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writes:When my lady walked into my life, it was like a ray of sunshine, she was tall, elegant, graceful and very very beautiful with intelligence, so she should being a doctor. The second we met it was sparks, being a free spirit she didn't want a committed relationship but wanted a lover. As time went by this changed, now some 4 months have passed, her contract finished and she looked to move overseas. The strength of her mind is fantastic and second to none.She changed her mind about the overseas job after a visit there but has moved out of my home for a job down south.She is the perfect woman, has the looks, love yet being a very wealthy woman needs no man and her goal is very much towards work.The night before she left, she told me she loved me very deeply and I was always right about her wanting to settle down. Then she told me it was her way to move on and that I should also move on or I wouldn't meet another love of my life.Why do women say your a fantastic guy, the best lover they have ever met yet leave and say they need to move on?I left it a few days and text her, the reply was soft gentle and loving, her next text was the same but with the addition of It's beautiful with you but please find another sweet heart to love baby.I know by past fall out's and break up's that when she does want a real break up she is harsh and very much to the point.Q = is she looking for reassurance or does she really want to move on, I know we both love each other deeply and spent every second with each other, there was no hostile break up, just she simply left for another city yet wont answer her phone. I know she is highly stressed and needs time to adjust being away from me.Should I hold out or end it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): Dear person, the only reason a girl says this is because she is trying to break up with you in the easiest way possible...im sorry to be so honest but girls will tell guys that just so they don't come across as a horrible person. In all honesty this girl probably just got bored with ya'lls relationship and this was an easy way for her to end it.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Its really sad that something so good had to end. You sound like a very romantic man and millions of women would love a man like that in their lives. She seems like a go- getter girl and like some of the others have said, perhaps there were deeper issues. I do think one day though, she will remember what you two shared and look back with some regret for romantic loving men do NOT grow on trees (oh if only)
Money work and home are important, friends and acquaintances are important but love...true love is devine. Take comfort in the fact that you had it for a short while and my darling man, you will have it again...perhaps not from her but you will definitely find love again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): It is over for her. She has been kind to you in her own way, but made it clear you should move on. And so you must. The last thing you want is to pursue her and then get a total rebuff. You had a lovely time together, yes you would have loved it to continue and develop but its not going to. She is an independant woman and has made her choice. Start the healing process and set about getting on with your life without her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPs...ah I was renowned as the flower man at the hospital, I sent her beautiful flowers every week, the nurses want to marry me and the surgeons wanted to know who this charming elegant man... I opened doors for her, always opened my car door for her and loved her like no other man ever has, she left because it was the only job on offer... just an insight as to the romance we had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the beautiful replies, I may add that this lady has travelled the world on her own as have I, it's sad yes that one so soft gentle and beautiful left so quick, we were holding hands and making love the same night. I may add she is a very wealthy and hard working woman, nothing get's in her way of self improvement and work. Her job ending did destroy her inner self.I have text to ask if she wants to finish it but no reply as yet. Maybe she is also has the fear of me walking away for good as we had a very powerful relationship. She is the type to go quiet for months and then text me thinking nothing has changed, her men have always being very strong willed and minded.Thanks for the reply ladies
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Well women say that because for some thats the perfect way of saying goodbye without letting the other person down. I mean, as it is break-ups and good byes' are tough, and saying good things about the other person just lessens the impact. Its like saying, "Its not you, its me", or, "you deserve someone so much better than me". We all know what that means.
She left for another city, she wont answer the phone. She doesn't want to be in touch with you. Dont rationalize it with being stressed and wanting time to adjust. She has moved on.Period. If a girl wants to call you, she will call you from Mars.
Sorry but you need to move on.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Well, some men say this to women while leaving them too.
No, this woman is only sugar coating her good bye but she means only one thing 'goodbye', that's all. Otherwise, she wont be leaving and would still be with you now.
The thing is, people break-up with their partners in different ways and strategies. This time, this is how a break-up is being said to you. Try to pursue her more and later she will start being harsh on you if you wont stop. While you are still sweet to each other, start moving on.
And anyway, you don't deserve a woman like that, you need someone better who wont ever leave you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): I agree, there are clearly some other underlying issues asides from the geography.Break ups are hard at both ends. Women and men can spend weeks over analysing details of a relationship before they decide to break up or not that is why your lady told you how much she deeply loved you. It probably wasn't the best thing to tell you at a time like this but atleast she is clearing up issue of doubting whether she ever loved you or felt serious about you.
Women don't purposely love you and leave you. I just think they are more likely to weigh up what they have and whether the realationship is taking more than what they are receiving. Not all women do this so try not to tarnish us all with the same brush.
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reader, Rose_red_09 +, writes (31 March 2011):
Gosh - I really feel for you :-(((
I guess with some people - their actions just become a habitual state, there is sometimes no ryhme or reason but they prefer to live their life according to what they actually feel comfortable doing and what they know. They may have the urge to fight it but ultimately - there is comfort in their routine behavior.Maybe its a simple as just not ever wanting to commit to anyone no matter how amazing they maybe.
Your heart my pine for her but I really do think that you need to somehow move on too. I know this is not easy and who knows what the future holds but it really is best to have no expectations.
Take care.
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