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writes:Seven years ago ( I was a freshman in high school) I met this guy who I liked (he didnt know I liked him at the time) and became really good friends with. We did everything together eventhough he had a gf and he knew his gf did not like me. We used to talk to each other everyday all day and he ended up developing feeling for me as I did for him he confessed his love to me and so did I...we never got together or did anything we were not supposed to... I lost contact with him...When I was a senior in high school I found out through a mutual friend that he and his gf had a child after that I did not hear anything from him I even forgot about him.... Through out the years I found out he went to the Army, he broke up with the mother of his child,and I have seen him around... just recently I gained the courage to add him on FB and I started talking to him yet he seemed really cold like he did not want to talk to me....My mom met him and knew what a good guy he was and my mom and sisters are always teasing me about him..telling me I should have married him and on and on... I still like him alot... every time I hear his name I smile... I just dont know if I should waste my time on a person that doesnt seem to have any interest in me... what should I do? I am currently going to scool to become a police officer and have high hopes of meeting a man at the academy but dont know if I can open my heart to someone else having a huge crush on this guy... by the way I have never been in a relationship ever!!!... I need help what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ anonymous
Im always the one who makes the first move yet he never seems to care or be interested..I mean do you really think he will ever make a move??? How do I get closer to him if every time I try to talk to him and i try to start a conversation his response is a yes or no...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): Well you don't know if he doesn't like you yet, maybe he is being cold to you because he just might and he is trying to forget about it and focus on his career or something else. You should try to get closer to him, see if you can rekindle your old friendship. If you start hanging out again and see that he in fact is not interested then you can forget about it and move on with your life, but there is still a chance that you may start from 0 with this guy if you just make an effort.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 Hello again,
with regard to facebook you need to decide if having him there adds to your life or detracts from it. Personally I would be tempted to remove him, make a clean break, view his removal as part of the preparations for your new life in the new year. By clutching so tight to him you are unable to hold your arms out wide, ready to embrace what the future has for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Aunty Bim Bim,
Thank you for your advice however how do i get over him? should i erase him from my face book or should i learn to be able to see him without feeling emotionally attached?
@ jstar92,
i agree thank you for the help i ask the same question to you how do i get over him? should i erase him from my face book or should i learn to be able to see him without feeling emotionally attached?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Aunty Bim Bim,
Thank You for your advice I think your right..... how do i let him go? Do you think it is a great idea to keep him on my FB?
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reader, jstar92  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 I think many people have 'that person' that they find very difficult to let go of. But you need to stop holding a candle for this guy, and move on with your life. Only YOU can live YOUR life, and your not doing yourself any favours by looking to the past - you need to look to your future. Police Academy sounds great, you should concentrate on that and be excited for all opportunities that come your way! Maybe he'll come to you, maybe not, point is, you can't let your feelings for him hold you back from anything else life might offer you, especially as he doesn't feel the same way
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (27 December 2012):
You are the only person making overtures and trying to keep the friendship alive here .... and you yourself use the term "waste". From reading your question every second you spend thinking about him is a waste, its been too long, how much more of your precious life do you intend to waste, a year, five years, ten years, in the meantime he is getting on with his life, and all that entails, ups and downs, highs and lows, without giving a moment's thought to you.
You have wasted enough, time to let him go, and the lovely dream that was never going to be more ... go to school, become a police officer, live your life to the fullest and make it as fullfilled as YOU can make it, life is too short to spend too much time on the 'what if's" and "if only's".
Good luck!
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