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Archived questions from: December, 2013 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

I feel so guilty about how I act, but how to communicate this to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4014 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - I always feel like i am being used for sex. I know rationally this isn't true, but I can't help feeling that way and it ruins all of my relationships. I was in an extremely manipulative relationship from 15-20 in which I was definitely used ...

He doesn't mention me on facebook so I don't feel special to him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4014 days ago

31 December 2013 (F) - So I don't know if I'm being paranoid or what. But i have been dating my boyfriend for a year. We both have a Facebook and there's something really bothering me. He doesn't mention me or anything about me on there. It bothers me because all the ...

Was she trying to make me jealous?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4014 days ago

31 December 2013 (M) - Hey, So my problem is this, at a flat party a year ago I drunkenly made out with a girl I work with. Afterwards I told her I liked her however she had just ended a relationship and said she didn't feel ready for another one yet. So a year has pa...

Now that she appears to have moved on I miss her in my life.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4013 days ago

31 December 2013 (M) - Can someone help me understand this. I broke up with this girl about 7 months ago and I wont go into what happened and why I ended it. But it wasn't a nice break up, I ended it in a terrible way, unintentionally of course but as a result I was a j...

Should I encourage our kids to reach out to my ex's side of the family during this crisis?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4015 days ago

30 December 2013 (?) - My ex and I have been separated for 3 and half years, there have been many women and of course lots of hard drama. This last woman has been quite a challenging event with her many harrassing messaging, fake accounts to contact. Its been quite ...

I hurt my ex badly. Could he be trying to hurt me back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4013 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - I am in a serious emotional roller coaster dilemma. I am currently in Switzerland with my ex and battling emotional issues. Well we met 15yrs ago. He was nothing but nice to me. Although I took advantage of him and didn't really care because ...

How do I find balance in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4011 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) - Ive been with my partner now 10 months. He is great with my son who Is 5 yrs old and we live together now.we seem to get into arguments because of me I admit that.i have a very hard time letting go over some past things and I no that I shouldnt be ...

My girlfriend's previous lovers made her come but I can't seem to

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4015 days ago

29 December 2013 (M) - Hello Aunts! I am a 20 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for over a year now. She is the only woman I have ever been intimate with. My problem is that I cannot make her orgasm except by rubbing her clit and she is getting very...

I work with my ex-boyfriend's new fiancée and hearing about their perfect life together is painful for me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4016 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - Me and my teenage sweetheart were together for 5 years when he broke up with me by text. Although we have been apart 2 years i really miss him. To make matters worse i work with his new girlfriend on a daily basis and he has just asked her to marry...

My ex's friend said he fancies me more than my ex does!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4016 days ago

29 December 2013 (F) - I got a text from my ex a couple of days ago saying "I want you. I love you. ", and he said it was him texting me, and he was using his friend's phone. He has used his friends phone to text me before when he has no credit on his phone. I also got a ...

Is this a mid life crisis or can men change so quickly?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4016 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - I had casually been seeing a guy for a year, I wanted a relationship but he didn't as he "doesn't have relationships" and I know this to be true. He had his life and I had mine, we never went out, only saw each other behind closed doors (again his ...

He has been lying to me for two years, and I don't know what to do.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - me n my partners relationship is really rocky at the moment as alot of things have gone on n im on the verge of breaking up with him, we have 2 children so im scared. i found out from him something about his past......he was an escort.....people ...

She's no good but I can't stop loving her.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4017 days ago

28 December 2013 (M) - I've no idea what to do? I feel like I've tried everything. I met a girl years ago who I thought was the woman of my dreams. She's beautiful, and she's been successful in life. I discovered she was cheating and as a result we split up. For...

I love him so how can I tell him I am not ready for marriage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4017 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - I've been with the same guy for three years. I love him very much, but like most young love we have problems. A few months ago he told me he didn't love me anymore, we didn't talk for 2 or 3 weeks but like always we kissed and made up. All of a ...

He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4009 days ago

28 December 2013 (F) - Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...

Problems from my past are affecting sex and love in the present!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4018 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - my man would like to have sex with lights on and be able to see me naked ,but I don't have any confidance in how I look I am 45 but am a size 10 ,but have issues from a rape yrs ago and in my marrage when I tried to spice things up in bedroom dept ...

What's the best advice on how to read men? I want to understand this man's intentions better

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4017 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Hello, I went out last night and bumped into a guy i dated for about a month 2 years ago. Just wondering if you could help me understand 2 little things. 1. Him, his friends and I were talking, I cant remember the conversation topic, but he sa...

