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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there,I have been seeing a guy for about 5months. We see eachother usually once every week and occasionally more. Things have been going extremely slowly but in a nice way. We hug and kiss and generally enjoy eachothers company, we exchanged Christmas presents etc. I have noticed that he seems to distance himself from time to time and he does not reply to texts very quickly or sometimes at all. The main thing that bothers me is that he does not return or even soemtimes acknowledge "I miss you" texts or if I say "looking forward to seeing you" he will just say see you soon in response. Part of me feels he's not that interested, or waiting for siemthing better to come along yet I wonder why he keeps meeting up with me after so long. When we meet we have a lovely time, laughing and joking and offering words of wisdom.I know that he has suffered with depression in the past and I understand that he sometimes struggles, but we do talk about this from time to time. I suppose what I'm asking is should I carry this on? I am really into him but I feel a fool when he 'rejects' me. I'm not that confident myself so having him do this makes me worse. I don't even know if we are official...Thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2015): Perhaps,you are falling in like with this guy to soon. Allow yourself time to learn his personality. My advice is to retract back to the I'm getting to know you phrase. Taking the chemistry you two share out of the equation. Start the question round again: what are your personal experiences, likes, and dislikes. Hopefully, you will learn an important clue about his attachment to women. That maybe will determine if he is Mr. Right after all.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 January 2015):
 Not everybody is comfortable communicating by text. Maybe he just doesn't know how to respond to the "I miss you" or "see you soon" texts, maybe, because they are not actually questions, he doesn't realise you are expecting a response, and you know, sometimes there just isn't anything to say. He possibly doesn't realise he is doing something that makes you feel worse.
Not answering texts is not rejections, you haven't said what he does, if a student or working, but it may also be difficult for him to respond at times, especially if he is employed or studying in class.
I think you need to relax a bit on this one, as long as you are bot enjoying each other's company the lack of a few texts here and there should not be too much of a big deal.
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