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writes:Is sexting (sending sexually explicit texts/pics) cheating? A guy I know has been doing this with me on FB and to my cell phone. I found out he's engaged! So I have stopped responding because I feel it is disrespectful to his gf, but is it cheating? We have never met/actually done anything physical. And should I warn her? Thanks :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Yes its cheating. You did the right thing in putting an end to it.
As far as telling his girlfriend is concerned, dont do it. She might already know that her B/f is a creep and she chooses to keep quiet, OR she might completely not believe what you're saying if she trusts him, OR given that he's such a big loser, he might just turn the whole thing around on you, deny everything (obviously) and make you look like the one who's after him. And she's his girlfriend...she will most likely take his word for it.
Stay out of this mess. Cut off all contacts with this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Hi there,
I'm afraid that sexting is a form of cheating. However you call it, it is cheating. Why? Because sending explicit pictures of yourself and spending countless of times texting each other what you wish to do to them or talking "dirty" and "sexually" to each other should be reserved only to that one person you are exclusively in a relationship with. Here's a real scenario of that kind of situation you are talking about: 1)I have a friend who was married. 2)Her husband would email pictures of his private parts to women he met online and to his female coworkers. 3)He claims it's harmless however when my friend went on a trip to visit her family, instead of going with her, he stayed home and went to visit that one online friend that was well endowed and one thing led to another - a)the sexual affairs, b)her moving in with them because "she didn't have a place to stay", c)her making a move on my friend (she was not interested considering she was not bisexual and wasn't into women), d)her sleeping with my friend's husband and then getting pregnant and then my girlfriend's husband leaving her and getting a divorce so he can be with this now woman whom he met online and is now carrying his baby. It may seem harmless but you don't know how it'll end up. It may not go anywhere or it may be where you start communicating more and more and then end up meeting for coffee and who knows what. Don't do it. The wisest thing to do is end it. At least you found out now that he's taken. Move on. It is disrespectful.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (30 March 2011):
Any kind of sexual relations whether it be physical or though texts is cheating. You are right to stop responding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Yes, and yes you should tell her and show her the evidence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Yeah that is cheating! Why? because he has intent to be sexual with you in any way, regardless of what form i e internet, in person, etc. Youre so right for stopping. Nice job! Id tell his fiancee definitely and show her what he sent you! If she's mature, she will appreciate you coming forth and that you stopped cause you knew it was wrong. Approach her as in you care about the relationship and feel he broke her trust and that you think what he did was wrong, saying that and also confronting the woman would be a genuine to show that you do indeed believe what he has done is unethical and very wrong. Good luck on this.
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