic?
Q. I have a serious issue. I'm with my bf for more than a year and... he doesn't know where I live. Actually, I don't want him to know. I came for college in an important city, from a small village. My bf lives in the college town. I'm ashamed to t...
A. 22 October 2010: Dont be ashamed, I know where you are coming from ... believe me I know. I didnt know the reputation of a place I thought would be safe for me and my kids when I found myself single with three kids to raise, but when I would tell people (men) where ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have a job, has no money, hasn't taken any steps to go back to school, stays out all night, won't watch our daughter, and calls me a nag and a bore!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 5 yrs. We have a beautiful daughter who will be 2 in December. Me and my bf havent been getting along at all. He blames me for everything. He works 15hrs a week for welfare. He takes a nap everyday. Its ...
A. 22 October 2010: You ask what you should do. I say you should simply end the relationship, there isnt anything in there for you or your child.
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He doesn't want a relationship, I do....and it's killing me.
Q. I met this guy about 11 months ago. At first I blew him off alot but finally gave in and went out with him. From that moment, we had an instant connection. I found out a week later he was in a long-distance relationship but I didn't let me that ...
A. 22 October 2010: He is trying to date other girls, AND he was in a relationship with somebody else when he started seeing you, your response to that little fact was :
I didn't let me that bother me because you can't help when you meet the love of your life, ri... (read in full...)
If a guy doesn't call or text his girlfriend everyday, does that mean he doesn't love her?
Q. Is it necc. for me to call my girlfriend everyday just to prove that I love her deeply? I don't like talking on the phone much...I will text, but I don't want to feel obligated to call or text her or anyone else. Why do people put all these rules on ...
A. 22 October 2010: Print off your question and post it to her. I don't believe daily contact is required to show love, in any relationship!
Before you print off your question, highlight this bit:
"She always tells me how her ex boyfriend called and texted every... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: Somehow I don't think these are quite the answers that were being sought .... a nice smile will get you way further than any glimpse or full on view of a man's dangly bits!!... (read in full...)
My ex is damaging my new relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a while ago and I found someone new who makes me happy and my ex is keep calling and texting me all the time I don't respond to any of it but when he first did this I told him to stop and leave me alone but obviously it ...
A. 21 October 2010: Talk to your Dad, or an older brother, or a male cousin, or a trusted older male friend.
Let them just have a quiet word with him, please note, I am not advocating violence, a quiet word is often enough, let the quiet word include words like "st... (read in full...)
Did I deserve to lose my baby?
Q. hey x so i had a miscarrige last year and at the time i just put it to the back of my head an forget about it as well to be honest i was ashamed because i was only 15 but i recently started going out with my best friend and when arguing, he brought ...
A. 21 October 2010: He is a prat and an arsehat! He is not your best friend, and certainly not good boyfriend material, I suggest you demote him to "aquaitance" status and find somebody else to hang out with.
Nobody NOBODY "deserves" to lose a child .... he needs so... (read in full...)
Why won't he take his relationship status off Facebook???
Q. My Boyfriend and i just started dating like couple weeks now but we knew each other back in high school. I Have Him As A Friend On Facebook and it says that he is in a realtionship with somebody else, i asked him about he says it's his ex and dont ...
A. 21 October 2010: Its only two weeks since he has been in a relationship with you, I dont agree that he should take down the pictures (maybe a few years down the track when you are announcing your engagement) but I dont see anything wrong with asking him to change ... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: yech
no!
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I just want our friendship to go back like it was...
Q. Well.. It all started two and half years ago.. We got to know each other really well, her BF who met her after me who she really loves - they shared PW's on every account they have.. FaceBook, Xfire, MSN and so on, well to cut to the question.. ...
A. 21 October 2010: Step back
You have admitted you are being annoying and frustrated and taking your bad moods out on other people.
I am starting to suspect you may actually like all the drama .... me, I wont be reading or responding to any more of your posts, ... (read in full...)
She said it's over but then she sent me this text. "I love you xxx" I'm confused!
Q. hey every1 . thnx for ur time in order to help me here . i posted like 3 days ago that my ldr gf broke up with me , coz she just felt like she doesnt need a bf anymore coz she has to focus on her career , anyway yesterday we spoke again and we had ...
A. 20 October 2010: Ignore her, she is playing games with your head, and who needs that, especially first thing in the morning.
She may have another boyfriend but be keeping you as a backstop in case that one doesnt work out ... or she simply might have decided ... (read in full...)
