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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

Is my ex my soul mate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I am 28 years old. I lived for 2 years with my fiance in that time,we NEVER MARRIED because after giving me the engagement ring, he realized he was not 100% sure about marrying me, according to him because of the age gap,he is 57 years old now and ...

Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?...

I'm beginning to think she isn't ready to date. All I want is to get to know her a bit better!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - I pretty much know the anser to this but want some feedback! About three months ago I met a girl and it was an instant connection, something I have not felt in awhile. She was in a stifling relationship so we just met out a couple times not...

My ex is sleeping with his girlfriends best mate

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone Well my ex bf is now like my best friend we get on really well even if we do have are little tiffs, But basically he has a gf who is pregnant and i slept with him once after that and it hasnt happened since as i felt guilty even th...

You don't know what you've got until its gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5522 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon ...

Was I right to break up with him over abortion?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I was on here recently discussing an issue I was having with my boyfriend of six months. He doesn't like to spend time with my family and friends, and said he doesn't want to. http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

How can he end things with her without hurting her? I want us to be together.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - 4 yrs ago I was dating a guy named Jay, we had a great relationship and we loved each other very much. We ended up breaking up because I was moving across country for work. We kept in touch and remained friends. During the next few yrs he went ...

Do you think she'll give me another chance even though I cheated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - me and my ex met wen i was 18 and she was 16 we was going out for about six months wen she told me she loved me and i felt the same but about a month later one of her friends started texting me and we became close i ended up seeing both of them on ...

His past is littered with ex girlfriends and I'm scared!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I was hoping someone might lend some insight to this -- I've been someone who has been rather picky about relationships and most have been all very serious. I will go out on first dates but if I don't see a potential first dates turn into last ...

She's the love of my life but do I need to quit kidding myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, in the main its been great, travelled the world together, have lots of fun and hang out all the time. Then out of the blue she said she needed space. We are both at college far away for away from each ...

I feel like my ex is just using me now...how do I get over him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My ex broke up with me after 5 years together about 6 months ago. We had been together since I was 17. We've been sleeping together pretty much since we broke up. In the beginning he would say things like "You're a girl I'm thinking about marrying ...

Why don't guys like to talk about feelings or their exs?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - why don't guys like to open up and talk about their ex or talk about feelings in general? My guy recently broke up with his girlfriend of 8 months (i think it was because of me and the fact it was a long distance relationship) but he still say...

It really hurts that he could move on so quick! How can I get over this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi there. i broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago due to him having feelings for this other girl. for the past 3 weeks we have been keeping in touch and he still told me that he loved me. however he has just started going out with this new girl(the ...

He cant get over his ex fiancee and wont let me in

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - okay, so my boyfriend and i broke up 4 days ago. This is a really confusing story - so try to stick with me... I moved back to my home town, after living in the city for 3 months, and when i got home, my bestfriend - Whitney* and i hung out ...

Is my relationship falling apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok first off let me start by saying I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months, we dated a little before but we have been "official" for 3 months. We started going out back in the summer and everything was great! We saw each other every day and ...

How do I get this horrible night with my ex out of my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I didnt think id need help with this because i had been doing so well..but now i feel like crap:( please help find a way to finally get over this feeling. i have been broken up with my ex since the begging of the year and he has a new gf but we ...

We just broke up and he's dating my best friend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5523 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - So, i need some help. My and my boyfriend of 6 months just broke up and now he's dating my best friend. I have to see him with her everyday since i have no other social connections. We broke up saturday while she was over at his house they started ...

Will their marriage last?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My ex husband left me for another woman and she got pregnant while we were in the middle of our divorce. Does anyone think think the marriage will last?...

Am I overreacting to her relationship with her ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I would like some opinion on what kind of interactions should be considered OK between Ex-es if they are both in other relationship already? Some back story: My gf and I has been together for almost 2 years now, we have a great relationship and...

New girl wants my relationship status on facebook to change but I don't want to hurt my ex!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm unsure what to do. I've started seeing a girl, and straight away she wants me to change my relationship status on Facebook to "In A Relationship". Now, before you believe that THAT is my problem then please let me continue! Over t...

Why would my ex make a big scene with his new partner in front of me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Why would my ex bf get off and make big scene with his new partner in front of me in bar, when we bumped into each other? But couldn't stop starring across in my direction all night, and giving evils to the person i was out with that night, who...

Should I go for the new or hold out for the old?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I am pregnant and 28. My new ex is 49. I have a met a new man who is 34. Anyway I don't know what to do about this. I have not been with the new man yet and am taking it extra slow. I want my ex back but he has ignored me for 5 wks now. So there ...

Why does he want me back when he clearly couldnt accept me the way I am?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My ex bf just told me he wants me back, but he is the one who broke up with me in the first place. During out relationship he was always pointing out all the things that he didnt like in me, such as my values and beleiefs and just generally my per...

If she really does love me surely she would be telling me more often?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - i told my girlfriend i loved her a couple of nights ago in bed. She replyed " do you? I love you 2". she said she had been thinking it for a while. i was thinking maybe it was too early to tell her as wev only been together about a month and a ha...

Should I tell my ex why I'm mad at him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - So my cheating ex who has not talked to me in 8months and blocked me from everything...facebook, yahoo, games we played, his cell decided to contact me 2 weeks ago it started with a friend and on yahoo well then he started texting me and talkin...

Goint right into a relationship after ending a 3 year relationship with first love

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I don't know if i am over the man of my past relationship that just ended so abruptly, he is very bitter about it but we had so much because it was first love. Do you agree you will always be attached to your first love? When ever i am ...

