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writes:i gave my girlfriend a very expensive computer. after a month she broke up with me with an excuse that "she is very busy with all other stuff and she has no time for a relationship" is it ok if i tell her to give that computer back.? i gave her as a gift but it was not a birthday or any xmass gift, i saw her using an old computer so i bought it for her because she had an old computer. i loved her and wanted her to have the best of everything. i thought she loves me and cares for me. what should i do? i feel bad in asking for it back but when i think of that how easily she said that she cannot give me time she is too busy to even text me one time a day, it makes me angry that why i gave her that that.Should i get it back? please help
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reader, foxx +, writes (29 September 2011):
foxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust opened it up by chance. :) its very true that whatever doesn't kills you makes you stronger :)i am very happy that we separated and i am very happy and satisfied with my life right now.Thank you God and thank you all who helped me especially all of you who replied to my question.i love you all.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Call me crazy, but you think she would have offered to give it back to you since you guys weren't together that long.
Now if you wanted to be spiteful..If you had the receipt for the computer, you could could get the computer back and with legal force if she doesn't comply.
However, it is very bad manners (like the other aunts stated) to be an Indian giver. Really, if you got it back then it would be a constant reminder of your failed relationship. It's her property now. Next time, don't be so quick to buy lavish gifts for your girlfriend when you haven't been going dating all that long.
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reader, foxx +, writes (5 March 2011):
foxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni really appreciate everyone who is helping me right now. with every advice i get, my mind start thinking in a new direction. i will keep it posted for 7 days and hopefully i will make a right decision in light of your precious advices and will post the outcome of it for you my friends:)I LOVE YOU ALL FOR THIS. God Bless you all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): HiNo let her have it....you are worth more. Every time she uses it she will remember you....leave with a generous heart or it will turn on you. So what ....a brave man can walk away from any material goods and keep his inner goods, far more importantspunky monkey
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 CindyCares is right...Its in very bad taste to ask for a gift back. Once you've given it, its not yours anymore. And no one pointed a gun to your head and asked you to gift her an expensive computer. You did it because you wanted to. Irrespective of how she behaves with you now, you should never ask for anything back. And you know what, if you actually go ahead with this and ask for it and she throws it in your face, you would end up feeling even more rotten and like the MUCH smaller person.
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reader, foxx +, writes (5 March 2011):
foxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question*****Rescuer, we were together for 8 months.
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reader, yankit +, writes (5 March 2011):
a gift is a gift..you learned a lesson
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Are you kidding? No, you gave gifts... they were gifts and not returnable.But, you could ask and see what happens... tell her your new GF needs a PC...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (5 March 2011):
 No, don't . I understand you are angry and disappointed. She did not ask you for a computer, you offered it to her, of your own will and choice, and ( supposedly ) with no strings attached. You never told her " I'll give you this PC... if you stay with me at least 6 months " right ? Plus, once you decide to give a gift , and you part with the object, - it's not yours anymore. You want something that now belongs to her.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 No, most definitely DO ask for it back. It was a love gift - the love has gone, as she so callously has informed you - so everything reverts to the status quo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): No, despite your good intentions, I don't think you should ask for it back. After all, it was a gift. Would you ask a friend you no longer see to return things you'd given to them over the years?
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