I just want our friendship to go back like it was...
Q. Well.. It all started two and half years ago.. We got to know each other really well, her BF who met her after me who she really loves - they shared PW's on every account they have.. FaceBook, Xfire, MSN and so on, well to cut to the question.. ...
A. 20 October 2010: If she clearly doesnt give a flying fig it's time to walk away, wishing for the past is not condusive to facing the future.
Time to move on.... (read in full...)
I just want our friendship to go back like it was...
Q. Well.. It all started two and half years ago.. We got to know each other really well, her BF who met her after me who she really loves - they shared PW's on every account they have.. FaceBook, Xfire, MSN and so on, well to cut to the question.. ...
A. 19 October 2010: it seems that for the time being at least, she has made a choice, and you weren't it!
Her relationship with her boyfriend does not sound healthy and if you are only 16 or 17 I assume you are the same age.
She certainly isnt helping matters ... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex's girlfriend know he is cheating on her?
Q. I am on my second marriage. During my first marriage, my spouse and I each had affairs. Obviously we had a lot of issues and thats why we got divorced. I initiated the divorce and i got married to a friend of ours. I have been married again for 4 ...
A. 18 October 2010: Nope, dont approach her, but if you have a grain of decency in you you could let him know you are able to read his emails, and that he should change his passwords.
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Why do I stay? I hate the way my wife makes me feel!
Q. Dear Cupid The reason im asking you this is because you have read 1,000's of peoples storys. Im very lost and hurt. I cant focus on reality. I really need some support by someone or a group. Ive been married for 6 years. My second marriage. Im her 4...
A. 18 October 2010: Whoops and there goes number five.
Have you tried telling her any of this, how about printing this letter off and leaving it somewhere she will see it if you feel you cant speak about it to her.
Does she know why her previous four marriages d... (read in full...)
A question to all married men--Why do you flirt with married women???
Q. A question to all married men--Why do you flirt with married women??? For this married mom, it can be very uncomfortable when we are just trying to be friendly/polite back and your wife is giving us the evil eye!!!...
A. 18 October 2010: Not all married men flirt, some of those men you beleive are flirting could simply be being friendly, the evil eye could be your vivid imagination ... what makes you so wonderful that all married men you encounter flirt with you?... (read in full...)
I just want our friendship to go back like it was...
Q. Well.. It all started two and half years ago.. We got to know each other really well, her BF who met her after me who she really loves - they shared PW's on every account they have.. FaceBook, Xfire, MSN and so on, well to cut to the question.. ...
A. 18 October 2010: He may see the rude stuff as being disrespectful to her. ... (read in full...)
Why not with me? I want the things other men got!
Q. My wife has had a lot of sexual experience! Tons of boys as a teen, and I know what she did in bed with her ex husband. But... with me? It's plain ol' sex. Why? I want the things other men got. Is it because she is getting older? Am I boring? I have ...
A. 18 October 2010: Talk to you wife, ask her the questions you have asked here!... (read in full...)
Have you ever fell into a different career and loved it?
Q. Have you guys ever wanted to do or be something as a career or job? I was reading something about people who wanted to do their dream jobs and end up doing something else and they loving it. I want to know if you changed your dream job or career? I ...
A. 18 October 2010: I am in my fifties and I fell into my current job, its as if everything I did as a job up until now was preparing me for this one, if anybody had told me 5 years ago I would not only be living in the home town again, but have the BEST JOB evahh I ... (read in full...)
Feeling insecure about my relationship with her now.
Q. I fell in love with a 19 years old girl for 2 months now and we seemed to get along very well. She also loves me. We had an argument lately and she said she wanted to break up with me. I didn't take her for serious but then, I found out that a ...
A. 18 October 2010: Sorry if I appear blunt but you are more than old enough to be this girl's grandfather, more than double her age, when she was born you were already in your thirties ....
And it may have escaped your notice during the past 50 years but it takes mo... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for her to get out of that scene, but I'm struggling to deal with her past!
Q. Dear All, I am 38 years old and left my wife after 16years of a less than satisfying marriage a year ago - we are currently going thru Divorce - we do however have a beautiful young son who is just the best thing in my life - he is 6years old. ...
A. 17 October 2010: I hope she thinks you are worth, and deserve, a second chance!... (read in full...)
After 11 years my partner has still not divorced his wife!
Q. I have been with my partner for 11 years, we have 2 children together. When i first meet my partner he had not long left his wife. Within a year i was pregant and he left me, we later go back together and have since had another planed child and ...