Ex-wife running my down to our kids and they're treating me disrespectfully

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

27 December 2013 (M) - I have been going through a tough time as of late I am married for a second time and my ex wife is married as well. Recently she started running me down to my two oldest kids my oldest daughter lives out of state and I talk to her as often as I can ...

Does my ex still like me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - I got a text from my ex last night saying "I want you. I love you. ", and he said it was him texting me, and he was using his friend's phone. He has used his friends phone to text me before when he has no credit on his phone. I also got a text from ...

My married man loves me but can't be with me

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4009 days ago

27 December 2013 (F) - Please bear with this long story. I am unmarried and in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I recently moved to a different country and there I met a guy friend. We both are aware of our situation from the very beginning when we first ...

Why is he keeping me in his life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4019 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - Merry Xmas to you all, and thank u in advance for reading this. I don't know if my situation is rectifiable or not, so if anybody can help me sort this one I will be truly grateful and if I'm being honest kind of surprised! I know there doesn't so...

Am I overthinking because of guilt or did he really care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I had been dating my ex-bf for 8 months before he dumped me saying "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's going anywhere.". when I asked him if he figured he wanna break up with me two weeks before (which is when I felt like he started becoming ...

After one awful attempt at sex with my ex, how do I prepare for my current boyfriend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4017 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I recently entered a new relationship after being in a long term one for the majority of high school. I had sex once with my ex, to be blunt it was awful. I couldn't even feel him inside of me because there was so much pain. We were intimate ...

After his cruel and bewildering attack it is as if I never existed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4019 days ago

26 December 2013 (F) - I was married for 19 years, no children, knew my ex for 22 years. He filed for divorce and i was not aware of anyone else on the scene. I got to hear about divorce not from him but solicitors email to me... I returned home to a half empty house. He ...

Is it better for me to forgive my ex or hate him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4019 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - I was with my ex for 4 years(including 2 years LDR). We're in different countries. We planned to meet after he graduated from graduate school and while we're dating, he gave me commitment and talked about getting married. He dumped me 6 months ago, ...

I feel like a weird stalker, which I never was!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4019 days ago

25 December 2013 (F) - Really need help so low I can't get over this guy because of how he treated me Ok 2 years ago we were working together he helped me through personal problems and we became close friends he was texting up to 100 a day sending poems etc - we never h...

I can't get over my wife's sordid sexual past

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

25 December 2013 (M) - I am dealing with some issues with my wife's sexual past, I dont know how many she was with but I know it was between 15 and 25. She lied about being with my friend when I asked her about a month after we started dating. She later told me they were ...

He could be selfish and just a bit controlling .....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4021 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - Hey, I'm in need of some advice on a man I'm in a relationship with. We have only been together officially for just over a month and were dating only just under a month before then. We fell for each other pretty quickly and have told each other we ...

He says he cares for me, but doesn't love me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4020 days ago

24 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we've been dating for two months. We were hook up bbuddies for about a month before that though, with me being used as a rebound, and me using him cause I was horny. After we had sex (he was a virgin, I was not) we ...

I'm afraid that when my girlfriend does overcome her abusive ex she'll be attracted to his type again

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4018 days ago

24 December 2013 (M) - We've been together a year now and in our mid-twenties. She was raised very strict and about 8 months before I met her ended a 2 year relationship with your typical "bad boy" who treated her horribly, pretty much abuse from what I know. I ment...

Why does my boyfriend remain friends with people who have treated him badly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4021 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Our relationship is great except for something that I've noticed and I'm not really sure if it's that big of a problem but it does bother me. He remains friends with people who have hurt him an...

I can't bear the thought of him kissing another girl!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - Do you think that kissing is cheating? When I was with my ex, I would have firmly said no - I really didn't think kisses meant that much and weren't personal, I kissed other people and he did too, it was never sober or with the same person more...

I love her but I want to move on now. How can I make this happen?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4022 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone. Merry Christmas to you all, and thank you for taking time to read this. I will keep it as brief as I can, but I could really do with some help and guidance here. I initially met the love of my life 3 years ago (just to clarify, we...

Will he always be a cheater?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - So I have met this guy through one of my coworkers a year and a half ago and we went out for drinks and he quoted ur "beautiful" and I said thank you and didnt make a move since he had a gf and obviously he lives in New York and I live in Boston. ...

