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writes:I really like the sound of a girl that I saw on Facebook. We have been exchanging emails for a couple of weeks now.Should I meet this girl, she is younger than me?I'd really appreciate some tips from people, especially if they are just about to meet someone whom they 'met' online?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionProgress report!
Our family had a 60-minute makeover done last year, and it is going to be on tv on 29 oct, 2pm. The good news is that she is a student games teacher so it will be half term, and the even better news is she is coming to watch it with us! My cousin told me that it will be better for her to meet me with friends around.
She will be coming from the Isle of Sheppey, so I'm not sure whether to take her to this American diner I like, or will be that for next time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt gget philip@u's answer
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
She said on Tuesday (yesterday) that she is very busy over the summer; so I played it cool and said text me when you can come out, but then she said she didn't want to start anything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked her on Facebook on Friday - not replied yet, although she did go to the wireless festival at the weekend! And she;s a teacher!
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (3 July 2010):
Hmm, ask her to go for a drink.That is the safest most comfortable bet for a first date.If she says no to that it may be worth not pursuing her, but try anyway.Let us all know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've sent her a message about the ghost walk on Facebook - what shall I say if she says she can't make it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt get that either, cindy15!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn;t get that last answer, Sigh...!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know if this is right, but there's a ghost walk on on Saturday evening, should I ask her to that?
I think she is going to the wireless festival at the weekend though.
She lives on the Isle of Sheppey, which is 50 mins drive from me, and the ghost walk is 7.30 - 9.00pm. What do you think?
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 June 2010):
 "You sound cool, wanna meet up?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): Oh that's easy, just ask her if she wants to meet up for drinks/coffee (whichever you think she'd prefer) sometime this week.
Make sure you have a place in mind and sometime you think she'll be free. I find it's better to ask at the start of the week and suggest meeting up the next weekend, in my experience girls plan their weekends once the last one has finished so it's good to get in early.
Just word it casually but be assured, it is a fun idea afterall, ask her if she's around next weekend would she be interested in meeting up for drinks/coffee etc. If she says yeah then tell her your free whatever day and would she like to meet up then. If she says she can't she's busy, then give her the option of another day, if she says she's busy that day too, then it's better to let her suggest a day she's free. Just make sure it's all casual, don't express disappointment if she can't and try not to be too eager. It was just a suggestion, a fun idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis may sound a silly question for a 31 year old to ask, but how exactly should I word it without scaring her off or sounding as though we're going to be a couple?! (considering we've never met face to face)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): Age doesn't make that much of a difference in your case that stuff comes later when you start talking about cartoons you used to watch or songs you heard growing up.
Yes of course you should meet her. Why not?
Tips, just do the usual thing you do on dates, there's no real difference, except you've already begun to get to know her and the ice has already been broken as far as conversation goes. You should already know abit about her and what she likes so invite her to meet you somewhere fun.
As with all first dates though, make sure it's somewhere that you can both sit and talk comfortably. Most people recommend not drinking alcohol but I've never found it to be a problem, I can drink slowly and in moderation, personally I find it helps relax both parties and a nice pub with a good atmosphere is always a good place to start.
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (25 June 2010):
Go meet her for a couple of drinks, char and get to know her. Jump in rather than try to get to know her online.
I have done this often and it works well, who knows, you may not even like her in person!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (25 June 2010):
Maybe find out some more about her via your friend. I don't think there's much of a problem with the age gap. I think maybe you gave the impression that she was a total stranger and that she was younger than she really is. If you meet her, maybe get your friend to come as well for the first time.
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (25 June 2010):
If she isn't at least 22 dint meet her
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's 23, I'm 31.One of my friends works with her, so I'm sure she's telling the truth!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Your question raises more questions that I would like answer to, for example:When you say younger, how much younger?How can you be sure she isnt even younger than she says?
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