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writes:Friends with benefits. What's your opinion? Do these kind of "relationships" always turn into something much more complicating? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aliceinunderland +, writes (26 March 2011):
Aliceinunderland is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just to verify, this was a general query, I've seen quite a few questions on here about FWB's. I am not looking for a FWB. Personally I think no strings attached just doesn't work. One nearly always falls for the other. Great inputs here guys, thanks.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 March 2011):
My experience on this site alone is that FWB do not work - especially in the case of women. Almost every person on here asking about a FWB relationship is a woman saying that she's fallen for a man. Sometimes it's the other way around, but not often. They can be a good way to just have fun, but they can also lead to a lot of pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): i've had friends with benefits before and if you make it very clear that you don't want a relationship with them, it usually goes smooth. you will always get the one that wont let go, but being honest with the person always keeps it easy. no heart breaks necessary :)
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reader, msnewbeginning  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 I do not believe friends with benefits is a good idea. Eventualy someone will begin catching feelings or getting jealous. If u have a great friendship do not mess it up for a few rounds of sex, its not worth it.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 FWBs' never work. You cant have sex with a friend...a sexual relationship with a "friend" negates the friendship right there. So what is one left with? No friend, no relationship, nothing.
People find these relationships convenient because they are with a "friend", someone who they're comfortable with. Its almost like a stop-gap arrangement...till I find someone else, I'l just have some fun with my "friend" with no strings attached. It sounds so easy on pen and paper but it becomes incredibly complicated. I personally just fail to understand why someone would want to get into an FWB thing... doesn't ever help and never will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): These have their fine lines. Before the people "mix" up, intentions must be clear and if not, things can get out of hand emotionally. Just know what each other wants out of said situation. good luck.
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reader, tigerlily189 +, writes (26 March 2011):
They definitely can... More especially at your age. But if you are just looking for the fun and don't ever have any emotional investment in the other person then they are a great way to have fun and experiment
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): My opinion on friends with benefits is dont do it. Especially at your age. One of the two always end up wanting more even if they say they dont and tell themselves that they dont. I have been with my guy for 4 1/2 years and we have both done a complete turn around. I went from not caring to falling in love with him and he has gone from being jealous of anyone that looked at me to caring about me but thats all.
Your feelings are so high at times and so low at others there is not much of the normal feelings that a relationship brings to you.
If you think you can live with it then have alook on other sites that deal with other women and such and here how their life turn out...not everyone is the same but the majority dont work out.
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reader, monacons  +, writes (26 March 2011):
YES definitly friendship and respect get thrown out the window, relationships and friendships ar to very diffrent things and should not be mixed up.. You could lose out in a good friendship for what the sake of 1 night ??
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