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writes:Hi, ive been trying to see some one, but she's working alot of over time right now, so thats her excuse for not calling or texting. We gone out a couple times in the last two months, we were talking alot, an texting, but not now, ive been trying really hard to be nice. her last relationship, was very abusive, but that been many years, she has said some mean things to me, but I still want to try. She gets off at midnight, how hard is it to send a small text, just to say hi. She always brings up his name, I keep saying am not him. for her birthday, flowers an poems, open car doors, a gift, am very romantic kind of guy.We known each other since we were kids, I have always like her, I thought this was my chance to be with the woman of my dreams, but she making this very hard. i am trying but she thinks am like her ex, or am going to be like him.should I stay, or walk away? I feel like my heart will be broken.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (23 December 2013):
 Thats my issues Im damaged mean and not at this time to interested in a relationship so Im selfish. Why is it someone wants to be involved deeply with me at this time. Im not doing much calling or texting and nobody is to me that ckearly shows Im trying to get my life and get my damaged emotions and health together. I have aloy going in people saying this doing that but Im to blame so if I not dealing or dating then I can truly now blame myself sense everybody saids Im the one to blame. I want to sort through my blame myself term to blame myself fully. Im in my early years still and not trying to be caught up with dead weight or people who think Im damaged goods. I would say find some undamaged goods go from there. Life is about being with someone thats you like even if its damaged or not. If you can fix it fix it if not move on .
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 December 2013):
 I think you are the only one rowing this relationship boat.
she's going along for the ride because it's better than being alone but she's making it clear to you that your not her first choice and if he came back she's leave...
are you sure you want this emotional abuse? is she really worth the abuse?
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (23 December 2013):
 I'm sorry.
I think she is hurt and terrified.
I think that through her own pain and fear she can not see you clearly.
I think you should write her a note that says : I want to love you, but I can't if you don't let me"
It would be really romantic if you left flowers too. and maybe add "goodbye"
Then walk away. Let her make.the decision if she wants to heal. You've got to let the birdie go, and only.if it comes.back is it yours
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 December 2013):
It sounds like she's not interested in a relationship. If she was she wouldn't be making it so difficult.
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