A. 17 October 2010: Sorry to be a wet blanket, but how soon is soon, you may need to clarify this with him soon, you might see soon as within the next 30 days, he might seen soon as being anytime within the next 30 months. If you see no action soon (like maybe within ... (read in full...)
Since he dumped me he stalks my facebook page
Q. I need big help. I met a charming fellow on a dating site a year ago and it seemed we really hit it off but there was something about him that didn't sit quite well. One week he aadored me and the next he would unexplainedly treat me like crap and ...
A. 17 October 2010: Block him on facebook, and not only will he not be able to interact with you there, he will not be able to access your pages.
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Would him showing his friends naked pics of me be a deal breaker?
Q. I just found out my boyfriend of 2yrs showed a bunch of his friends and co-workers pictures of my breasts that he and I took during our first year of dating. I don't know at what point he showed these pictures--possibly during a big fight...or ...
A. 17 October 2010: It would be a deal breaker for me, as it shows a total lack of respect, it's up to you to decide if it is a deal breaker for you.... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend doesn't know what he wants from our relationship...
Q. My ex boyfriend rung me yesterday and told me how he was really confused and wanted to meet up with me. I declined as I knew we'd end up in bed together and we'd wake up the next morning and he'd still not know what he wanted from me. He rung again ...
A. 17 October 2010: He is an arsehat! Just forget about his machinations and game playing, he is trying to press your buttons, tell him to shove off back to his sugar mommy and that you dont need a silly twat like him cluttering up your life.... (read in full...)
My mother favors my niece over me!
Q. Why does my mom keep doing this to me? Ever since I was little she's always cared most about work. It's a family business, where shes an owner. My niece, my brothers daughter was born spoiled. I'm not saying I'm not, but she lives in a fantasy and ...
A. 17 October 2010: If you are still studying is there a reason why you can't find a part time job out of school hours, that way you could buy yourself a few extra meals and save the rest towards more clothes, and have you noticed just how many bargains are to be had ... (read in full...)
He keeps texting other women! Am I overreacting?
Q. I have a story to tell and then some questions, I ask for any insight. So, my husband went away for work for 5 weeks, two of which went great. Then, he stopped calling to say goodnight and I noticed him texting a particular number ALL the t...
A. 17 October 2010: You need to do some serious thinking, and make some hard decisions. You need to say to him what you have said to us you " got married because I thought we were in love and you don't want to be playing games in my marriage ".
If he isnt willing ... (read in full...)
Can depression affect sex drive?
Q. can sadness affect a mans sex drive? Wanting sex and affection? What can you do to make that man feel better about hiself or situation? Can this feeling be long term?...
A. 17 October 2010: Sadness and depression affects every aspect of a sufferer's life, including their sex drive.... (read in full...)
Is it true all men want to cheat?
Q. I got in a disagreement earlier with my mom and brother that really made me upset. I won't go into how we got onto this subject, but my mom and brother were telling me that all men cheat or want to cheat, and that for me to believe otherwise is ...
A. 17 October 2010: You mother and brother are wrong, not all men cheat or want to cheat.
Some men have witnessed within their own families the effects of cheating, of being disloyal, of ignoring vows made and determine at a very young age that they will not be respo... (read in full...)
What are some of the negative effects that lying to one's partner can have on a relationship?
Q. Is honesty really the best policy when it comes to one's life partner? I hear people say that it's better to live with one's guilt rather than tell one's partner if there has been a one time betrayal. But wont guilt over lying eventually take a toll ...
A. 17 October 2010: Quite simply relationships are built on trust .... all relationships .....
Business relationships, relationship between parent and school teacher, relationships between preacher and congregation etc etc etc
And romantic relationships. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for her to get out of that scene, but I'm struggling to deal with her past!
Q. Dear All, I am 38 years old and left my wife after 16years of a less than satisfying marriage a year ago - we are currently going thru Divorce - we do however have a beautiful young son who is just the best thing in my life - he is 6years old. ...
A. 17 October 2010: It seems to me you are seeking reasons for dumping her. She didnt "sleep' with over 350 men (who cares at the number) she had sex with them, for money, for money to pay her debt at the bar, for money to ensure she had a roof over her head and food ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for her to get out of that scene, but I'm struggling to deal with her past!
Q. Dear All, I am 38 years old and left my wife after 16years of a less than satisfying marriage a year ago - we are currently going thru Divorce - we do however have a beautiful young son who is just the best thing in my life - he is 6years old. ...
