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anonymous
writes:I met this guy online we swapped numbers and started texting each other. The first day of texting was really intresting. I looked him up facebook and read aall his wall post and he seemed like the most sweetest guy in the world. he suggested we meet I said yeah I would like that then he went all quiet which was fine sinch it was really late at night, the next day he replied. so I asked him where to meet he seems anywhere I told him I dont know he said the same. I suggested a place he said okthe thing is I suggested where to meet, what day he did not seem intrested at all I got only one work reply. so the next day I did not text him at al neither did he I had to fight the urge to text him. so the next day I textes him and told him we really not working out he asked why I told him cuz I always text him first and he is not making any effort so we got talking again then.he stared taking ages to reply minutes turned into hours he is doing it again.I cant do this anymore am such a sensitive person I really would like to get to know him but I dont feel he is intrested in me at all. what do I do?should I delete him number and save myself painp.s if you are gonna say u have not known him long dont and not I'm not interested in hearing that
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): Quite strange how a guy would need to see pictures of your body in order to be sure you are who you say you are...
You sound a bit naïve OP, but surly YOU know that people DON'T identify each other by body, but by face. So if you've shown him more than let's say five photos of your face, that should be enough for a normal person to feel comfortable that someone is who they say they are. DON'T fall for that crap about him needing to see pictures of you body, if he claims he needs to see pictures of your body (fully clothed or not), he's only doing it to see if he likes the idea of getting you into bed.
I wouldn't trust him if I was you OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI texted him and told him and him r not good he asked why I told him. he says he is not sure i am who I say i am cuz I only send him face pictured not
whole body (decent pics by the way) n I went to the same school as him for a year and he went out with a girl I know. he says his intrested the hr made a little bit of effort with him since.I.told him he was not. then he did it again he took 5 hours to reply to me. he said he is intrested in me so he might not be a text person or generally busy since he has a job so it might be all in my head.
so I have two mutural friends with him and he loves in my area a small city where everyone knows each others business. I.dont know how many hours he works but am still in a dilemma where to delete him or not but I do believe he is intrested just a busy guy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 November 2012):
 I am soooo sorry you are not interested in hearing me "say u have not known him long" because I am going to ignore your request "dont" because you are "not I'm not interested in hearing that"
how far do you think you are going to get in life if you want answers to questions but you only want the answers you want to hear?
Not far, believe me, you are not going to get very far at all.
Now, to your question: you 'met' him online and exchanged numbers, there was one day where there was a flurry of texts (one day), a suggestion to meet up, then he cooled off, you didn't hear anything from him for a whole day, so you said it wasn't working out ..... you hadn't even met and you were taking him to task?? eh WTF .... and now he is not taking any notice of your order, sorry I mean your request, he respond faster and he is again taking HOURS to respond.
Yes, I think you should delete his number and save yourself the pain. And save him some pain while you are at it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012): Well to be honest, if you think he may have lost interest in you, there's a good chance he might have done. Can you honestly say you know him well enough to know he's not a typical player or a time waster, just based on posts you've seen on facebook?
Things rarely go to plan when rushed into and that's a fact.
The truth is, it IS a bit too soon I mean come on, for ONE day things were going good, and ever since then its been all you making the effort and you have even resorted to having to pull him up over why he's not making an effort?
If he hasn't already lost interest in you, he sure will if you keep pressuring him.
One more thing, nowhere in your post have you stated that he's ever told you he likes you...maybe you are/have jumped the gun a bit in this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012): I think you shouldn't delete his number as of yet, because its not that serious. Ive been in the same situation where i was the one to initiate the conversation.You should basically just wait to see how long he actually takes before he actually contacts you. if its more than two days, you should then contact him, start a regular conversation finding out what he's been doing, and he eventually ask him if he's interested in you and where he think you guys may be heading. Some guys are actually shy when it comes to hitting someone up,and may not have the capabilities of carrying a conversation sometimes.Just let him know how u feel and what u want and let him know to be real with you if he's interested or not, he might not want to hurt your feelings if he's not
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