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writes:Hey folks,For some reason I can't stop thinking about a girl I used to date. She's a professor, intelligent, gorgeous, sweet, funny, creative. The whole package. We met at a weird time in our lives as we had both semi recently gotten out of long term relationships and she was looking for something more casual from me. At the beginning our relationship centered around sex. Which was amazing but I soon started to have very strong feelings for her and we did date for a few months and then she abruptly told me that she decided she wanted to be alone but wanted to continue a friendship. We hung out about once after that and then she basically stopped talking to me.I contacted her a few times afterward and have run into her at the bar and such and she's been polite but distant. I've had another girlfriend since her and we broke up recently but I can't stop thinking about this ex. I thought about her a lot when I was with the other girl and almost daily. I don't know why. I wish I could turn it off but I've never felt that way about anyone else in my life. It seems like she's obviously over me and isn't interested in talking anymore but part of me wants to contact her to say hi or ask her to coffee or something. Am I just wasting my time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2013): Well you did already date her and she broke it off and hasn't shown interest in the times you've met since. So I think this means she just isn't interested. But you can certainly at least ask her out, no harm in trying. The worst that can happen is she says no then you're just back to where you are now that's all.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 January 2013):
 Short answer, yes, its over, you would be wasting your time.
Accept its over and move on.
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reader, Baby Boo 26 +, writes (1 January 2013):
No, I dnt think ur wasting ur time.. You have to at least try or you'll always wonder.. I was the same way until I jus did it and he is in my life and has been since.. If its not meant to be then it wont work.. At least you tried and can close that chapter of your life and move on.. Good Luck!!
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