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writes:my husband and have been married for almost 2 years and he knows that i have a jealous problem, (no bad) but today he was looking at old pics and he went by a pic of him in his ex's room and in back ground there were pics of her and him together, i asked him to delete it but he said it was not that big of deal n he liked the photo, do i have a reason to be mad? and what should i say to him? i dont like the fact that he really wouldnt delete it, hurt my feeling...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2012):
 ok so i want to understand this...
it's a picture of just him
in her room so that in the background there are pictures of the two of them.
and it's on his hard drive not displayed...
yeah i think you over-reacted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): No he should not have to delete those pictures. Pictures are memories and we all have them. They broke up and he is married to you now. That's what is important and trying to delete his past is not going to make it go away, nor should it have to go away.
If the pictures were inappropriate of an intimate nature, well out of respect, yes, that would be a whole different thing, but this is not the case at all.
There is no reason to be insecure here (or mad). Let it go and move on.
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reader, wtf! +, writes (5 December 2012):
wtf! is verified as being by the original poster of the questionn thank y'all fur the good answers and helping me out :)
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reader, wtf! +, writes (5 December 2012):
wtf! is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe does not have a personal photo of him n her, he was going through hard drives and he told me about the old photos on there and there was a photo of just him but in background there were pics on wall of him and of his ex together, holding eachother ex.... i may over react things but never have i had a ex try to mess things up till i met her.. ( when we first started dating) im prob over reacting like i said but im his wife and if he respects me shouldnt he jus delete it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012):
I wouldn't be very happy either if I was you,.. I mean would he want you having a nostalgic moment over your past loves.. Hell no he wouldn't ..
You know he has a past, he know he has a past, but exes and past are that for a reason. They don't get reflected on our looked at with our present partners there...Tell him he can keep them but to put them away up in the loft or something.
Don't let it ruin what is going to be a fab Xmas, just say to him look that gets up my nose would you want me looking at ? And let him answer then see well then put them away.. Let make our own album with us in it and our family..
Take care sweetie, have a fab Xmas when it comes
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Honey, you can't erase the fact that he has a past, I don't see why he should have to delete them, UNLESS they are of a sexual nature or displayed around a shared home between you and him.
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reader, Faith Lafrance  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 it seems to me.... that you should be mad cause he (i think) wants to go back out with that other gurl....and remember if a guy says "no dont delete that pic of me and my ex" he still loves his ex but i can see he loves u more than her :)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Deleting the picture wouldn't be deleting the past, he would still have dated her, she would still be his ex, and you still would be the one he married.
C'mon, its a picture of him, with pictures depicting his past in the background. Whatever happened in that relationship helped to shape him into the person who married you. He didn't live in a bubble pre marriage, he met other women, talked to other women, kissed and presumably bonked other women, and oh horrors, had his picture taken where in the background are other pictures of him WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. Shock! Horror!
Its not a big deal, save your energies for the big deals and let the little niggly things just pass you by or you will come across as insecure in your relationship and in his love.
Let this go, save your energies for the big issues and let the little niggles pass you by.
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