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*laire2225
writes:I have been with my partner 6 years.start of this year innocently I sent a message to a ex on fb about something simple and things just escalated from there.We started being in same places at same times etc as meeting when we could,even sleeping next to each other 2 nights but nothing at all happened because we know it was so wrong.We are both friends with the same crowd and it would have affected so many people.Anyways couple people starting asking questions so I ended up telling my partner that this guy and I were texting but it was all innocent although certain people did not think so.He believed me but then things just got more complicated and I decided I wanted a break so he moved out for a while.After month or so he said if he could not move back it was over for good.I still did not know what I wanted and I had strong feeling for my ex again.I let him come back and stopped talking to ex but it's now been 8 months and I still can't forget him and don't feel I can talk to any of my friends.im now pregnant and due to get married next year.To the outside world we are so happy, just I am not. When my ex and I were together we were young and only seemed to want casual relationship, but once we got talking again we both confessed we did want more Back then just was both scared to say/do anything about.I still have to see him all the time and he don't know I'm feeling like this I just feel so trapped :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2013): Agree with iAHTHY and SVC but must point out that soon-to-be ex-boyfriend is still going to be in your life for at least the next eighteen years as the only father your child is ever going to have, and there is a very good possibility that when you do contact your current ex he may not want to take on a package deal with another man's kid given that baby daddy enjoys the same parental rights as you and therefore is also included in the package.
Unfortunately you've allowed yourself to get into a situation where your needs/wants no longer come first, you now have to consider what is in your unborn child's best interests and act accordingly. Your tangled love life should be well down the list of your priorities.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 December 2013):
 I agree with Iamheretohelyou..
break the engagement, leave the fiance, get your life and the life of your baby together then contact the ex and say "let's give this a whirl"
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (19 December 2013):
 You are marrying the BF for the wrong reasons. Why did you fall pregnant in the midst of uncertainty. The answer was staring you in the face, you want your ex back but afraid of the unknown and scared to take the risk. Your BF is your fall back plan/comfort zone.
This is not fair to him and you will spend the rest of your married life pining for the ex.
I suggest a heart to heart talk is required between you and the ex, to clear the way forward. I am not going to suggest marrying your BF because you are pregnant, because this will destroy 3 peoples life. You need to make some strong bold decisions so peoples life are not ruined over this.
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