Everyone is saying "just get over it" but its not that easy to do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My ex and I dated for a few years, he told me he wanted to be alone and didnt want a relationship. Ive recently found out he is actually seeing another girl now, I dont know what to do. I am so angry but mostly confused and I want answers from him ...

My daughter told me she was abused by my ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My daughter who is now 18 years old, told me last night that my ex-husband sexually abused her when she was 12 years old. I need help! Can we still press charges against this sexual abuser? The incident occured in New York. Can we presecute him? ...

How do I become more selfless in a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for close to a year and a half. We are in our mid-twenties, and we have talked often about getting engaged soon and getting married. In other words, we're in a pretty serious and committed relationship. We have b...

What could my ex possible want from me after all this time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - A couple of years back my ex left me and our kids to move in with another guy. It was pretty messy and she hasn't really had anything to do with the kids since. Now she's emailed me asking me to meet with her to talk and I really don't know what to ...

I want my ex back but there are 2 other girls involved now

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5524 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Hi I known my ex for 6 years and we've dated for 1 year and 5 months... recently we both entered college. my ex took a levels and that ment homwork everylesson it got to the point where i was only seeing him once a week and hardly ever getting t...

My ex was sick and I ignored him was that bad?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - My ex and I had just started being friendly after months of being bitter to each other after our break-up. The other day, I asked him thru text about the shop where he bought his car. Then he replied to explain a few things then said to me he is...

Should I wish my ex-girlfriend happy birthday?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. It’s been two months since I broke up with my GF. Her birth day is around the corner and im in a fixed whether to wish her birthday or not. if yes, then I would be more than obliged to hear from u guys that ...

Are my resentful thoughts called for and how long should I allow myself to recover?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - My partner left me after 18 years together. Three weeks later I found out that she was with someone else. She wasnt upset in anyway and ended it with a twn minute coversation in a supermarket coffee shop with her friend sat next to her. It really ...

Any chances we could get back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - 1 month and 5 days ago.. my boyfriend broke up with me, his feelings changed.. he says. im still in love with him. and we still talk till this day and we still see each other.. we don't act like friends though when were around.. and we've been ...

Can't stop thinking of girl from boyfriend's past!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I can't stop thinking about this girl that has caused so many problems between my boyfriend and me. He said he doesn't talk to her anymore (he chose this) when I asked him one day out of curiousity. But that was during mid-summer. Lately, I've had ...

Girlfriend sitll has feelings for abusive ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been going out for about 2 months now. I like her a lot but there's something that concerns me and makes me think that maybe I should call this quits, for my own mental well being. She was previously in a ...

Is he still with his ex? Am I the other woman?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - He told me that him and his ex are over, but they have a kid together. We've been together 6 months, but I've noticed a few things: 1. He told me he doesn't have MySpace page. But I found it- He's logged in very recently, and he's had it for ov...

Why can't I just move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I'm finding it really difficult to get over my first love... the only guy I've ever been in love with. To begin with, it wasn't an official relationship due to long-distance circumstances but I ended up falling for him. In the few months that we ...

Have you ever obsessed over your EX wifes/GFs NEW boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

26 September 2009 (M) - I know we hear about it on the news or from friends at a get together but why do men after we have blown many opportunities with the a wife/GF, why do we obsess with her. After a divorce or break-up and especially after finding out that that have a ...

Broke up, now talking again, but unsure where its going?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I was with my ex for 2 years. It was a great relationship.. everything was perfect. He treated me great and we were really serious. However, we are both too young (20 and 21) to get as serious as things were progressing. Basically, we broke up ...

I'm acting like a psycho ex girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hi again aunts and uncles, im in real need of help. I am staring to hate the way im behaving right now. I recently ended a relationship, and instead of acting mature i act like a total jerk sometime: I call him and ask him stupid questions, i fight ...

Do I give my ex bf another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I asked for advice at the beginning of this year when i had split with my ex boyfriend. I was in heartache and agony and was spiralling out of control, i had lost over a stone in weight when i discovered he'd been texting other women. this all ...

Was my exgirlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. My gut feeling always had this thought that she was cheating on me. She had a facebook account for almost one year but she disclosed this on me in the first week o...

A check into his emails brings up many inappropriate texts between him and his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - What to do? Last night in a fit of temper following an argument with my boyf, i decided to go through his SMS inbox behind his back. at the time i justified it to myself by telling myself it was ok because he had done this to me in the past, and...

Ex: Would he tell me that he loved me if he didn't?

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25 September 2009 (F) - ok so me and my ex split up about 3 weeks ago due to him having feelings for another girl. it was me that ended it because i just couldn't go on knowing he liked someone else. since then we have kept in touch and he claims that he still loves me but ...

Help me win back the man I adore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - For almost 2 years I had a wonderful relationship with a beautiful man. Even when he became an Air Force Officer and we had to do the long distance thing for over a year we remained very close and would visit each other frequently. We both have ...

How do you get your ex back when he is in another country?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - how do you get your ex back?when he's in another country? now i know some of you would say:why do you want him back?or he's not worth trying..and blablabla... but i know for a fact that this is what i really want..i know he has feelings for me b...

Guys: Do you still think of your ex when in relationship with someone else?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Just a qucik question to the guys who come here! Do you still think about your ex gf's or ex wives whilst you are in a relationship? If so how, when and why? Thanks :)...

We are both married but I can't move on from the ex after 8 years

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5527 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - He is my soulmate and i love him so much. i dont see myself loving someonelse,i hev tried but failed because i think of him all the time and he tells me he misse me too.Right i started dating this guy wen i was 18years old we loved each other so ...