A. 15 October 2010: How come she keeps having to tell her story, (you say it keeps changing) surely once would have been enough for a man who was madly in love and wanting to make her his wife and mother of his future children?
Are you nagging her for details?... (read in full...)
LDR - guy disappeared, but he's back again now. Should I write back?
Q. I know you might get these a lot, but I wanted to hear this great community's input. I was in a LDR - we were together for about 2 years. We loved each other, or so I thought..keep reading. Work took a lot of his time, very busy, so sometime...
A. 15 October 2010: No. Don't write back, not unless you are happy being his back stop girl. It sounds as if he gets into relationships elsewhere and when it's over, or he is in difficulty there you are, his backstop.
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Scared to meet my daughter.
Q. i know this is a strange one for most of you out there but hear it goes. im scared to meet my daughter. we have been estranged for 2 1/2 yrs not through any fault of ours. her dad came up one saturday afternoon had her for the weekend and neva ...
A. 15 October 2010: Your question made me cry. She obviously has no thoughts of blaming you in her head, you are speaking each day, she found YOU, she cared enough to track you down, she ran away from her father multiple times .....
Sure, it is going to be a diffic... (read in full...)
My family and in laws are trying to destroy my marriage!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need help and advice. I have been having some serious problems with family. I have a mother in law who claims she is a religious christian follower, but what a hypocrite she is. She is constantly doing things to make me feel ...
A. 15 October 2010: I can only repeat:
Four years is a long time for a situation to be dragging on, and I believe it is going to take almost as long to repair the damage that has been done.
Seek professional help, this issue is too big to be solved on your o... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with an older woman?
Q. What should I do if I am 18years old and I want to have sex with an older woman?...
A. 14 October 2010: I'd like to have sex with George Clooney!... (read in full...)
Why would she stand me up after I flew 3,000 miles?
Q. I have been talking to a girl long distance for over a year now. We talk on the phone everyday for over an hour a day. She's mentioned she likes me but she doesn't know what it means. She also says she kind of dating someone. So I flew to go me...
A. 14 October 2010: She stood you up because she is kind of dating someone. You didn't read between the lines or hear the implied message.
Why would you continue talking to her when she stood you up after flying 3000 miles to meet her?... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, he's unemployed, how can I make him get his priorities straight?
Q. Im almost 7 months pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend cant get his priorities straight. He got laid off from work and instead of looking for another job he wants to go fishing every day, or hang out with his friends instead of spending quality ...
A. 14 October 2010: The problem with making threats is that you have to follow them through.
You need to sit him down and have a serious conversation, such as what is he doing for money to pay the rent (or mortgage) utilities, gas, insurances.
Does he think... (read in full...)
He wants to live with me, put a front on that we're together in front of family, friends ets, still do business together but be 'separated.
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 7 years. He cheated a few yrs ago when we were on again/off again and we both moved on together...or so I thought. In the meantime I started my own business, my mother became terminally ill and my fiance and I ...
A. 13 October 2010: We always have choices, you don't need to make big choices if you find them too confronting, you can make a series of little choices .... first little choice would be, do I pick up the phone and make an appointment to see a lawyer or don't I.... (read in full...)
He wants to live with me, put a front on that we're together in front of family, friends ets, still do business together but be 'separated.
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 7 years. He cheated a few yrs ago when we were on again/off again and we both moved on together...or so I thought. In the meantime I started my own business, my mother became terminally ill and my fiance and I ...
A. 13 October 2010: Seems to me this arrangement is all about him. Ask him what's in it for you.
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After 11 years my partner has still not divorced his wife!
Q. I have been with my partner for 11 years, we have 2 children together. When i first meet my partner he had not long left his wife. Within a year i was pregant and he left me, we later go back together and have since had another planed child and ...
A. 11 October 2010: Sit him down, look him in the eye and ask him if he intends divorcing his wife and what arrangements he has made to care for you and the children if something should happen to him.
If you are not happy with his answer start planning for a future w... (read in full...)
My family and in laws are trying to destroy my marriage!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need help and advice. I have been having some serious problems with family. I have a mother in law who claims she is a religious christian follower, but what a hypocrite she is. She is constantly doing things to make me feel ...
A. 4 October 2010: I think these issues here are too big for this site to adequately cover. You and your husband need to consider some couples counselling which will give you both the tools needed to deal with these negative people in your lives, to deal with them in ... (read in full...)
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