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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we've been dating for two months. We were hook up bbuddies for about a month before that though, with me being used as a rebound, and me using him cause I was horny. After we had sex (he was a virgin, I was not) we started to date. I know he really likes me as, he's told me multiple times and makes it really obvious. The problem is he has told me me twice now that he isn't in love with me. The fist time was over text abut a month ago,while we were dicussing our relationship. He basically said he cared about me, but didnt think he was ready to love someone again and wanted me to be prepared for that. (He was madly in love with his ex but she was horrible to him) The second time we were drunk and were fighting and he said he didnt love me, and I said I didn't love him, because I wan't ready to love someone either after my ex. He also told me he didnt love his ex anymore though. So he doesn't love me and I don't love him but we both care about each other a lot. The thing is I could see myself falling in love with him (eventually)and I dont want to if he's not going to love me back. My friends think he's confused and hurt and could fall in love with me... But is it worth staying with him and hoping he'll fall for me, or am I doomed to be hurt? Again I'm not in love with him, but I think I'm on my way there.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 December 2013):
 This sounds like a train wreck in the works
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 December 2013):
 For such a young relationship there sure is a lot of baggage here.
Who know what the future holds, but my guess is it doesn't hold much for this arrangement.
I don't have a whole lot of patience for people who use fear of being hurt as an excuse to exploit others. 'I'm happy to eat whatever you cook but don't expect me to pay the bill'. Please. Who hasn't been hurt before? Seriously. Does he think he alone has been injured while the rest of us float by on a cloud impervious to pain?
If you think you might develop feelings for this guy, then heed his warning and get out now.
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