My boyfriend informed me he'll be spending New Year's Eve with his friends and their wives

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

23 December 2013 (F) - We have been dating for ten months, we had a fight last week that I was mad at him for not doing much with me. So we make up and have a great weekend together and I ask him what we are doing for new years and he said he is going out with his frie...

I've always wanted to be with her but now she is damaged goods

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

23 December 2013 (M) - Hi, ive been trying to see some one, but she's working alot of over time right now, so thats her excuse for not calling or texting. We gone out a couple times in the last two months, we were talking alot, an texting, but not now, ive been trying ...

He left when they were babies, and now wants to be "dad"!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

22 December 2013 (F) - I live in (MOD NOTE: City was deleted for privacy) Florida and have 3 daughters; twins [non-identical] aged 23 and a 19-year-old daughter who is their half-sister born to my husband (the twins' stepdad). The twins were born in 1989, and the father ...

His ex wife wants him back!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4022 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...

How To Get Through The Holidays After A Breakup

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3971 days ago

21 December 2013 (?) - It is approaching the Holidays and the New Year, and many of us ended relationships in the year 2013. Some of you have been single following a breakup for a lot longer; but you start to reminisce about the good old times, when you were all cozy with ...

I feel uncomfortable that my B/f''s ex is still a part of his little sisters life as well as his

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4024 days ago

21 December 2013 (F) - Wondering what people think of this because I find it kind of odd. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. My boyfriend has a little sister who is 5. When him and his ex girlfriend dated for 2 years, she became really close to his littl...

Do you think it's okay to wish my ex Happy Christmas next week?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4024 days ago

20 December 2013 (M) - I dated someone I was really keen on for a couple of months, however she broke up with me because I had to move away. She said an LDR was too hard and she wanted to be friends as she said I was still important to her. I got annoyed and we didn't end ...

I thought I had moved on fully, until my ex told me he is doing the same. How to cope with these mixed feelings?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3933 days ago

20 December 2013 (F) - My divorce was just finalized a few weeks ago, and my ex husband just told me today he plans to introduce our son to someone. I'm experiencing confusing feelings. Mostly, I feel angry because he only sees our son twice a month and I don't understand ...

Still sleeping with my ex but don't feel guilty for sleeping with others as well

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

19 December 2013 (F) - Hi- I'm currently single, but i'm still sleeping with and hanging out with my ex-boyfriend. We act very much as a couple, and still say I love you to each other, but we ended the relationship for good reasons, hence we are hesitant about rushing ...

Should I ask my boyfriend about his ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

18 December 2013 (F) - I'm in a kind of confusing situation. When my boyfriend and I first started dating I know he was still talking to his ex girlfriend all of the time and at that time I thought he maybe still had feelings for her, despite him saying he didn't. ...

Partner and I together for 6 years but feel so trapped. And I am pregnant. What do I do about my feelings for my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4026 days ago

18 December 2013 (F) - I have been with my partner 6 years.start of this year innocently I sent a message to a ex on fb about something simple and things just escalated from there. We started being in same places at same times etc as meeting when we could,even slee...

I am obsessing over his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4028 days ago

17 December 2013 (?) - Hello, I've been dating a guy for around 6 months now and I am completely in love with him. He is unlike anyone I have ever met before. I would even go as far as to say that he is my ideal man. My background is that I was in a 7 year relations...

My boyfriend mentioned my ex's name.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4027 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - This morning i asked my bf if he liked that i said his name during sex and he said he did. That it was much better then saying ( ex name) or something else. I thought it was super weird that he said my ex name since ive never mentioned it to him. ...

Is it ever a good idea to get back together with an ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4028 days ago

17 December 2013 (F) - Do any of you think it's ever a good idea to get back with an ex? I broke up with my ex in February (after we had been together for a year) and starting in June we had about 6 months of no contact. (fyi, he's 29 and i'm 23) Neither one of u...

How do I tell him that I don't love him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4028 days ago

16 December 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend and I are very close. We dated for almost two years in college and have both been with other people afterwards. We recently started seeing each other again, I was under the impression that it would be a casual relationship and have ...

He wants to split EVERY expense we incur as a couple and it's causing problems in our relationship

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4027 days ago

16 December 2013 (F) - Help needed!! My boyfriend of 6 months ls all for equality to the point that it makes me miserable. Before anyone says that I probably like when guys pay for me, let me give you a little background. We both young professionals , I am 5 y...