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writes:One of my biggest fantasies is a foursome and recently some friends of my fiances saw my photo on his phone and basically asked straight out if we would consider doing a foursome as they love those kinds of things. The moment he came home he told me and had a laugh about it because he assumed we would never do something like that. After a while we started receiving emails from them quite literally begging for a foursome, they were even kind enough to email nude pics of the both of them and described what they would like to do and the stuff they are into. We have yet to reply to these emails and again all my fiance did was laugh at them even though at this point the thought had really turned me on. Even though they did not have the most attractive faces I still found myself fantasizing about him inside me and getting to play around with a woman, which I have never done before. She has an AMAZING body, she is also interested in using a strap on which appeals because I love dildos.I brought it up as a "joke" to test his reaction after one of the emails saying that I thought we should do it. He agreed to do it but said he wouldn't want to have sex with anyone but me and he was ok to do it if I wanted to do it as long as the entire night was about me. I knew he wasn't happy about it though so I said I was just kidding around to see what he would do.I'm not sure if he even believed me, the thought of a foursome is torturing me on one hand, but on the other, I would never want to ruin my relationship or have him think of me as a slut. I never usually masturbate but since this foursome has become an obsession I am doing it like 3 times a day sometimes. Please help me!! I don't know what to do!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Call me old-fashioned but I think when you feel the need to bring other people into your intimate relationship, something isn't right with the relationship. There's also an aspect of threesomes/group sex/swinging that to me, screams of finding a "justifiable" way to cheat. It also poses an *enormous* risk of jealousies and insecurities. I know a number of people who have done this and the reality didn't live up to the fantasy at all and needless to say, those relationships suffered. Fantasies are exciting most of the time because they're just that. Fantasies. Find other ways to spice up your sex life that aren't likely to jeopardise your relationship.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Let's just be clear here. Your boyfriend simply isn't there. It's not on for him, period, full stop. You can fantacize all you want, get off to the fantasy all you want. But he isn't into it, and to push the idea into reality is for him as he is today a deal breaker.
If this is a must-have for you, then you'll have to break up with him and do a three-some with them.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Your fantasy would just open a can of worms. You can convince yourself with all "successful" foursome stories if you want to, but it never really works out. You basically want it because its taboo; its giving you a thrill from the thought of walking on a razor's edge. Do it if you want, but keep in mind that if you slip and fall, its doomsday for your relationship. Dont equate yourselves with that other couple...they are the kind of people who are "into" this thing, they are in it for reasons of their own and its their way of thinking and acting. But you have never done this before and there's a reason why everyone here is telling you to steer clear of this idea.
You have a happy relationship, keep it that way with just the two of you in it. Dont ruin the rest of your life for this dangerous fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): I think this is one of those times a fantasy is best kept that way.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (4 March 2011):
Every person and every couple is different. I think most couples can't handle a threesome or foursome or whaeversome. Without knowing you nor your boyfriend I would recommend not to do that. Just in case.
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